Lost self esteem & confidence

[Pilsen]

Is there anything spiritual I can do to help me regain my general confidence and self esteem in life. I feel like it has been shattered due to events in the past few years.

Is the Rosary the best way? Any saints that could specially help?

I feel like I have been conquered by the world because of it.

Thank you.

 

[hazcompat]

TRUSTFUL SURRENDER TO DIVINE PROVIDENCE
by St. Claude de la Colombiere

When God sends us trials

If you would be convinced that in all He allows and in all that happens to you God has no other end in view but your real advantage and your eternal happiness, reflect a moment on all He has done for you; you are now suffering, but remember that the author of this suffering is He who chose to spend His life suffering to save you from everlasting suffering, whose angel is always at your side guarding your body and soul by His order, who sacrifices Himself daily on the altar to expiate your sins and appease His Father’s anger, who comes lovingly to you in the Holy Eucharist and whose greatest pleasure is to be united to you. We must be very ungrateful to mistrust Him after He has shown such proofs of His love and to imagine that He can intend us harm. But, you will say, this blow is a cruel one, He strikes too hard. What have you to fear from a hand that was pierced and nailed to the cross for you? – The path I have to tread is full of thorns. If there is no other to reach heaven by, do you prefer to perish forever rather than to suffer for a time? Is it not the same path He trod before you out of love for you? Is there a thorn in it that He has not reddened with His own blood? – The chalice He offers you is a bitter one. But remember that it is your Redeemer who offers it. Loving you as He does, could He bring Himself
to treat you so severely if the need were not urgent, the gain not worthwhile? Can we dare to refuse the chalice He has prepared for us Himself?

Reflect

olrl.org/snt_docs/trustful/

Peace

 

[hazcompat]

You might also try

The consoling thoughts of St. Francis de Sales

Peace

 

[peace2u2]

Is there anything spiritual I can do to help me regain my general confidence and self esteem in life. I feel like it has been shattered due to events in the past few years.

Is the Rosary the best way? Any saints that could specially help?

I feel like I have been conquered by the world because of it.

Thank you.

Pray, read Scripture and participate in the Mass. Go to confession - it is such a beautiful experience especially when we our hearts are so heavy. Ask God to heal your soul. He loves you so much.

I know that when my soul was in desperate need of healing, I devoured Scripture and read the Catechism and really felt God’s presence in my life:

universalis.com/mass.htm

livingspace.sacredspace.ie/

usccb.org/beliefs-and-teachings/what-we-believe/catechism/catechism-of-the-catholic-church/epub/index.cfm

You are in my prayers:

Hail Mary,
Full of Grace,
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit
of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of death.
Amen.

 

[Country_Gal]

Start an exercise program. Some women at work are doing crossfit. It seems to build their confidence. Zumba is another one I hear about.

 

[nuntym]

• JMJ +

Is there anything spiritual I can do to help me regain my general confidence and self esteem in life. I feel like it has been shattered due to events in the past few years.

Is the Rosary the best way? Any saints that could specially help?

I feel like I have been conquered by the world because of it.

Thank you.

I would say, maybe to the horror of some people here, that your loss of self confidence and self esteem may be good, for now you can start on building your confidence in God.

Read the first chapter of The Spiritual Maxims to see what I mean: catholictreasury.info/books/spiritual_maxims/mx1.php

 

[detoutcoeur]

Is there anything spiritual I can do to help me regain my general confidence and self esteem in life. I feel like it has been shattered due to events in the past few years.

Is the Rosary the best way? Any saints that could specially help?

I feel like I have been conquered by the world because of it.

Thank you.

Entrust yourself completely to the Blessed Mother.

You might like Fr. Gaitley’s 33 Days to Morning Glory: http://www.catholiccompany.com/33-days-to-morning-glory-p1003118/?sku=1003118&AID=178&utm_source=google&utm_medium=products&utm_campaign=33+Days+to+Morning+Glory&gclid=COWVyfG7_7cCFdGd4AodPFQAPw#video

Praying for you…
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O most beautiful Flower of Mount Carmel, Fruitful Vine, Splendor of Heaven,
who brought forth the Son of God, still remaining a Virgin, assist us in this necessity.
O Star of the Sea, help us, and show us that you are our Mother.

O Holy Mary, Mother of God, Queen of Heaven and earth, I humbly ask you from the depths of my heart for help in this necessity. There are none who can withstand your power.
O show us that you are our Mother.

O Mary conceived without sin, pray for us who have recourse to you.

Sweet Mother, I place this cause in your hands. Amen

EDIT:

You might also try the consoling thoughts of St. Francis de Sales.
Peace

A good article from Studies in Salesian Spirituality about self-acceptance.
web1.desales.edu/assets/salesian/PDF/PocettoSelfAcceptance.pdf

 

[Humbly_Hopeful]

Is there anything spiritual I can do to help me regain my general confidence and self esteem in life. I feel like it has been shattered due to events in the past few years.

Is the Rosary the best way? Any saints that could specially help?

I feel like I have been conquered by the world because of it.

Thank you.

Baby steps and deep breaths between prayers. If possible, try daily mass when you can and Adoration helps, even if it is just for a few minutes.

The Rosary is beautiful, and if you are finding it difficult to pray the Rosary at times, let others lead you. You can pray the Rosary with Catholics worldwide through this link:

comepraytherosary.org/

St. Francis of Assisi really is pretty great. When I feel defeated by the world, I try so hard to change my thinking to, “Well, if I am so deficient then at least let me try to be of some good to someone somewhere.”

May God keep you in all the days of your life and forever after.

Lord, make me an instrument of your peace.
Where there is hatred, let me sow love;
where there is injury,pardon;
where there is doubt, faith;
where there is despair, hope;
where there is darkness, light;
and where there is sadness, joy.

O Divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek
to be consoled as to console;
to be understood as to understand;
to be loved as to love.
For it is in giving that we receive;
it is in pardoning that we are pardoned;
and it is in dying that we are born to eternal life.

Our Lady of Atonement, pray for us.

Amen

 

[ready]

Why seek confidence in yourself? Seek all your confidence in God alone, who can help you to move mountains if you let him help you to. If you have a low self-esteem because of faults and sins, then work on getting rid of your faults and sins. It is better to esteem others as better than ourselves, as St. Paul tells us to do: that way we can keep humble and truly dependent on God – we will not cling to self and any self-worth for the answers to our problems or for the help that we should be seeking from God. God bless you.

 

[fred_conty]

Confidence is built by doing. From what I understand, a person must do exactly the opposite of what they do not want to do to fight fear, which is the opposite of confidence.

I think it was Fulton Sheen who said that to experience love one must first give it. So I would recommend that you overcome this by doing what you fear to do.

A person has a problem with anger. The way to conquor anger is to change one’s attitude in those anger situations. A car cuts in front, and some will curse them, and some will help them because they may hurt themselves or someone else, and they see this a situation where they can help. So the answer is do just the opposite of what you hate or fear. It then soon becomes a way of life.

And if you incorporate spiritual ideas into this as well, then it will be of greater benefit to you. For then it becomes an act of love for God and neighbor.

Be at peace.