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My husband has decided to become Catholic. Which is a good thing that he has found a church. I am in Texas & he is in Alaska. I have been here 3 months with my job & have been so miserable and missed him so much. So I quit my job and I’m suppose to fly back to Alaska on the 31st. A few days ago he asked me for a divorce. I have no church that I call home. My mom raised me in the Jehovah witness but at 18 I was able to choose not to go. We have been married 5 years. I love my husband so much. I just started to research about the Catholic church. Please pray for us that God guides us in the right direction & makes our relationship with God stronger. God Bless You.
Lea Addison
 
It’s an unusual decision for your husband to become Catholic and then decide to sue for divorce, as the Catholic Church doesn’t recognize the possibility of divorce.

I’ll pray for you and him.

God bless.
 
That’s so sad. Of course, I’d be happy to say a prayer for you and your husband.

Our Father, who art in heaven, hallowed be thy name. Thy kingdom come. They will be done on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread, and forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us. Lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil. Amen. :gopray:
 
Our Father who art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name.

Thy kingdom come, thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven.

Give us this day our daily bread.

And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.

And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.

Amen.

†

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.

Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb Jesus.

Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.

Amen.

†
 
PietroPaolo said:
It’s an unusual decision for your husband to become Catholic and then decide to sue for divorce, as **the Catholic Church doesn’t recognize the possibility of divorce. **

I’ll pray for you and him.

God bless.
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Here’s the Catechism of the Catholic Church. Scroll down to 2383-2386.
vatican.va/archive/ccc_css/archive/catechism/p3s2c2a6.htm

If your husband is Catholic, ask him to speak to a priest.

Can you also talk to a priest and/or counselor? There’s the option of individual counseling, preferably with a Catholic counselor, say, from Catholic Social Services. A Catholic counselor would be preferible in this case, probably, since he/she would know the Church’s position on divorce. The Church is generally opposed to it, unless it’s a case of an invalid marriage, in which it’d be considered annulment rather than divorce.

Learn about this so that you can respond to him.

There’s also the Bible, itself:

Some Pharisees approached him, and tested him,* saying, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any cause whatever?”
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  • b He said in reply, “Have you not read that from the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female’
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    c and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’?
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    So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore**, what God has joined together, no human being must separate.**” Matthew 19:3-6.
 
LeaAddison said:
My husband has decided to become Catholic. Which is a good thing that he has found a church. I am in Texas & he is in Alaska. I have been here 3 months with my job & have been so miserable and missed him so much. So I quit my job and I’m suppose to fly back to Alaska on the 31st. A few days ago he asked me for a divorce. I have no church that I call home. My mom raised me in the Jehovah witness but at 18 I was able to choose not to go. We have been married 5 years. I love my husband so much. I just started to research about the Catholic church. Please pray for us that God guides us in the right direction & makes our relationship with God stronger. God Bless You.
Lea Addison
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Praying for you & your husband.
 
Lea,

I feel bad for you because 'I’m never happy to see a marriage break up. You got good advice already, especially that your husband needs to speak to a Catholic counselor. I am wondering if you cheated on him, because that’s the only reason the Catholic church allows for a divorce. If you didn’t, I think he’s confused. Maybe he grew up in a protestant church, which today most of them allow divorce and remarriage for any reason at all. Maybe someone told him he was unequally yoked to you because you were a JW. And he thinks this applies in Catholicism, which I don’t think it does. Another thing most Catholics don’t seem to realize is even when the church allows divorce, they don’t allow remarriage. He’s probably thinking he’ll divorce you first, and then become Catholic and start new. I’m not sure it works like that. So you need a Catholic counselor too.

I’m really ashamed of the mess protestants made over this in the last 100 years or so.

Get the counseling everyone advised. And then you have to get to the truth of why he wants a divorce.

God Bless
 
He cheated on me over a year ago and we went to counseling. I forgave him.
 
LeaAddison said:
My husband has decided to become Catholic. Which is a good thing that he has found a church. I am in Texas & he is in Alaska. I have been here 3 months with my job & have been so miserable and missed him so much. So I quit my job and I’m suppose to fly back to Alaska on the 31st. A few days ago he asked me for a divorce. I have no church that I call home. My mom raised me in the Jehovah witness but at 18 I was able to choose not to go. We have been married 5 years. I love my husband so much. I just started to research about the Catholic church. Please pray for us that God guides us in the right direction & makes our relationship with God stronger. God Bless You.
Lea Addison
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Lea, I’ll pray for you. If you need someone to talk to, feel free to message me. I work full time but would be happy to write and share thoughts, questions, anything you would like to ask or talk about, when I’m home. I’m learning more about my faith, and it has changed my life.

