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[SinfulMan]

Pray for me I feel lost in sin. I watched porn continuously and pleased myself. I like to do it and don’t feel guilty. I am destroying my soul but I don’t understand it because it gives me pleasure doing these sexual sins. Help.

 

[Paul_theApostle]

Pray for me I feel lost in sin. I watched porn continuously and pleased myself. I like to do it and don’t feel guilty. I am destroying my soul but I don’t understand it because it gives me pleasure doing these sexual sins. Help.

We are different from the animals as we have a soul made in Gods image

animals when they get the sexual urge do not resist but go ahead and indulge

but as men who have the ability to have a relationship with God ,Jesus told us how we are to live so we can have a relationship with God

Its up to us,we dont have to listen or follow Jesus if we dont want to,we could do whatever we like or whatever pleases us ,

we could indulge in pleasures all we like but if they will not reward us with a growing ,healthy and Saving relationship with God then we should see where we are really heading in life ,or what we want out of life

Do we desire to know God and love him completely?

Do we desire to perish and fall away from God?

Or do we desire to become cleansed or pure and be eternally saved?

It is possible to steady yourself and begin to have control over your sexual desires if you really want to

If we choose to follow God
prayer ,Gods Sacraments,and living a Christian life will help us and keep us under control
and we will not abuse pleasures

The true pleasure of knowing and loving God and having him in your heart is greater then any sexual pleasure

although if one gets married he can enjoy the sexual act with his wife and Gods Blessing and love at the same time

 

[SinfulMan]

The true pleasure of knowing and loving God and having him in your heart is greater then any sexual pleasure

I have never experienced this. To me pleasure while doing sexual sin is the greatest pleasure I have experienced. How can you experience so much pleasure with God?

 

[Paul_theApostle]

I have never experienced this. To me pleasure while doing sexual sin is the greatest pleasure I have experienced. How can you experience so much pleasure with God?

Im no theologian ,but you have to know that God created your soul ‘and’ your body

sure i know sex is pleasurable,but if we are doing the wrong thing and doing sex outside the Blessing of marriage,than i wouldnt call that finding True joy or doing something which brings true fulfilment

Yes in marriage ,ive read sex can be the closest experience to Heaven on Earth,

but in marriage it would be blessed,and God would be on our side giving us his grace also to fill the act

If we go against his commandments and do sex out of marriage then we are keeping God out of the act and we would be “Missing the Mark” as is what sin means

Like if you shot an arrow and missed the bulleyes(sex before marriage) ,that would be sin and “missing the mark” and you probably wouldnt be so ecstatic about your arrow missing the middle

But if you fired the arrow and hit “bullseye” then that would be like your on track and doing the right thing(sex within marriage),and id say youd most likely be more happy or ecstatic about hitting the Bullseye/target

 

[willofgods]

Sexual pleasure, no matter how great it is, is always temporary.

The joy that being in communion with God is not temporary, but becomes part of you.

You say that you don’t feel guilty about it; if you were to hear the conversations of millions of high school boys, the same sentiment would be there. Pray to God that you may feel that it is a sin, not just know that it is.
Go to confession frequently and be earnest about your thoughts and feelings toward this subject. Yours is not a rare sin; the priest will certainly have some words to help you.

This will likely be something you will struggle with for a long time, but the fact that you are worried about your soul is a good place to be (vs. not caring about your soul at all).

 

[Dan_Daly]

Get to confession, and then to the Eucharist while in a state of grace and properly disposed.

Pray regularly. Start praying a 5 decade rosary every day.

Remove sources of temptation from your life. If you have magazine or dvds burn them. If you view pornography online get rid of the computer in your home.

If you view it hanging out with friends, don’t hang out with them
YOu in my prayers.

 

[Jcnava15]

Before anything, pray. Pray that God will become a part of your reality. When he does, you will have a greater pleasure than the ones you’re experiencing now.

Now then, have you considered why you seek sex so much? Perhaps you are lonely or lacking a deep connection with others.

The porn is also a manifestation of that, because it is a substitue for sex.

I would venture to say that you need a boost in confidence. A confident man lacks nothing, so he does not seek external pleasures to validate him. You are seeking external pleasure to validate you.

Aside from the weakening your soul, you are further confirming the idea that you are not good enough.

Turn that around. Pray that God will guide you and build you into a confident man, and pray that he will be a part of your everyday reality.