Man w/o heart/impossible request?

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I posted awhile back about my husband’s unfaithfulness. I think my anger really has become hatred. but a priest told me I should pray for him. First let me make these points:

He was my first love. And I was entirely his. We were only married a year and half, and when I finally started to realize he didn’t love me, I stayed because I’d promised for better or worse, till death. No where in there did I add a clause that stated, “until or unless or so long as.” I promised to loved him unconditionally ie. no exceptions. I can’t say I still feel the same way. He has done what I once thought was impossible by making me lose all affectionate feelings for him. But I’ve always felt love was more of a choice and commitment than a feeling. And while when I think of him if I feel anything I feel…well, not loving emotions, I guess I think I should still love him in my heart. He was my husband, he is the father of my child…he wronged me, but whether its foolish or not I feel I should continue to love him. I dont ever wanna be with him again and I’m not in contact with him, but to pray for him. To want the best for him, for his soul, especially…?

But he seems to be without conscious. In fact, it almost seems as if hes a sociopath. I mean he fits the description to perfection. For God to change him/save him, he’s have to want it. And trust me when I tell you thats the last thing he wants. Hes really sick. For him to have a change of heart, even a deathbed conversion, is impossible. So I have to admit I haven’t prayed much because I feel like I would be wasting my time and energy. But I don’t want him to be lost. And God has done some pretty impossible things in my life…and in the world itself. So then I think surely he could do this?

If God would do anything for me, I would want him to save my soul, my son’s soul, and my husbands soul. But my faith depth is very shallow.

what do you think?
 
Try each day, when the memories of your exhusband surface, to forgive. Just a little bit. Each day the “little bits” of forgiveness will win over the hatred that comes more naturally to all of us.

Mentally I’d keep busy displaying love with prayer or work or service, etc.

If you can, pray for him. He is weak, in need of great healing.
 
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I posted awhile back about my husband’s unfaithfulness. I think my anger really has become hatred. but a priest told me I should pray for him. First let me make these points:

He was my first love. And I was entirely his. We were only married a year and half, and when I finally started to realize he didn’t love me, I stayed because I’d promised for better or worse, till death. No where in there did I add a clause that stated, “until or unless or so long as.” I promised to loved him unconditionally ie. no exceptions. I can’t say I still feel the same way. He has done what I once thought was impossible by making me lose all affectionate feelings for him. But I’ve always felt love was more of a choice and commitment than a feeling. And while when I think of him if I feel anything I feel…well, not loving emotions, I guess I think I should still love him in my heart. He was my husband, he is the father of my child…he wronged me, but whether its foolish or not I feel I should continue to love him. I dont ever wanna be with him again and I’m not in contact with him, but to pray for him. To want the best for him, for his soul, especially…?

But he seems to be without conscious. In fact, it almost seems as if hes a sociopath. I mean he fits the description to perfection. For God to change him/save him, he’s have to want it. And trust me when I tell you thats the last thing he wants. Hes really sick. For him to have a change of heart, even a deathbed conversion, is impossible. So I have to admit I haven’t prayed much because I feel like I would be wasting my time and energy. But I don’t want him to be lost. And God has done some pretty impossible things in my life…and in the world itself. So then I think surely he could do this?

If God would do anything for me, I would want him to save my soul, my son’s soul, and my husbands soul. But my faith depth is very shallow.

what do you think?
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I’ve heard it said recently that one in four people in our country is a sociopath.

That being said, you should pray, fast, and offer sacrifice for yourself and your family. Many souls are lost because they have no one to pray for them! And our culture, which is the culture of death, is constantly promoting evil. It is almost deafening! Humility, sacrifice, and prayer can defeat Satan in our day! But never hatred.
 
People make it sound like sociopaths are demons walking around in human bodies. I might believe that if it weren’t for the fact of my son. Nothing that sweet and innocent can come from something innately evil. But its really scary…I’ll try to pray for him/forgive him. But do you think its a lost cause? I mean is it possible God can help him, save him? Or is there like no hope? I don’t love him the way I once did, but I still love him if that makes sense. And its sad enough to think hes wasting his life…but to be lost forever and I want to cry. Someone told me to pray to Jude because he’s the patron of impossible causes. And this certainly seems impossible/hopeless 😦
 
Yes, the Lord can do this conversion…He did it to me in 2005. Ask St. Michael to help you and your husband. My wife prayed for 15 plus years for me, but it was when my then six year old son pleaded to the angels and the Lord that my healing began. It was a massive conversion for me and I am still discerning it with help from a SD/confessor. God Bless.
 
^That’s nice to know and Im glad for you. 🙂
I really appreciate your prayers/advice.
 
**You don’t have to feel something to pray for a person. Whenever I hear any type of siren, I always offer up a Hail Mary because someone neeeds help. Just say a prayer every day for your husband’s soul.

Just like I don’t know you, but I will pray for you, your child, and the ex.**
 
That’s a good point. My worry is more that in the end there’s nothing to be done. And I don’t want that for him. :frighten: I guess I feel hopeless. I don’t mean to make it sound like I doubt that God can do impossible things. That’s obvious. But God can’t force himself on anyone with free will. So what if God just can’t get through and can’t help him because of that? Im hoping that because Rex is human and therefore has a soul made by God,his soul was made good and, ultimately, doesn’t want to be lost…I’m hoping theres an ounce of something in him that God can work on.
 
Praying for the conversion/salvation of your husband. May you continue to forgive him and never give up praying for his soul. He needs your prayers so much and is very blessed that you care for his salvation. Your prayers may be what saves his immortal soul from eternal perdition. Peace!
 
Three Hail Mary’s for Burning, her husband and son, grant them healing dear Father. + Amen.
 
Our God who can do anything You choose that does not violate free will, please give conversion of heart and life here where it is so sorely needed.
 
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