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KSchuster
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If a person tells you they are taking birth control do they have a responsibility to tell you when they are not taking it anymore?
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puzzleannie
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are the two people married to each other? then yes, they must be completely open and honest with each other about this and come to agreement about this as with every other issue in marriage. It is of no concern to any third party except possibly one’s physician. If they are not married, they have no business having sex let alone compounding the sin by using birth control. what does making amends have to do with it? the place to make amends for this or any sin is in confession.
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KSchuster
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The person I am refering to is a relative of mine and when her and her husband were taking BC we were compelled not to have them as God parents (they offered that information without being asked) We are trying to make amends and get over this deal however I need to know if it is her responsibility to tell me when she has stopped or that somehow the Church is ok with what she is doing.
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JRKH
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I am not clear on the whole “making amends” aspect, other than perhaps they are upset about not being Godparents.
However as to the general question I would say no, it is not her “responsibility” to tell you.
If I may ask, How does this information tie into the “making amends” aspect.
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CarrieH
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The only reason they might have an obligation to tell you would be if you were to have another child in the future and might re-consider having them as Godparents under the condition that they stop using BC and repent of any practices which are contrary to Church teaching. Otherwise, it’s a private matter between them and God. If they are the type to cause a family feud over such a thing (I’m not saying they are, but if you are having to make amends when you are the one who is in the right, there might be some hostility going on), they are not the kind of people you would want to be responsible for your child’s religious upbringing. :twocents:
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puzzleannie
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I am unable to determine why the spiritual condition of another person is your concern? It was the parish’s responsibility during the pre-baptismal classes to advise the godparents of their requirements, and theirs to provide the pastor with assurance that they met them (adult Catholic, fully initiated, practicing the faith and living in harmony with Catholic teaching including that on marriage and family, not a parent of the child, under no canonical ban). They owed you no assurance or explanation of any kind, so consequently owe you no amends. If they lied to the priest, that is their problem, one each of them has to address individually in confession, but still not your concern.
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Andruschak
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Well, as a member of AA, perhaps I can offer, as a SUGGESTED guideline, our 9th step. The key words about making amends is “except when to do so would injure them or others.” If it would injure them or others (including you), it might be best to “let go and let God”. (Another AA cliche
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