Lying

[Kendy]

I was supposed to go to Mexico, but then I realized that I didn’t have enough money so I postponed the trip. But since I had already requested the time off work, I just pretended that I was out of town and took the time off. So, now when I go in to work everybody is asking me about it and I feel like I have to keep the lie going. I feel really bad. Do I have to confess to my co-workers that I am a liar or can I just go to confession?

Kendy

 

[Image_of_God]

I was supposed to go to Mexico, but then I realized that I didn’t have enough money so I postponed the trip. But since I had already requested the time off work, I just pretended that I was out of town and took the time off. So, now when I go in to work everybody is asking me about it and I feel like I have to keep the lie going. I feel really bad. Do I have to confess to my co-workers that I am a liar or can I just go to confession?

Kendy

If it is required as a penance. But otherwise I don’t think so, because when you lie you are really hurting the Lord more than you hurt the other person in the sense that they have sinned to. It would be an EXTREMELY good idea to tell them, but it good to remember who you are really hurting the most. Don’t keep lying. This is Satan trap, he wants you to join him in wickedness on and on. He makes it feel like you have to do something bad. But with prayer and the grace of God you will get an answer better than mine.

 

[mosher]

I was supposed to go to Mexico, but then I realized that I didn’t have enough money so I postponed the trip. But since I had already requested the time off work, I just pretended that I was out of town and took the time off. So, now when I go in to work everybody is asking me about it and I feel like I have to keep the lie going. I feel really bad. Do I have to confess to my co-workers that I am a liar or can I just go to confession?

Kendy

Well you can’t purposely perpetuate the vice in your own heart. It may actually be a better course for your spiritual life to own up the lie. This will build the virtue of prudence, fortitude, courage and honesty in you. However, to perpetuate the lie would only allow vice to rule a portion of your life at least for a time. And to allow vice to triumph can only lead to further vice and sin.

 

[Kendy]

Oh God let’s me get away with nothing . He could let it go this time . I know so many people who are never plagued with so much guilt; they get away with murder; and one little lie and he’s on me like white on rice. I know I should be grateful, but it’s just hard. I swear I am a poster-child for catholic guilt :crying:

Okay, I am kinda being silly, but only kinda.

 

[Marilena]

Number one, stop lying right away! You should tell the truth at all times. When you start lying, it becomes easier to do it the next time. The truth hurts, but it is better to be honest at all times then to continue to perpetuate the lie with one on top of another.

It is detrimental to your spiritual well being, and it is detrimental
to those you care about, and work with. They deserve to know the truth, and if you are asked again, tell them the truth.

As for going to confession, yes. Do it as soon as you get an opportunity. The devil loves it when we lie, and he loves it even more when we perpetuate the lie. So, stop right away, get to confession, and don’t lie again.

 

[Kendy]

Do ever feel like just not dealing with it? I just don’t want to deal with it. I just want to put the whole lie behind me. I have been working so hard on my vices. I worked to make amends for someone I hurt, I have been trying to be less selfish. I have been praying tons, going to mass everyday. Can’t he just cut me one little break?

Okay, I am not arguing with you. I am arguing with Him.

Kendy

 

[Image_of_God]

Oh God let’s me get away with nothing . He could let it go this time . I know so many people who are never plagued with so much guilt; they get away with murder; and one little lie and he’s on me like white on rice. I know I should be grateful, but it’s just hard. I swear I am a post-child for catholic guilt :crying:

Okay, I am kinda being silly, but only kinda.

This guilt is the way God shows he loves you. He wants you to be aware of sin and repent of it so he can forgive you. One thing to know is that no lie is “little” for every lie whether white or black is malicious. A lie is not true and anything that is not true cannot be of God. Anything of God cannot be a lie. And you want to be of God so you should repent of the lie and feast on Divine Mercy!

 

[Kendy]

Number one, stop lying right away! You should tell the truth at all times. When you start lying, it becomes easier to do it the next time. The truth hurts, but it is better to be honest at all times then to continue to perpetuate the lie with one on top of another.

It is detrimental to your spiritual well being, and it is detrimental
to those you care about, and work with. They deserve to know the truth, and if you are asked again, tell them the truth.

As for going to confession, yes. Do it as soon as you get an opportunity. The devil loves it when we lie, and he loves it even more when we perpetuate the lie. So, stop right away, get to confession, and don’t lie again.

Oh, I can’t do it. I can’t go in there and admit that I lied. It would just kill me. I can’t do it. I am pathetic: I know. Can’t do it

 

[Kendy]

This guilt is the way God shows he loves you. He wants you to be aware of sin and repent of it so he can forgive you. One thing to know is that no lie is “little” for every lie whether white or black is malicious. A lie is not true and anything that is not true cannot be of God. Anything of God cannot be a lie. And you want to be of God so you should repent of the lie and feast on Divine Mercy!

I wish someone had told me it would be this much work. I miss my once saved always saved protestant church.

Kidding .

 

[Tantum_ergo]

I was reading one of C.S. Lewis’s excellent books and he was talking about how, twice in his life, he was faced with a situation which he absolutely COULD NOT HANDLE. These situations required him to do something that he absolutely, positively, could NOT do. And then, with prayer, he said that he realized that, 24 hours on, he was going to find that the thing that he could not do he WOULD do. And that is exactly what happened, with the help of God.

So we’re rooting for you, Kendy1

 

[Image_of_God]

I wish someone had told me it would be this much work. I miss my once saved always saved protestant church.

Kidding .

We should really work to grasp people out of the hands of this doctrine. People actually believe this to be true and the Bible is against it. People go about living evil lives believing that they will be saved. Oh, what a danger.

 

[mosher]

I wish someone had told me it would be this much work. I miss my once saved always saved protestant church.

Kidding .

LOL

My friend and I always say that to people. We joke that we would never be Catholic by choice because it is so hard. But the problem is that the truth of it is inescapable so “to whom whould we go?”

But, don’t let pride get in the way of living a holy life of virtue.

 

[Bruised_Reed]

I have no idea how far into this you are but be prepared to fess up at some point. My coworkers and I don’t believe our former boss went to Mexico in January. No tan, no sunbleached hair (or stories about she spent the whole time sick in the hotel room), no annoying regalling of stories and adventures, no pictures. Okay, one story that alledgedly took place at the airport. She lied about other things too (and as a result “no longer works there”) so these aren’t giant leaps.