Lust in marriage?

[Black_Jaque]

You can tell it’s lust when it seems to be pointing you toward sin. If you feel like you need to get other “people” involved, such as watching porn, or worse. If you are tempted to use artificial birth control. If you are tempted to put things in the wrong places as one person put it. If you are imagining someone else while engaged in the act.

 

[Jay2]

I do think that “passion” gets mixed up with “lust” too often. Especially with Catholics.
It is right and GOOD to have passion for your spouse!
That is how God designed it.
Passion makes us intensely desire our spouse BOTH physically and emotionally. THAT - is making love.

We have a BINGO!

(too much energy expended on “if I, if we, when we, can we, is it ok if we…” just enjoy the BOND you have with your spouse)

 

[drafdog]

Read the Song of Songs. Now there’s a couple with a serious case of the hots. But this is indicative of how God feels about us. It is also indicative of how we should feel about Her. It is also, according to scholars, a song about married love.
Carry on as if you were normal.
Matthew

 

[mrs_abbott]

We have a BINGO!

(too much energy expended on “if I, if we, when we, can we, is it ok if we…” just enjoy the BOND you have with your spouse)

I’m not obsessing about it. It was more just curiosity that sparked the start of this thread in the first place.

 

[otjm]

Read the Song of Songs. Now there’s a couple with a serious case of the hots.

:extrahappy:

I laughed so hard I almost spit on the screen!

 

[otjm]

I’m not obsessing about it. It was more just curiosity that sparked the start of this thread in the first place.

To answer your question another way: can there be rape between a married couple? Although the questions are not the same, there is a similarity in that one spouse is forcing intercourse on the other in rape, and in lust, one is responding to the spouse as fi they were a sex-object, not a person. Lusting after another is desiring intercourse with the other for no other purpose than simply having an orgasm; turning the other into a sex object, instead of treating them as a person you love, and desire to share sexual intimacy with.

And as to those who want to reduce passion to lust, they suffer at the minimum with a streak of Jansenism.

 

[lovemybatman]

What if you want to pleasure someone (a spouse) with the intent of making them desire you? Is that loving?

 

[markomalley]

Why is it wrong to feel lust toward your spouse? We love each other with all our hearts but also have a “lust feeling” towards each other, especially when performing the “marital act”.

Huh???