Lutheran-Catholic Marriage - Advice for raising a family

[Alix1912]

In the process of radical sanation, did you agree to raise any potential children Catholic? This would seem to answer at least one question for you. I agree with what others have said: you need to choose one faith to raise the children in. Going back and forth is untenable and suggests to the kids that it’s not important.

An upside of our varying traditions is that we studied history and theology a lot together as a couple. We learned a lot about our own faith backgrounds. And, for full disclosure, DH did enter RCIA and joined the church last year, so now this is sort of a non-issue for us.
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Getting dispensation before a marriage, a convalidation, or radical sanation does not commit the non catholic spouse to anything regarding the way the children will be raised. It only commits the catholic spouse to do their best to try and raise the children catholic. The priest in our parish also explained to us that “doing their best to raise the children Catholic” is exacting that, if forcing your spouse to do everything Catholic is going to destroy the marriage he did advise finding comprimises.

That being said our goal is not to confuse our children and to have them attend one church as our home church. However, we also intend to have them exposed and learn about the other spouses traditions as well. Through this process we are learning alot about church history and doctrine, that part has actually been a lot of fun.

Alix1912

 

[Alix1912]

Hello,
I’m a long-time lurker also and I understand what Roll-Tide is saying. Sad to say, I’ve seen this in protestant churchs also, so I’m not just picking on the Catholics. BUT
Just say for arguement sake that the Catholic church (or add whatever church you like) is the ONE true church. Wouldn’t you think that an outsider should be able to look at us (you) and see something in our lives that causes them to want what you have?
I have to say that is not true of most folks I’ve seen on these forums. Perhaps it is a poor representation of the church.
What I have seen is when someone asks an honest question, usually they get condesending answers, or worse yet, just plain rude answers.

Lucky for me both my husband and I have thick skins…some of the answers and private messages have been wonderfully insightful and helped quite a bit. The trick is to sort them out from the dumb ones. However, some of the less than helpful messages have given us a good laugh. Particularly the private message that told my husband to just sign me up for RCIA and just make me go. Because hog tying someone and dragging them to a religon class is a really great way to get them to see the love and inner peace that your religon gives you.

Anyway, Everyone who gave us good and heartfelt advice, Thank you for your help…those who didn’t at least you made us laugh.

Alix1912

 

[shannyk]

Alix,

I’m glad you had a good laugh at people’s expense. Can I ask what exactly is so funny about people taking the time to give you advice?

What was it that you wanted or expected to hear?

 

[Alix1912]

I expected to hear a lot of what we have heard…most of it has been really good advice, and we have talked a lot about it, and taken a lot of it to heart.

Mainly we laughed at the private message we got about how my husband should just force me to convert. That and how I was not the only one who had lurked for a long time because I was intimidated by some of the posters here, and that the Lutheran - Catholic couple should form their own group.

That’s all…it was not meant to offend anyone. I guess it’s hard to convey a tongue and cheek tone in a typed post.

 

[duskyjewel]

That’s all…it was not meant to offend anyone. I guess it’s hard to convey a tongue and cheek tone in a typed post.

True, but this helps:

Good thing you laughed at the forced conversion, as it would be invalid anyway! People are stupid sometimes… So worried about the trees they miss the forest.

 

[Alix1912]

True, but this helps:

Good thing you laughed at the forced conversion, as it would be invalid anyway! People are stupid sometimes… So worried about the trees they miss the forest.

Yeah, I showed the message to a good friend and she cracked up. She basically said, obviously that person isn’t married, and has never met you or any of the women in your family. That and apparently the mental picture of my husband trying to hog tie me and carry me anywhere was ver amusing.

I do think that there are a few people who post here that are a bit too serious about everything…Lighten up and have fun with life a little, if you go through it constantly trying to prove you are a better person the everyone else and you are a better Christian, you waste your opportunity to do any real good and have fun while doing it. Not to mention if you do it too much you will kinda look like those people from the Bible…what were they called…Pharisees

(Yes that was a lame attempt to be funny, I am not saying anyone is a Pharisee)

 

[rolltidefan]

Alix1912…I wouldn’t worry about explaining myself too much…Obviously some jokes cannot be taken well by some people on some sites. Just take the advice that was given in love and concern for your family and just dispose of the rest. I wish you and your family the best.

