Making the SOTC in Public Before and After Praying?

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I often am afraid I might offend someone by making the Sign of the Cross in public. I don’t want to make anyone angry at me, so I simply avoid praying in public (with the exception when I am at church of course.)

What should I do? It’s not that I’m afraid of hurting feelings, it’s that I am afraid others might get angry at me.
 
And what if others get angry with you? Don’t you have the constitutional right to practice your faith? Ask them if they believe they have the right to deprive you of your rights? Don’t be afraid. Making the sign of the cross might make some upset or angry, but just as many, if not more, will be inspired by it. Do what you know in your heart is right to do without regard for the anger of others, which is not from God but from the devil, or others consciences telling them they should be better than they are.
 
That would be their problem, not yours. Just do it anyway and don’t worry.
 
I don’t make a big deal of it, but I do sign myself, and the heck with whatever anyone else might think. I’ve never had a reaction, positive or negative, from anyone.
 
And what if others get angry with you? Don’t you have the constitutional right to practice your faith? Ask them if they believe they have the right to deprive you of your rights? Don’t be afraid. Making the sign of the cross might make some upset or angry, but just as many, if not more, will be inspired by it. Do what you know in your heart is right to do without regard for the anger of others, which is not from God but from the devil, or others consciences telling them they should be better than they are.
Careful there - there is no evidence the original poster is or is not in the United States. The right to public exercise your faith is not uniform around the world.

If someone feels making the sign of the cross would subject them to unfair treatment, persecution, etc. or would make those around them uncomfortable - that is a determination that person needs to make for themselves. They have to live with all the consequences of their actions, so they should let their conscience be their guide.

There is no rule, rubric, or teaching I have ever heard that stipulates prayer must begin with the sign of the cross. Many formalized rituals begin with the sign of the cross, and the sign of the cross is a prayer in and of itself. Many rites and rituals do have a stipulation in their rubrics stating when the sign of the cross should be used in that rite/ritual but to claim every instance of prayer must begin with the sign of the cross is not correct.

Given a choice between just not praying, or not beginning a prayer session with the sign of the cross, I recommend the latter.
 
Careful there - there is no evidence the original poster is or is not in the United States. The right to public exercise your faith is not uniform around the world.

If someone feels making the sign of the cross would subject them to unfair treatment, persecution, etc. or would make those around them uncomfortable - that is a determination that person needs to make for themselves. They have to live with all the consequences of their actions, so they should let their conscience be their guide.

There is no rule, rubric, or teaching I have ever heard that stipulates prayer must begin with the sign of the cross. Many formalized rituals begin with the sign of the cross, and the sign of the cross is a prayer in and of itself. Many rites and rituals do have a stipulation in their rubrics stating when the sign of the cross should be used in that rite/ritual but to claim every instance of prayer must begin with the sign of the cross is not correct.

Given a choice between just not praying, or not beginning a prayer session with the sign of the cross, I recommend the latter.
I happen to know the OP an American citizen, a young man in school, as I recall. I think he is worried about his fellow classmates reactions, more than anything else. And of course, the sign of the cross is only devotional outside the rubrics of the Mass, but it’s still a good thing to do before and after prayer at home, at school, in the work place, in the public square as a sign of faith to the world, and because in the US, it’s a protected right. Sure, there can be consequences, but merely making fellow teens upset isn’t really a good reason to forego showing respect for God in the world.
 
What should I do? It’s not that I’m afraid of hurting feelings, it’s that I am afraid others might get angry at me.
What I would strive to do is to treat this as a mortification. Don’t feel like being embarrassed, laughed at, shamed? Good! Do it anyway and offer up the action out of love for Jesus—who Himself was embarrassed, laughed at, shamed, and many other things just because of His love for you.
 
Thanks for the replies! 🙂

Yes, I am an American (it says your location on the top right of everyone’s posts). I am mostly afraid of angering non Christians. It’s not that I’m afraid of hurting their feelings, but rather that there might be repercussions.
 
