Major decision, need help please

[helpme]

i need help with this, i’ve recently moved to a new place where my house mates are committing serious sins of fornication and drinking excessively etc., do you think i should stay here? is there any hope of me helping them? i try talking to them about God, and reasons why this type of living isnt right ( from both religious and secular thinking), which they sometimes listen to but yet continue i there ways, or should i go? i am a devout Catholic and i would never commit sins like these even minor variations, i pray for them and hope that God will grant them the grace of conversion and that they will reform their lives in time and the only real reason keeping me there is hope that they will somewhat become better and fear of them being left to their own devices. so please answer this quickly(preferably a Priest).

 

[palmas85]

i need help with this, i’ve recently moved to a new place where my house mates are committing serious sins of fornication and drinking excessively etc., do you think i should stay here? is there any hope of me helping them? i try talking to them about God, and reasons why this type of living isnt right ( from both religious and secular thinking), which they sometimes listen to but yet continue i there ways, or should i go? i am a devout Catholic and i would never commit sins like these even minor variations, i pray for them and hope that God will grant them the grace of conversion and that they will reform their lives in time and the only real reason keeping me there is hope that they will somewhat become better and fear of them being left to their own devices. so please answer this quickly(preferably a Priest).

My friend, fornication is **NOT **a minor variation as you call it, despite what we see on TV and in the movies. Move. Now. Yesterday. Otherwise my friend, I promise you, temptation has a great chance of sucking you into things that you think you would never do or even think about doing.

Besides that, I doubt counseling your friends would do much good and they may actually see you as the one who needs help to get over your medieval, puritanical and totally behind the times lifestyle.

No you would do a lot better just to go.

 

[MoreThan1Hat]

I agree. Move immediately. Talk to the priest at your parish and perhaps he can help you find somewhere to stay temporarily until you find another apartment/house. And pray for these people, certainly, but you need to get out of that situation. I’ll pray for all involved.

 

[helpme]

i need help with this, i’ve recently moved to a new place where my house mates are committing serious sins of fornication and drinking excessively etc., do you think i should stay here? is there any hope of me helping them? i try talking to them about God, and reasons why this type of living isnt right ( from both religious and secular thinking), which they sometimes listen to but yet continue i there ways, or should i go? i am a devout Catholic and i would never commit sins like these even minor variations, i pray for them and hope that God will grant them the grace of conversion and that they will reform their lives in time and the only real reason keeping me there is hope that they will somewhat become better and fear of them being left to their own devices. so please answer this quickly(preferably a Priest).

thanks for your reply, although i would never consider the MORTAL sin of fornication to be MINOR, i meant even temptations of thoughts of lust etc, although i know these can never be minor in what the lead up to, so thanks.

 

[FrRJBoyd]

I have to agree with the other posters; I think you should move. Bad companions can corrupt good morals.

God bless,

Fr. Boyd

 

[SimonX]

I agree with all of the above. It seems like we already have a great deal of secularism pushed on us every day from the work place, schools, associates, media, ect…Why subject yourself to these poor behaviors in your own home if you don’t have to? I hope you can find another place to live with others with like values or by yourself. That can’t be a great situation to be in as you’ve described now. Good luck to you!

 

[Conservative]

Based on your trying to help them, rather than joining their ways, I’d originally thought maybe you’re there for a reason - that your talking with them would help convince them to change their ways.

But the world has become an ugly place at times - and the ugliness is accepted as the norm - decency is ostracized. Don’t allow yourself to live in a place of sin and an occasion of sin for you when you might least expect it. Find another place to live…there’s houses/apartments a-plenty. Just keep praying for these people in particular since God has put you in their path and vice versa. They need your prayers.