 

[Pinkyyy]

My husband and I have been married for almost two years. When we got married my husband was a non practicing catholic, and was attending church with me (I am Missouri Synod Lutheran). We were married in the Lutheran Church as well. About 9 months ago my husband rediscovered his Catholic Faith. This has led to a lot of turmoil of the last 9 months, as suddenly all the things we had agreed to before we got married seems to be up for renegotiation. We did go through Radical Sanation (sp?). Now we are looking at starting a family, and we are going to be facing some huge decisions about our kids

Are we twins? LOL. I am Missouri Synod and my husband is Catholic - not a very “strong” one though, but enough that we butt heads on things. We have a 3 year old now.

Baptizing Children: I was a godparent to my younger sister (she is 11 years younger) and I would like her to be my Children’s Godparent, but as with the rest of my family she is Lutheran. Not having my family members or a trusted friend be able to be my children’s god parents is strange to me. Not to mention we really don’t know anyone who is Catholic well enough to have them serve as our children’s god parents. On that note not having my husband be able to serve as a god parent to any of my sister’s future children is not okay either.

Unfortunately, the church is not flexible on this - I feel your pain. I want my brother and his wife (Lutheran) to be the God parents of a future child (when that happens). I believe they would truly be better than any catholic couples I now know - they are more religious than his family members and I do not want someone outside of family being God parents. But this is the RCC rule and I guess I just will not get my way, not matter how much this saddens me. I know what you are saying - I feel sometimes like the church doesn’t really care about my point of view. Why should my family be excluded from being a God parent?

Weekly Church Attendance: How do we worship as a family while still allowing both my husband and I to practice our respective faiths, how do we expose our children to those faiths with out making it confusing to them as well. (i.e. Why can’t mommy take communion at daddy’s church, etc.)

Well, the RCC probably wouldn’t want your future children to go to a Lutheran church. First, let me say that unless you got approval from the RCC, you are not in a real marriage by their standards because the marriage was not in a catholic church. You would need it to be blessed in the church (this doesn’t mean you have to become catholic) for him to even recieve communion. You are expected to raise the child Catholic - infact, I believe you have to agree to this to even be blessed in the church. My husband doesn’t agree with everything, or at least doesn’t follow everything, the church says he should do, so we don’t have a real stong butting of heads on issues. But at the same time, if we are visiting family say on Christmas or Easter we may decide to go with my family to a Lutheran curch, so that is the only time I really take my son to Lutheran church because otherwise it’s kind of confusing and it’s just easier to take him only one place.

First Communion: In the Churches I grew up in First Communion was part of confirmation, which took place in the 6th – 8th grade. I am very uncomfortable with 1st graders taking communion, when as I was taught they were not old enough to understand what they were doing. (I’m not sure in 6th grade, I completely understood the importance of communion)

I have not seen 1st graders taking communion, but maybe I’m wrong. They always seem to be a little older than that, but I have to agree with you on this one. Again, it just comes with raising your child catholic.

I know that these are hard topics, and as my husband and I have laughed about there are so many similarities about our two churches, and so much that is good and beautiful about each of them that it is very frustrating that the parts that are different can drive us so far apart. I know we can’t solve those larger theological issues as better minds than ours have tried for hundreds of years. We are simply looking for practical everyday ideas and solutions that we can use to make out family run smoothly.

The only way you are going to do this is if you both respect each side even if you don’t agree with it. Sometimes I hate my husband’s catholic way or no way attitude about some things, but what am I going to do about it? As for my son, I will raise him in the catholic church while at the same time letting him know how I feel on issues and when he’s an adult, he can be whatever he wants to be.

 

[Pinkyyy]

Well, the RCC probably wouldn’t want your future children to go to a Lutheran church. First, let me say that unless you got approval from the RCC, you are not in a real marriage by their standards because the marriage was not in a catholic church. You would need it to be blessed in the church (this doesn’t mean you have to become catholic) for him to even recieve communion.

Okay, just ignore me there…read that part of your post to quickly! Sorry

 

[fellowChristian]

My sister is a Catholic and her husband a Lutheran.
Her children from a previous marriage are Catholic

And the children they have together are Lutheran.

So that makes 4 Catholics and 3 Lutherans in the house. No one is going to church. No one is reading the Bible and no one is talking about religion. Everything is up for conversation except God. So God is left out of the family.

