Making abstinence work

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starshiptrooper said:
You should have exercised a modicum of reading comprehension. She did not say that she was being pressured by her current boyfriend. She has not clarified expectations with him. He might either agree with her or like her enough to change his mindset.

My first piece of advice to her was to hold her frame. Making dinner is more to address her fear that he will leave her than for his benefit.
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Maybe you should exercise a modicum of common sense .

If she’s afraid he’ll leave her then making dinner for him will solve exactly squat. What would making dinner do to help? Except maybe put them in an occasion of sin.
 
AdamPeter said:
Maybe you should exercise a modicum of common sense .
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Common sense is not defined by the absence of reading comprehension.
If she’s afraid he’ll leave her then making dinner for him will solve exactly squat. What would making dinner do to help? Except maybe put them in an occasion of sin.
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I suggested making dinner, not hosting dinner with romantic music in the background while wearing nothing but earrings and a vodka martini. The OP is an adult and should be able to assess what is and is not a near occasion of sin for her situation. Reading comprehension, please utilize it!

The point was to give her an actionable step to deal with her feelings of insecurity. So I recommended ascertaining his mindset and then doing something nice for him.
 
starshiptrooper said:
Common sense is not defined by the absence of reading comprehension.I suggested making dinner, not hosting dinner with romantic music in the background while wearing nothing but earrings and a vodka martini. The OP is an adult and should be able to assess what is and is not a near occasion of sin for her situation. Reading comprehension, please utilize it!

The point was to give her an actionable step to deal with her feelings of insecurity. So I recommended ascertaining his mindset and then doing something nice for him.
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Or she could tell him straight and see his reaction…and cut out the nonsense.
 
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