Male issue: wet dreams. Might be graphic

[LongJohnSilver]

I have no idea where to put this thread, so please move if necessary.

So I have been trying to stay away from masturbation for some time, more or less succesfully, and this leads to nightly ejaculation or ‘wet dreams’. It has a biological function and is probably healthy, but I don’t like it. It gets messy sometimes and I don’t like getting up in the middle of the night to clean up.

But what bothers me more is that this can happen when sleeping somewhere else. For instance when I’m staying at my parents or sister’s house. Also, I am used to going away on trips with friends and people I know. Since we usually sleep in hostels, we share rooms with each other. I have had two experiences in which I had a wet dream when I wasn’t sleeping alone in the room (luckily, I managed to clean up unnoticed), and numerous occasions when I was really anxious that it would happen again. It gets to the point where I don’t really like sleeping somewhere else anymore.

Of course, it’s all completely natural and I shouldn’t be embarrased, but that’s not how I feel. I figured I might ask people here if they have the same problem and how they deal with it. Thanks!

 

[Adam1986]

I have no idea where to put this thread, so please move if necessary.

So I have been trying to stay away from masturbation for some time, more or less succesfully, and this leads to nightly ejaculation or ‘wet dreams’. It has a biological function and is probably healthy, but I don’t like it. It gets messy sometimes and I don’t like getting up in the middle of the night to clean up.

But what bothers me more is that this can happen when sleeping somewhere else. For instance when I’m staying at my parents or sister’s house. Also, I am used to going away on trips with friends and people I know. Since we usually sleep in hostels, we share rooms with each other. I have had two experiences in which I had a wet dream when I wasn’t sleeping alone in the room (luckily, I managed to clean up unnoticed), and numerous occasions when I was really anxious that it would happen again. It gets to the point where I don’t really like sleeping somewhere else anymore.

Of course, it’s all completely natural and I shouldn’t be embarrased, but that’s not how I feel. I figured I might ask people here if they have the same problem and how they deal with it. Thanks!

Honestly dude there’s absolutely nothing you can do. The male body NEEDS to orgasm on a regular basis to clear out the old sperm and make room for the new. So if you don’t do it on your own or with someone. your body will do it for you.

As for any help I can provide, well I completely disagree with what the Church teaches on masturbation, so you probably don’t want my advice, lol.

 

[RHannosh619]

, well I completely disagree with what the Church teaches on masturbation,

I would work on this disagreement and finally come to terms with the church, because until then,(even with this 1 disagreement) you are not following the Catholic Church, but your rendition of the Catholic Church, which is… not the Catholic Church.

And actually, you are not disagreeing with just the church but rather God’s word, since masturbation or “spilling seed” has biblical evidence to why it is wrong.

 

[kib]

Honestly dude there’s absolutely nothing you can do. The male body NEEDS to orgasm on a regular basis to clear out the old sperm and make room for the new. So if you don’t do it on your own or with someone. your body will do it for you.

That isn’t true, if you learned that in school your teachers lied or are stupid. The male body absorbs semen and sperm cells if they are not expelled. It is a myth of our secular society that you “NEED to orgasm.”

Also, if you disagree with what the Church teaches about masturbation, there is no point in being Catholic. Either this church is THE Church- created by Jesus Christ himself, or its not. If the Church is wrong about its doctrines on sexual morality then it IS NOT the Church crated by Jesus Christ and you and I need to leave and follow Him. You can’t pick and choose, it truly is all or nothing.

 

[RHannosh619]

but you know what, talk to us,

What is it exactly that you disagree about? Maybe we could enlighten you on the subject in which you disagree, that way you can come to terms with it, it could be a misconception?

 

[manualman]

No intent, no sin. But plenty of embarassment!

Nightly is not normal. Examine your routine. What exactly are you thinking about before going to sleep? That can do it. Try inserting some prayer and scripture reading time RIGHT before bed. Ponder what you read while nodding off. What is on your mind when you fall asleep is often what STAYS on your mind while you sleep.

 

[NewsTheMan]

It’s sad to see Catholics succumb to secular ideas about masturbation

OP I can only give you my experience, and I think I am pretty normal. I went from (probably) porn/masturbation addiction cold turkey/overnight chaste - and its been about 9 months since that day I decided to come back to God and His Church. Anyway, in that time I have only on occasion (I’m talking less then 5 times) had nocturnal emissions. Usually I am half conscious when they happen and I wake up the next morning riddled with guilt but there was nothing I could do. I had no intent.

Just keep staying pure my friend and pray pray pray

 

[Joe_5859]

No intent, no sin. But plenty of embarassment!

Nightly is not normal. Examine your routine. What exactly are you thinking about before going to sleep? That can do it. Try inserting some prayer and scripture reading time RIGHT before bed. Ponder what you read while nodding off. What is on your mind when you fall asleep is often what STAYS on your mind while you sleep.

Well put. That’s what I was going to say.

The less you think about it, the less it will happen.

 

[Adam1986]

That isn’t true, if you learned that in school your teachers lied or are stupid. The male body absorbs semen and sperm cells if they are not expelled. It is a myth of our secular society that you “NEED to orgasm.”