Now the thing that I don’t understand is…

If Martin Luther didn’t want to be excommunicated and would have stayed Catholic had he not been, why does anyone want to be Lutheran? I mean Martin wanted to be Catholic except the choice wasn’t up to him.

Martin Luther is still causing people to split even though he never wanted that.

“I never approved of a schism, nor will I approve of it for all eternity. . . . That the Roman Church is more honored by God than all others is** not **to be doubted. St, Peter and St. Paul, forty-six Popes, some hundreds of thousands of martyrs, have laid down their lives in its communion, having overcome Hell and the world; so that the eyes of God rest on the Roman church with special favor. Though nowadays everything is in a wretched state, it is no ground for separating from the Church. On the contrary, the worse things are going, the more should we hold close to her, for it is not by separating from the Church that we can make her better. We must not separate from God on account of any work of the devil, nor cease to have fellowship with the children of God who are still abiding in the pale of Rome on account of the multitude of the ungodly. There is no sin, no amount of evil, which should be permitted to dissolve the bond of charity or break the bond of unity of the body. For love can do all things, and nothing is difficult to those who are united.”

Martin Luther to Pope Leo X, January 6, 1519

more than a year after the Ninety-Five Theses

I just don’t get it? Thats not what Jesus wanted either.

John 17:21

21that they may all be one; even as You, Father, are in Me and I in You, that they also may be in Us, so that the world may believe that You sent Me.

John 17:23

23I in them and You in Me, that they may be perfected in unity, so that the world may know that You sent Me, and loved them, even as You have loved Me.

 

[Pinkyyy]

My sister is a Catholic and her husband a Lutheran.
Her children from a previous marriage are Catholic

And the children they have together are Lutheran.

So that makes 4 Catholics and 3 Lutherans in the house. No one is going to church. No one is reading the Bible and no one is talking about religion. Everything is up for conversation except God. So God is left out of the family.

Now the thing that I don’t understand is…

If Martin Luther didn’t want to be excommunicated and would have stayed Catholic had he not been, why does anyone want to be Lutheran? I mean Martin wanted to be Catholic except the choice wasn’t up to him.

Martin Luther is still causing people to split even though he never wanted that.

“I never approved of a schism, nor will I approve of it for all eternity. . . . That the Roman Church is more honored by God than all others is** not **to be doubted. St, Peter and St. Paul, forty-six Popes, some hundreds of thousands of martyrs, have laid down their lives in its communion, having overcome Hell and the world; so that the eyes of God rest on the Roman church with special favor. Though nowadays everything is in a wretched state, it is no ground for separating from the Church. On the contrary, the worse things are going, the more should we hold close to her, for it is not by separating from the Church that we can make her better. We must not separate from God on account of any work of the devil, nor cease to have fellowship with the children of God who are still abiding in the pale of Rome on account of the multitude of the ungodly. There is no sin, no amount of evil, which should be permitted to dissolve the bond of charity or break the bond of unity of the body. For love can do all things, and nothing is difficult to those who are united.”

Martin Luther to Pope Leo X, January 6, 1519

more than a year after the Ninety-Five Theses

I just don’t get it? Thats not what Jesus wanted either.

John 17:21

21that they may all be one; even as You, Father, are in Me and I in You, that they also may be in Us, so that the world may believe that You sent Me.

John 17:23

23I in them and You in Me, that they may be perfected in unity, so that the world may know that You sent Me, and loved them, even as You have loved Me.

Well, if your sister wants a family in christ maybe she should suck it up for the good of the family and start taking everyone to Lutheran church. But that’s not going to happen, right? You want him to suck it up and go to Catholic mass because you’re Catholic.

You can throw a quote in here and there, but that does not shake our faith - just as the wrongs by the RCC did not shake yours.

There are reasons why Luther did not want to rejoin the church, and we still believe these are valid reasons.

About what you said, it’s plain and simple. We are very similar, but we also are different on many things - many things that are important to both sides. Why should we go against our beliefs because another religion wants us to? We can’t stop believing what we believe - neither can you.

This should be moved to the non-catholic board. Or you can just go and read some posts there - it’s been talked about alot there.

 

[Alix1912]

Are we twins? LOL. I am Missouri Synod and my husband is Catholic - not a very “strong” one though, but enough that we butt heads on things. We have a 3 year old now.

There really should be a seperate club for us on this board. It is to funny that there are this many Lutheran Catholic Couples.