Our Father, Who art in heaven
Hallowed be Your Name
Thy kingdom come,
Thy will be done,
on earth as it is in heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread,
and forgive us our trespasses,
as we forgive those who trespass against us;
and lead us not into temptation,
but deliver us from evil.
For Thine is the Kingdom
and the Power
and the Glory for ever and ever.
Amen

Mary
 
Our Father, Who art in Heaven, Hallowed be Thy Name.
Thy Kingdom come. Thy Will be done,
on earth as it Heaven. Give us this day
our daily bread. And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive
those who trespass against us. And lead us not into
temptation,but deliver us from evil. Amen.

Eternal God , in whom mercy is endless,
and the treasury of compassion inexhastible ,
look kindly upon us and increase Your mercy in us ,
that in difficult moments we might not despair
nor become despondent , but with great confidence ,
submit ourselves to Your Holy Will ,
which is love and mercy itself . Amen
 
MaryinsunnyFL said:
Lea, I’ll pray for you. If you need someone to talk to, feel free to message me. I work full time but would be happy to write and share thoughts, questions, anything you would like to ask or talk about, when I’m home. I’m learning more about my faith, and it has changed my life.

Our Father, Who art in heaven
Hallowed be Your Name
Thy kingdom come,
Thy will be done,
on earth as it is in heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread,
and forgive us our trespasses,
as we forgive those who trespass against us;
and lead us not into temptation,
but deliver us from evil.
For Thine is the Kingdom
and the Power
and the Glory for ever and ever.
Amen

Mary
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Thank you Mary I will. Bless You. Lea
 
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Our Father who art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name.
Thy kingdom come, thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread.
And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.
And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.
Amen.

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.
Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.
Amen.

Glory Be to the Father, and to the Son, and to the Holy Spirit.
As it was in the beginning is now ever shall be world without end
Amen.

Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to thy protection, implored thy help, or sought thy intercession, was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto thee, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To thee do I come, before thee I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in thy mercy, hear and answer me. Amen

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Hail Mary,
Full of Grace,
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit
of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of death.

Amen.
 
Loving Jesus I offer this intention to your most sacred heart

Our Father who art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name.
Thy kingdom come, thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread.
And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.
And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.
Amen.

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.
Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.
Amen.
 
Hi Lea,

Him cheating on you doesn’t give him the right to divorce you, in Catholicism. Was he raised in a protestant church, or as an atheist?

The Catholic church is the only religion in America left, that won’t accept divorce and remarriage for any and all reasons. Virtually every protestant church now accepts this. And you can see what it’s done to our country.

I grew up in a day when married people stayed together. Most anyway, of Catholics. Were they still madly in love 10 years later? I don’t know, but I doubt it. However, in Catholicism marriage is Holy. It’s even called Holy Matrimony. It’s between a man, a woman, and God. The man and woman promise, before God, to stay together until one dies. That’s one of the only reasons a married Catholic can remarry.

But I’m not an expert on this, and that’s why you both need Catholic counseling. I think he’s trying to play a trick on God, as if that was possible. Maybe he met a single Catholic woman in Alaska and he wants to marry her and she said she can’t marry him because 1. He’s already married. 2. He’s not Catholic. So he thinks if he 1st gets a divorce from you, and then joins the Catholic church, that she can then marry him. Again, I don’t know, but I don’t think the rules of the Catholic church allow that. Catholicism is actually rather strict. As it should be. God is strict. It’s the thousands of protestant denominations who over the last 500 years have tried to say God is so lenient, that He allows anything, and all we have to do is accept Jesus. But Jesus said it over and over, that to accept Him means to obey Him and God, who are one and the same. But protestants deny this. I think the average protestant gets married thinking it’s no big deal. If he meets someone better he’ll divorce his present wife and marry a new one. The Bible doesn’t teach this. I know the Bible very well. But protestant churches teach this, and I think your husband thinks he can slip through a loop hole and marry a Catholic woman.

I want to say 1 more thing for all the young people reading this. America was a better place in the 1950’s, 60’s and even part of the 70’s. People obeyed God and had morals. Marriages stayed together, abortion was illegal and therefore rare. Girls stayed virgins until they were married. Most stores were closed on Sunday, and families came together for dinner on Sunday. America was better that way. I hope it can be that way again. I guess the Catholic people will have to make it happen, because protestants who say they follow the Bible don’t.

God Bless You,
Lea
 
He was Mormon until the age of 14. I was raised Jehovah witness. I know personally I never felt God’s grace in that religion. He says he has been researching the Catholic Church for the past 4 years. Myself just started but am finding that I feel more at home learning this faith. I feel bad about and ask God for forgiveness every night for the life I lead before now. Its breaks my heart to know that I have unappreciated the things God’s have provided for me my whole life. It’s amazing how great I felt yesterday when I went to Mass. I felt closer to God and not because I was in his house but because I could feel his presence… God Is Great! I want to Thank everyone for the prayers. I feel like a toddler fumbling through my prayers but I feel good knowing I am truly not alone. I ordered today the Mass Appeal abc’s of worship by Jimmy Akin. I am also reading Signs of Life by Scott Hahn which is amazing, I want to Thank my cousin for giving this book & going with me to my 1st Mass. I hope everyone has a blessed day. Lea
 
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