Also, if you disagree with what the Church teaches about masturbation, there is no point in being Catholic. Either this church is THE Church- created by Jesus Christ himself, or its not. If the Church is wrong about its doctrines on sexual morality then it IS NOT the Church crated by Jesus Christ and you and I need to leave and follow Him. You can’t pick and choose, it truly is all or nothing.

Then why do wet dreams happens?

 

[petras52]

I would work on this disagreement and finally come to terms with the church, because until then,(even with this 1 disagreement) you are not following the Catholic Church, but your rendition of the Catholic Church, which is… not the Catholic Church.

And actually, you are not disagreeing with just the church but rather God’s word, since masturbation or “spilling seed” has biblical evidence to why it is wrong.

since there is a bibilical prohibition re “spilling of seed”, then why do our God designed bodies, spill seed naturally through noctunal emissions? you can’t ;make the argument that the “seed” is precious and not to be wasted since it happens naturally…
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[LongJohnSilver]

No intent, no sin. But plenty of embarassment!

Nightly is not normal. Examine your routine. What exactly are you thinking about before going to sleep? That can do it. Try inserting some prayer and scripture reading time RIGHT before bed. Ponder what you read while nodding off. What is on your mind when you fall asleep is often what STAYS on your mind while you sleep.

I don’t think I have a different routine these nights. These dreams happen once or twice a month and I don’t think I trigger them, by being arroused when I go to sleep or thinking impure thoughts. I really can’t predict when they come, it seems really random.

 

[LongJohnSilver]

OP I can only give you my experience, and I think I am pretty normal. I went from (probably) porn/masturbation addiction cold turkey/overnight chaste - and its been about 9 months since that day I decided to come back to God and His Church. Anyway, in that time I have only on occasion (I’m talking less then 5 times) had nocturnal emissions. Usually I am half conscious when they happen and I wake up the next morning riddled with guilt but there was nothing I could do. I had no intent.

Just keep staying pure my friend and pray pray pray

Thanks NTM. I think I have them moreoften, but it seems there’s nothing I can do.

 

[LongJohnSilver]

@all:

I would like to know also a bit on your experiences on nocturnal emissions when you are not in your own house. Any good ways to prevent embarrasing situations?

 

[LongJohnSilver]

since there is a bibilical prohibition re “spilling of seed”, then why do our God designed bodies, spill seed naturally through noctunal emissions? you can’t ;make the argument that the “seed” is precious and not to be wasted since it happens naturally…
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Not the effects of an act make the act moral or immoral, but object of the act or the intention. That makes clear why seed spilling by masturbation is a sin, while seed spilling by accident is not, even though the ultimate effects are the same.

But please, this discussion can and has been held elsewhere. I would like to focus on the topic.

 

[TraderTif]

@all:

I would like to know also a bit on your experiences on nocturnal emissions when you are not in your own house. Any good ways to prevent embarrasing situations?

Well, um, not being male, I’m not a good person to give advice…but I’m relatively sure I remember seeing a thread here, long ago, about someone asking if it was ok to use a condom for this exact purpose. (Preventing “embarrassing situations”.) So maybe that’s an idea?

 

[OraLabora]

That isn’t true, if you learned that in school your teachers lied or are stupid. The male body absorbs semen and sperm cells if they are not expelled. It is a myth of our secular society that you “NEED to orgasm.”

Basically agree, I am 52 (male of course) and never had a wet dream in my life, even in long periods of abstinence.

Also, if you disagree with what the Church teaches about masturbation, there is no point in being Catholic. Either this church is THE Church- created by Jesus Christ himself, or its not. If the Church is wrong about its doctrines on sexual morality then it IS NOT the Church crated by Jesus Christ and you and I need to leave and follow Him. You can’t pick and choose, it truly is all or nothing.

Here I disagree. We are all at different phases in our discernment process. And we all fail to measure up to the Gospel message in one way or another.

That doesn’t cease to make us Catholic. It makes us sinners in need of redemption, or if our conscience isn’t aligned with Church teaching, it makes us someone still not fully mature in their faith walk.

To ostracize someone from the Church for not agreeing with her, unless on something really serious like a life issue (e.g. abortion), is not IMHO, either charitable or Catholic.

What it is though is a teaching opportunity. Some of us just take longer than others to figure it out. The Church has room for those, because Jesus wants all of us to be saved, and God is very patient, giving us until the last breath to repent our sins.

 

[LCMS_No_More]

That isn’t true, if you learned that in school your teachers lied or are stupid. The male body absorbs semen and sperm cells if they are not expelled. It is a myth of our secular society that you “NEED to orgasm.”

Then why do men who haven’t had sexual relations or masturbated for a time (in my experience, it’s usually after a few weeks) have involuntary orgasms while they sleep?

 

[Adam1986]

Then why do men who haven’t had sexual relations or masturbated for a time (in my experience, it’s usually after a few weeks) have involuntary orgasms while they sleep?

Lol dude I asked the same thing on the last page and no one answered me.

I think it’s because there is no answer and the male body DOES need to EXPEL sperm sometimes.

 

[Joe_5859]

@all:

I would like to know also a bit on your experiences on nocturnal emissions when you are not in your own house. Any good ways to prevent embarrasing situations?

Wear two pair of underwear (one briefs, one boxers) in addition to your pajamas?

 

[rwoehmke]

Wear briefs with a light feminine pad as a liner. Pajams over all. Relax,sleep tight.