Unfortunately, the church is not flexible on this - I feel your pain. I want my brother and his wife (Lutheran) to be the God parents of a future child (when that happens). I believe they would truly be better than any catholic couples I now know - they are more religious than his family members and I do not want someone outside of family being God parents. But this is the RCC rule and I guess I just will not get my way, not matter how much this saddens me. I know what you are saying - I feel sometimes like the church doesn’t really care about my point of view. Why should my family be excluded from being a God parent?.

This is something I am really stuggling with. I also often feel as though the Catholic Church could care less about my feeling and point of view to. This is especially true since, my husband made the choice to return and I really had no say in it and now our whole life and marriage is being dominated and changed by a faith that I don’t always agree with. It can be very trying at times.

As for baptism…this is also a stuggle for us. We really know no one who is Catholic well enough to trust with this responsibility. My husband knows some of the people in the parish he goes to but I’m not really up for having someone I have a total of five or six times be a godparent. His family is not an option, as his mom is the only real somewhat practicing Catholic, and the live hundreds of miles away. We could just pick someone, and have my sister as a witness…but in all honesty if something happened to my husband and I our furutre kids would be raised by my mother and sister, and probably Lutheran. Not to mention if something happens to you and your have not laid out a clear chain of custody, courts often look at who you had choosen as god parents for guidance as to who to award your children too.

But at the same time, if we are visiting family say on Christmas or Easter we may decide to go with my family to a Lutheran curch, so that is the only time I really take my son to Lutheran church because otherwise it’s kind of confusing and it’s just easier to take him only one place.

When we are with my family for Easter or Christmas, my husband usually attends with my family, and vis versa when I am with his family. Neither of us has been struck down by lightning so I’m taking that as a good sign.

Thank you for your advice it was very helpful.

 

[gardenswithkids]

…This is especially true since, my husband made the choice to return and I really had no say in it and now our whole life and marriage is being dominated and changed by a faith that I don’t always agree with. It can be very trying at times…

People change. You married a non-practicing Catholic who attended your church with you. Now he wants to practice his Catholic faith. People mature and grow in their faith. It happens a lot with people of all religions. You know, even if your husband decided to become Lutheran, he might have decided on the ELCA and you’d still have to reconcile the differences.

You aren’t the only faithful Protestant wife who one day woke up to a husband who wanted to practice the Catholic faith. I think it’s great that you are already using NFP. Contraception is often a huge issue when one spouse wants to take Catholicism seriously. (That issue often happens even when Catholics are married to other Catholics.)

You might be interest in the conversion story of Kimberly Hahn. Her husband, Scott was a Presbyterian minister when she married him. He converted. This caused her great pain. She eventually also converted because she came to believe what the Catholic church teaches. They’ve written books and their conversion stories are available on tape. http://www.saintjoe.com/prodinfo.asp?number=5226 I know Prebyterians and Lutherans are entirely different denominations, and I know you aren’t interested in converting to Catholicism, but I found her story compelling. She speaks of the trials and pain her husband conversion caused her.

…As for baptism…this is also a stuggle for us. We really know no one who is Catholic well enough to trust with this responsibility. My husband knows some of the people in the parish he goes to but I’m not really up for having someone I have a total of five or six times be a godparent. His family is not an option, as his mom is the only real somewhat practicing Catholic, and the live hundreds of miles away. We could just pick someone, and have my sister as a witness…but in all honesty if something happened to my husband and I our furutre kids would be raised by my mother and sister, and probably Lutheran. Not to mention if something happens to you and your have not laid out a clear chain of custody, courts often look at who you had choosen as god parents for guidance as to who to award your children too.

I know god parents are important and that they have a great responsibility, but I think you are over-thinking this (and your emotions may cloud your thinking.) Courts may look to who you choose as godparents for guidance, but if you lay out your plans for who will raise your children, the courts will look at that first. Godparents don’t have to raise your child/ren in the event of your deaths.

 

[fellowChristian]

Actually my sister left her faith, and is now very confused. So she stopped everything. Her kids as a result are not getting anything and she is in pain.

And you are wrong Pinkyyy about me, you don’t even know me. I think going to a Lutheran church is better than nothing and I have told her to respect and love her husband and that include his faith. I mean how can I say anything bad about the Lutheran faith when it’s roots lead back to the Catholic faith?

At least the children would be learning about God and about the Written Word.

And as far as the quotes…

I’m just saying that as a family of God we should be united not seperated.

