Love too much?

[rayne89]

st_felicity:

I Heaven is to be united with God. There cannot be a “unique relationship” like marriage or mother/fatherhood among those souls united to God because God himself fulfills all our need.

See this is the part I struggle with. I know we will not be married in Heaven. And I know that our union with God will fulfill every need, every desire and give us perfect happiness. I just can’t imagine my husband not being my soul mate forever. I’ve heard people say whatever we need in heaven to be happy will have. That is my consolation because I need my hubby.

That being said if I should die I would want my husband to remarry (to a good Catholic women), the sooner the better. My husband’s not one of those people that does well alone. And I want him to be happy. So I get the thing about not being married in the next life cause that wouldn’t work very well if a widow remarries would it? But he still could be my bestfriend right?

I know I’m goofy. I really do understand we will not need anything other than God to be happy in heaven. I just can’t imagine that my husband wouldn’t be at least a special part of my eternity. Anyway I’ll just leave it to God, it’s his plan not mine.

 

[Prometheum_x]

rayne89:

See this is the part I struggle with. I know we will not be married in Heaven. And I know that our union with God will fulfill every need, every desire and give us perfect happiness. I just can’t imagine my husband not being my soul mate forever. I’ve heard people say whatever we need in heaven to be happy will have. That is my consolation because I need my hubby.

That being said if I should die I would want my husband to remarry (to a good Catholic women), the sooner the better. My husband’s not one of those people that does well alone. And I want him to be happy. So I get the thing about not being married in the next life cause that wouldn’t work very well if a widow remarries would it? But he still could be my bestfriend right?

I know I’m goofy. I really do understand we will not need anything other than God to be happy in heaven. I just can’t imagine that my husband wouldn’t be at least a special part of my eternity. Anyway I’ll just leave it to God, it’s his plan not mine.

From all the things I have read, I think that the relationships we have with each person in heaven will far surpass any relationship we could ever have on earth. There in heaven we will have complete communion, fully realized. Then we shall realize the full import of the phrase “the communion of saints”.

 

[Matthew7]

Be happy you have a great love for your husband. This is a good thing. You appear to have had your share of troubles. This great love will help you stay focused on your relationship and not stray. Don’t get too comfortable, I would expect future tests of that love.

 

[Br.Dan_OCD]

Dear rayne89,

I suggest you take a look at the Catechism and what it says about married love, in particular #1638-1643.

Regarding the next life–i think it is important to remember that we will always be distinct individuals, even in heaven. So, we will know who everyone else is and the relationships we have formed on earth will, somehow, be present there. At least, that’s how it seems to me. We’ll see.

 

[rayne89]

Matthew7:

Be happy you have a great love for your husband. This is a good thing. You appear to have had your share of troubles. This great love will help you stay focused on your relationship and not stray. Don’t get too comfortable, I would expect future tests of that love.

I’m sure there will be further tests. My health is on that list. My heart is a ticking time bomb, and a transplant is no cake walk (I’ve done alot of reading on it.) Physically, emotionally,financially - it will push us to our limits. I thank God we have our faith, and I know from past experience after all we’ve been though we will hold it together despite the trials.