Major worries for my mother

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joanofarc2008 said:
Starting with the police is a good idea. Do you have a copies of the hospital records? Were their police reports filed - those will be helpful. Find a private investigator as well. Contact Catholic Charities for more help as well.
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This.

And if you have a general idea of where she is or might be, have the police do a welfare check on her.

Luna
 
TheRealJuliane said:
I am sorry to hear of her response, but at the very least, you know she’s alive. The man may have beaten her after he had to give you her location.

What a mess.

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It’s okay and thanks for caring.

I suppose all I can do is let her get on with it.
 
Just keep praying. Do not contact this man again. But at this point it may be good to do little nice things for your mother like bring her meals or take her out to eat. This will allow you to check up on her without it being a check up.
 
Zundrah said:
It’s okay and thanks for caring.

I suppose all I can do is let her get on with it.
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I prayed for her and you during Mass tonight.

You might consider going to an Al-Anon meeting. It’s for friends and family of alcoholics. Teaches how to detach with love and take care of yourself. I know there are meetings in the UK.

Al-Anon UK/Eire
 
TheRealJuliane said:
I prayed for her and you during Mass tonight.
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Thank you.
You might consider going to an Al-Anon meeting. It’s for friends and family of alcoholics. Teaches how to detach with love and take care of yourself. I know there are meetings in the UK.
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Al-Anon UK/Eire
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I’m reading that site now. I wonder if she’d even bother coming with us. It will be worth getting in contact with them though even if just me and my sister go there.
 
Zundrah said:
Thank you.

I’m reading that site now. I wonder if she’d even bother coming with us. It will be worth getting in contact with them though even if just me and my sister go there.
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No Al-Anon is for the family. It is not for the alcoholic. Your Mom would be looking to go to AA.
 
Zundrah said:
Okay thanks, it’s me and my sister then.
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Yes, AA is for the alcoholic. Also, you don’t even have to know if your mum is or is not an actual alcoholic. If someone’s drinking is bothering you, you qualify for Al-Anon. It will help you to go on with your life and be happy whether your mother is drinking or not. Many people I know are in similar situations to you, but many times they are parents and have no idea where their children are. The dynamics are slightly different but the underlying principles are the same.

Step 1: We admitted we are powerless against alcohol, that our lives had become unmanageable.

Step 2: Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could lead us to sanity.

Step 3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood him.

These are the same 3 steps that the alcoholic in AA works, but of course our focus is not on the alcohol as much as it is the alcoholic. Some groups say “We admitted we are powerless against the alcoholic…” but in the end, it means the same. If the alcoholic is powerless against alcohol, so are we.
 
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