So if your looking for a way to get along…

1. Never discuss your religion OR debate about it everytime you disagree.

2.Everyone goes to the church of his/her choice alone so as not to offend the other. OR Make a plan to bounce back and forth.

3.Never celebrate feast days or religious holidays or celebrate Reformation Day and All Souls Day.

4.Don’t baptize anyone anywhere. OR baptize at both churches.

hard but not impossibe. Good luck and God Bless.

 

[Pinkyyy]

Actually my sister left her faith, and is now very confused. So she stopped everything. Her kids as a result are not getting anything and she is in pain.

And you are wrong Pinkyyy about me, you don’t even know me. I think going to a Lutheran church is better than nothing and I have told her to respect and love her husband and that include his faith. I mean how can I say anything bad about the Lutheran faith when it’s roots lead back to the Catholic faith?

At least the children would be learning about God and about the Written Word.

And as far as the quotes…

I’m just saying that as a family of God we should be united not seperated.

So if your looking for a way to get along…

1. Never discuss your religion OR debate about it everytime you disagree.

2.Everyone goes to the church of his/her choice alone so as not to offend the other. OR Make a plan to bounce back and forth.

3.Never celebrate feast days or religious holidays or celebrate Reformation Day and All Souls Day.

4.Don’t baptize anyone anywhere. OR baptize at both churches.

hard but not impossibe. Good luck and God Bless.

I am sorry I offended you, but I didn’t mean for it to sound like that. quitting faith altogether is not a good thing - especially for the kids. I get that both spouses want their way, but sometimes for the sake of the family, one is going to have to lose not get their way. A different religion is better than no religion. I mean, I am in this situation. My son won’t learn much about what I believe. I am putting my religion aside for my family. It’s not easy, but something I do, and something I hope your sister or her husband will do. One of them needs to do the hard thing or else they aren’t putting the children first. And as you said, it hurts everyone then. They can know about the other parents faith as well though, just not as their main religion. Then they can make their own decision later.

P.S. I know you didn’t mean it this way, but it’s kind of rude to say that going to a Lutheran church is “better than nothing”. But, i know what you are trying to say

For the points you mentioned, I would like to comment on them. I think they are good ones. Yes, discuss religion, but with the point of trying to understand each other. When it looks like it may become an argument, stop the discussion there.

You can go the separate church route or bounce back and forth as said. Another choice is the family only goes to 1 church with one spouse going to their own mass another day (say Saturday) and to church with the family as well.

I think actually that the whole family can get involved in eachother’s religious holidays - it shows that they support everyone and they make an effort for the family as a whole.

You can’t baptize at 2 churches (wish you could!!!) - a solution again is to pick a main church for the whole family with one member attending their service as well on another day, and baptize any new children in the main church you are attending - you could also ask a priest/pastor from the other religion to witness it. That is a good compromise.

 

[Jennifer_G]

Hi Alix! I am a Catholic, also engaged to a Lutheran woman (I almost feel like we Lutheran/Catholic couples could have our own little group here ) I also grew up in a mixed religious family and have several Catholic friends who have entered mixed marriages (almost all with Lutherans!)

Now what is it with Lutherans and Catholics? 500 years ago, they were practically at each other’s throats. Now, Lutherns and Catholics are marrying eachother - not to mention all of the Lutheran and Catholic churches next door to each other! Anyway, my parents are like that, too - my dad was Catholic (pretty much non-practicing anything now), and my mom is ELCA Lutheran (baptised Catholic, actually).

One thing your kid may be curious - i.e., if you raise them Lutheran - about (I know I was!) is why the churches on the Catholic side of the family are so different (to the kid’s vantage point) than the Lutheran side. The liturgy may be 98% the same, but then they see Holy Water fonts, statues of Mary and Joseph, prayer candles, Stations of the Cross, people genuflecting/bowing before entering the pew, etc…

Now, you could attend your husband’s church, but you won’t be able to receive communion until you’re confirmed in the Catholic Church if you want to do that.

 

[fellowChristian]

I can only speak from my point of view.

