You child does not want to go to mass and tells his mom, “If you love me, you will not make me go to church”. Does she make him go? Yes. Does it mean she does not love him? No way, rather it shows her love for him and how much she loves Jesus.Hi everyone. This is a fairly simple question, but it has often caught me off guard. In the Gospel, Jesus says that we must love him more than our family, friends and ourselves. I have trouble understanding this, I understand that we should definately love Jesus more than ourselves, but what does it mean to love him more than our family? What does it mean for a mother to love Jesus more than her own children? How is this possible? What does this mean?
Your story was truly inspiring. I can hear in your message the hurt and pain you are feeling…yet you chose to do the right thing and follow God. I hope you can find a catholic women who will make you very happy one day.I was recently confronted with this issue.
I had been dating a woman for almost two years. We loved each other very much. Early on we knew that we had different, but similar denominations (Catholic & Lutheran). We set rules that we would worship together by going to two services on the weekends. Shortly after we began discussing marriage (not engaged, as we were both in graduate school and had little money for a ring) her sister-in-law, a Catholic, became disenfranchised with the Church. She filled my love’s head with lies.
She then proceeded to start reading anti-Catholic websites. Her view of the Church became twisted. Suddenly, someone who was once very accepting of the Church became quite hostile. She started to refuse to attend Mass with me. She went as far as to say that we should go to a large “mega-church” because it would be best if we both gave up our denominations than worship apart.
Without going into details eventually her attitude led to a “me or the Church” ultimatum. Letting her go still haunts me. I can not express how much I loved, and still in a very strong way love this woman. The only time I have talked to her she told me how much I hurt her. I pray every night for the understanding of what transpired.
My friends recently coaxed me onto catholicmatch, but I have been met with nothing but repeated rejection. They probably sense that my heart still belongs to someone else.
In short. I chose the Church over the woman who was going to be my wife. Yes, God is the most important thing, even more important than those you love on Earth.
For what it’s worth, don’t look for a mate so hard. The harder you look, the less likely it is that you will find…at least find someone you can spend the rest of your life with. Just go about your business as you normally do and let your life take you where ever and pray. A daily rosary would be appropriate. When the Lord wants you to have someone to settle down and make a family with, you will find someone. Just don’t let your hormones run amok and lead you into sin. That is not the way to find a long term mate!I was recently confronted with this issue.
I had been dating a woman for almost two years. We loved each other very much. Early on we knew that we had different, but similar denominations (Catholic & Lutheran). We set rules that we would worship together by going to two services on the weekends. Shortly after we began discussing marriage (not engaged, as we were both in graduate school and had little money for a ring) her sister-in-law, a Catholic, became disenfranchised with the Church. She filled my love’s head with lies.
She then proceeded to start reading anti-Catholic websites. Her view of the Church became twisted. Suddenly, someone who was once very accepting of the Church became quite hostile. She started to refuse to attend Mass with me. She went as far as to say that we should go to a large “mega-church” because it would be best if we both gave up our denominations than worship apart.
Without going into details eventually her attitude led to a “me or the Church” ultimatum. Letting her go still haunts me. I can not express how much I loved, and still in a very strong way love this woman. The only time I have talked to her she told me how much I hurt her. I pray every night for the understanding of what transpired.
My friends recently coaxed me onto catholicmatch, but I have been met with nothing but repeated rejection. They probably sense that my heart still belongs to someone else.
In short. I chose the Church over the woman who was going to be my wife. Yes, God is the most important thing, even more important than those you love on Earth.
I have pondered this as well. When my dad died, I was able to honestly “release” him to God’s loving hands. I wondered if I’d be able to do that with my child, though. If the LORD took my child home, would I be angry? Resentful? Would I turn away from God?Hi everyone. This is a fairly simple question, but it has often caught me off guard. In the Gospel, Jesus says that we must love him more than our family, friends and ourselves. I have trouble understanding this, I understand that we should definately love Jesus more than ourselves, but what does it mean to love him more than our family? What does it mean for a mother to love Jesus more than her own children? How is this possible? What does this mean?
What an inspiring story! You sure are strong in your faith! Be careful about Catholicmatch though. I got on there after alot of prayer. I figured there had to be at least one Catholic man in the greater St. Louis area that would be a good match for me. I figured I might have to look outside of west county but I was prepared for a “long distance” relationship. Maybe even as far as Dogtown or even metro east! God laughed at my plans. Catholicmatch hooked me up with a wonderful fellow from Wisconsin and we’re getting married in a few months! Keep praying and I expect God has a really good one for you too!I was recently confronted with this issue.
I had been dating a woman for almost two years. We loved each other very much. Early on we knew that we had different, but similar denominations (Catholic & Lutheran). We set rules that we would worship together by going to two services on the weekends. Shortly after we began discussing marriage (not engaged, as we were both in graduate school and had little money for a ring) her sister-in-law, a Catholic, became disenfranchised with the Church. She filled my love’s head with lies.
She then proceeded to start reading anti-Catholic websites. Her view of the Church became twisted. Suddenly, someone who was once very accepting of the Church became quite hostile. She started to refuse to attend Mass with me. She went as far as to say that we should go to a large “mega-church” because it would be best if we both gave up our denominations than worship apart.
Without going into details eventually her attitude led to a “me or the Church” ultimatum. Letting her go still haunts me. I can not express how much I loved, and still in a very strong way love this woman. The only time I have talked to her she told me how much I hurt her. I pray every night for the understanding of what transpired.
My friends recently coaxed me onto catholicmatch, but I have been met with nothing but repeated rejection. They probably sense that my heart still belongs to someone else.
In short. I chose the Church over the woman who was going to be my wife. Yes, God is the most important thing, even more important than those you love on Earth.
My condolances on your loss, It is so sad when a relationship with such potential is poisoned. Lean on God to get you both through this, and keep up the prayersI was recently confronted with this issue.
I had been dating a woman for almost two years. We loved each other very much. Early on we knew that we had different, but similar denominations (Catholic & Lutheran). We set rules that we would worship together by going to two services on the weekends. Shortly after we began discussing marriage (not engaged, as we were both in graduate school and had little money for a ring) her sister-in-law, a Catholic, became disenfranchised with the Church. She filled my love’s head with lies.
She then proceeded to start reading anti-Catholic websites. Her view of the Church became twisted. Suddenly, someone who was once very accepting of the Church became quite hostile. She started to refuse to attend Mass with me. She went as far as to say that we should go to a large “mega-church” because it would be best if we both gave up our denominations than worship apart.
Without going into details eventually her attitude led to a “me or the Church” ultimatum. Letting her go still haunts me. I can not express how much I loved, and still in a very strong way love this woman. The only time I have talked to her she told me how much I hurt her. I pray every night for the understanding of what transpired.
My friends recently coaxed me onto catholicmatch, but I have been met with nothing but repeated rejection. They probably sense that my heart still belongs to someone else.
In short. I chose the Church over the woman who was going to be my wife. Yes, God is the most important thing, even more important than those you love on Earth.