Thanks for the replies! 🙂

Yes, I am an American (it says your location on the top right of everyone’s posts). I am mostly afraid of angering non Christians. It’s not that I’m afraid of hurting their feelings, but rather that there might be repercussions.
What kind of repercussions? How serious do you think they would be? Be sure you aren’t merely projecting trouble where there really isn’t any. Oftentimes our fears are unfounded, but we let them rule our lives just the same. You may want to consult a reliable person, such as a parent or counselor about your fears.
 
What kind of repercussions? How serious do you think they would be? Be sure you aren’t merely projecting trouble where there really isn’t any. Oftentimes our fears are unfounded, but we let them rule our lives just the same. You may want to consult a reliable person, such as a parent or counselor about your fears.
These fears are silly, but I have a mental block. The only way to stop it is by actually making the SOTC in public. My fears are that someone might get mad, and punch me, but I highly doubt that would happen.
 
These fears are silly, but I have a mental block. The only way to stop it is by actually making the SOTC in public. My fears are that someone might get mad, and punch me, but I highly doubt that would happen.
If they do punch you, they’ll have to answer to the police. 😉 Don’t let fear dictate what you want to do that you know is perfectly all right to do. By making the sign of the cross, you may encourage others to practice their faith, as well. It’s called being a witness for Christ. Still, the decision is yours to make since it’s a devotion, not mandatory, as the good deacon wrote. 🙂
 
I often am afraid I might offend someone by making the Sign of the Cross in public. I don’t want to make anyone angry at me, so I simply avoid praying in public (with the exception when I am at church of course.)

What should I do? It’s not that I’m afraid of hurting feelings, it’s that I am afraid others might get angry at me.
As long as you are not going over to those you think may get angry and telling them that they must make the sign of the cross, then you have nothing to fear.

In fact, you may plant a seed of good in them! 🙂
 
I have made the Sign of the Cross in public school for years, and I have never received any negative reaction from it. It is kind of strange since I think I am the only one out of more than 2,000 students that does it, but I do it right in front of my Mohammedan, Protestant, and confused friends without any rude reactions. Usually, it compels them ask me about the Catholic Faith or to explain their confusion about religion. My family also makes the Sign of the Cross at restaurants and we haven’t been glared at or anything.
 
Thanks for the replies! 🙂

Yes, I am an American (it says your location on the top right of everyone’s posts). I am mostly afraid of angering non Christians. It’s not that I’m afraid of hurting their feelings, but rather that there might be repercussions.
I actually doesn’t say everyone’s location on the top right of their posts (at least not on my screen). Some do, some do not depending on the person’s profile settings.

With the other information - you are a young person in the USA. I would encourage you to go ahead and make the sign of the cross to begin your prayers in public. I also stand by my earlier advice to allow your conscience to guide you in these situations.
Blessed are you when they insult you and persecute you and utter every kind of evil against you [falsely] because of me. - Matthew 5:11
 
Is making the SOTC pleasing to God? I, personally, believe that it is and because of that belief I cross myself every time I pray, be it public or not. Who do you strive to please, yourself, your peers or God? How many times did Jesus tell us to Praise and Love God? This is just one way that I try to follow Jesus’ commands.

I’m not telling you what to do, just what I choose to do. This is a decision that you will have to make for yourself.
 
When I was in the Middle East in the early 90’s, I would make a small cross on my chest with my thumb and forefinger…here in America, I just do it, being in the heart of Baptist Country, I’ve only heard a “tut-tut” maybe twice. A lot of the Baptists wil say grace in restaurants, if I’m close, I’ll do a cross at the end and a quiet Amen, never got back anything but a nod and a smile from those.
 
You’re overthinking this.
You’re a Catholic . It’s what Catholics do when they pray. End of story.
 
es it, but I do it right in front of my Mohammedan, Protestant, and confused friends
Ummm… I think you’ll find that Muslims prefer to be called Muslims, not Mohammedans. They don’t worship Mohammed, and can be offended at the implication that they do.
 
I’m Catholic; I make the SOTC when I say Grace before meals in public. If someone is offended; that’s their problem.
 
Ummm… I think you’ll find that Muslims prefer to be called Muslims, not Mohammedans. They don’t worship Mohammed, and can be offended at the implication that they do.
I asked my Mohammedan friend if she thought the term Mohammedan was offensive since some people said that it was, and she laughed and said no.
 
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