So as a practicing Catholic I believe in…

1. one God,
   the Father, the Almighty,
   maker of heaven and earth,
   of all that is, seen and unseen.
2. one Lord, Jesus Christ,
   the only son of God,
   eternally begotten of the Father,
   God from God, Light from Light,
   true God from true God,
   begotten, not made,
   of one being with the Father.
   Through him all things were made.
   For us and for our salvation
   he came down from heaven:
   by the power of the Holy Spirit
   he was born of the Virgin Mary,
   and became man.
   For our sake he was crucified under Pontius Pilate;
   he suffered death and was buried.
   On the third day he rose again
   in accordance with the Scriptures;
   he ascended into heaven
   and is seated at the right hand of the Father.
   He will come again in glory
   to judge the living and the dead,
   and his kingdom will have no end.
3. the Holy Spirit, the Lord, the giver of life,
   who proceeds from the Father and the Son.
   With the Father and the Son
   he is worshipped and glorified.
   He has spoken through the Prophets.
4. one holy catholic and apostolic Church.
5. acknowledge one baptism for the forgiveness of sins.

6.We look for the resurrection of the dead,

7.and the life of the world to come.

What part of that as a practicing Lutheran do you not believe?

And to really understand Martin Luther you have to read all his writtings including those he wrote as a Catholic.

 

[Alix1912]

I can only speak from my point of view.

So as a practicing Catholic I believe in…

1. one God,
   the Father, the Almighty,
   maker of heaven and earth,
   of all that is, seen and unseen.
2. one Lord, Jesus Christ,
   the only son of God,
   eternally begotten of the Father,
   God from God, Light from Light,
   true God from true God,
   begotten, not made,
   of one being with the Father.
   Through him all things were made.
   For us and for our salvation
   he came down from heaven:
   by the power of the Holy Spirit
   he was born of the Virgin Mary,
   and became man.
   For our sake he was crucified under Pontius Pilate;
   he suffered death and was buried.
   On the third day he rose again
   in accordance with the Scriptures;
   he ascended into heaven
   and is seated at the right hand of the Father.
   He will come again in glory
   to judge the living and the dead,
   and his kingdom will have no end.
3. the Holy Spirit, the Lord, the giver of life,
   who proceeds from the Father and the Son.
   With the Father and the Son
   he is worshipped and glorified.
   He has spoken through the Prophets.
4. one holy catholic and apostolic Church.
5. acknowledge one baptism for the forgiveness of sins.

6.We look for the resurrection of the dead,

7.and the life of the world to come.

What part of that as a practicing Lutheran do you not believe?

And to really understand Martin Luther you have to read all his writtings including those he wrote as a Catholic.

This thread is not about which religon is better, or attacking people’s believes, please move this topic to the correct board. If you did you might learn that both the Catholics and the Lutherans use both the Nicene and the Apostles Creed.

Thank you

 

[john_ennis]

The original post could’ve been written by my wife. In fact, I had to read it closely to make sure…but we’ve been in the situation through twenty years and six kids.

Don’t know if any of this will be helpful, but our experience may give added insight into the dynamics of these things.

Bottom line: all of our kids have been baptized in the Lutheran Church; they attend the small local Lutheran school; they’re simultaneously being catechized weekly in the Catholic Faith, and the four that are old enough have received First Holy Communion and First Reconciliation. The oldest is scheduled to be confirmed this spring.

A continuous struggle to maintain faithfulness to God, His Word, our marriage, and the Gospel of charity has been our calling, as near as I can tell.

Like my wife, I’m sure, I’ve had to fight against my own pride and conviction that I’m right, in order to respect my wife’s belief’s and rights as a wife and mother.

All this, while at the same time I acquired a deeper and more firm conviction regarding my own Catholic Faith, as a result of pursuing the assertions of very respected non-Catholics in my life. That certainly has made things interesting.

My early insistence on sending the kids to Catholic school led to me placing one of our first into a school that was clearly not right for him, and my giving in on this has resulted in my kids all receiving the most sound and nurturing education I ever hope to see.

But I could not see denying them what I believe to be the Sacraments, so I was insistent on that, and think that my wife, though very unhappy about it, is–like me on other points–walking with God when she accepts it.

There’s much more, but I didn’t mean for this to be about us. Hope something in there is informing.

Peace.
John

 

[Alix1912]

John,

Your advice and word of encouragement are very much appreciated. It’s good to know that kids of a interfaith marriage can grow up just fine, and that a family can provide an enviornment where both beliefs are respected. I know it wasn’t easy, and I have no illusions that it will be, but it is nice to here your story.

And seriously there should be a Catholic Lutheran Marriage Club on this board.

Alix