Manbashing: how to stop?

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i cant stand them. all my life i have been dealing with cheaters, porn addicts…masturbaters…drunks and abusives.and then i read on the Catholic forum that they aren’t any different…they just …do their little dirty…and say oh hey i just ran a red light…PFFFT…CONFESSION is tamarrow.’…part of me is screaming inside WHERE ARE ALL THE NON PORN ADDICTS…THE NON BEHIND YOUR BACK MASTURBATERS…THE NON…CLOSET HOMOS trying to get married for face? do they exist?
 
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i cant stand them. all my life i have been dealing with cheaters, porn addicts…masturbaters…drunks and abusives.and then i read on the Catholic forum that they aren’t any different…they just …do their little dirty…and say oh hey i just ran a red light…PFFFT…CONFESSION is tamarrow.’…part of me is screaming inside WHERE ARE ALL THE NON PORN ADDICTS…THE NON BEHIND YOUR BACK MASTURBATERS…THE NON…CLOSET HOMOS trying to get married for face? do they exist?
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Pray! pray for the conversion of sinners.

The Divine Mercy. It is the Holy Spirit who will change their sinful ways.

We are called to avoid sin. Jesus did not promise all of us to be impeccable. Because of original sin, humanity sin.

Any sin, whether it be masturbation, adultery, pornography, homosexuality, fornication, lying, etc. Pray as often as you can.

You can pray for 30 years and wait to see if they convert. If they don’t convert their sinful ways. God will judge them accordingly.

marian.org/divinemercy/chaplet.html

Second, if they go to confession, and continue sinning, they have not truly confess with contrite hearts. The confession itself becomes invalid, and the sinner will be subject to the judgement of God.

I hope this helps.
 
Mannyfit75 said:
Second, if they go to confession, and continue sinning, they have not truly confess with contrite hearts. The confession itself becomes invalid, and the sinner will be subject to the judgement of God.

I hope this helps.
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Not quite. If they go to confession with the* intention* of continuing to sin, or else sin with the thought that they can just go to confession (like that ‘what the heck, confession is tomorrow’ kind of attitude you’re talking about) then they’re not contrite. And then the confession isn’t valid.

Being human sometimes we do sin again in spite of confessing and sincerely wanting and making sincere efforts not to!

While not condoning these sins at all, they would have to be among the most difficult ones to struggle against. After all, a lot of them are percieved as being (even if they aren’t truly) ‘victimless’, and more than that as completely acceptable and ‘normal’ in secular society, unlike most other sins.
 
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Hullo!

I’m a man and none of those things. I love my wife to bits and we’ve been married for 12 years and have 4 wonderful children.

We are out here! 🙂 Have faith!
 
They’re out there, they just get snapped up really quickly 😉
 
They are out there. There are some fabulous single men on this forum even looking for holy and faithful women.
 
i cant stand them. all my life i have been dealing with cheaters, porn addicts…masturbaters…drunks and abusives.and then i read on the Catholic forum that they aren’t any different…they just …do their little dirty…and say oh hey i just ran a red light…PFFFT…CONFESSION is tamarrow.’…part of me is screaming inside WHERE ARE ALL THE NON PORN ADDICTS…THE NON BEHIND YOUR BACK MASTURBATERS…THE NON…CLOSET HOMOS trying to get married for face? do they exist?
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I know several dozen of them. Try not to be discouraged by this particular forum; it makes it look like there are so many people who struggle with sexual sin in particular because the many, many Christians who don’t have no reason to frequent this forum.

God bless.
 
LilyM said:
Not quite. If they go to confession with the* intention* of continuing to sin, or else sin with the thought that they can just go to confession (like that ‘what the heck, confession is tomorrow’ kind of attitude you’re talking about) then they’re not contrite. And then the confession isn’t valid.
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That’s exactly I am saying. To go to confession without the intent to commit sin the follow day would make it invalid.
 
My experience has been, frequent Daily Mass or go somewhere where you can sit with the Blessed Sacrament - a church that presents Jesus on a regular basis. Get to know the single men who are there, you will be pleased with the Holy Spirit in their heart 🙂
 
LilyM said:
While not condoning these sins at all, they would have to be among the most difficult ones to struggle against. After all, a lot of them are percieved as being (even if they aren’t truly) ‘victimless’, and more than that as completely acceptable and ‘normal’ in secular society, unlike most other sins.
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“Men do not differ much about what things they will call evils; they differ enormously about what evils they will call excusable.” - G.K. Chesterton, Illustrated London News, 10/23/1909

These things have been going on for a while. It’s just that they are not often condemned, for fear of condemnation coming back.

“It’s not that we don’t have enough scoundrels to curse; it’s that we don’t have enough good men to curse them.” - G.K. Chesterton, Illustrated London News, 3/14/1908

The biggest excuse for sin nowadays is “physician, heal thyself”, “judge not, lest ye be judged”, and “remove the beam from your own eye”.

This is why we must not only try to be good and go to Mass, but we must be extraordinarily good and heroically holy and blameless. Otherwise, we are thrown onto the “hypocrite heap” by a world that does not want a conscience. But we must do this with love, charity, and compassion in our hearts, and not with self-righteousness and condescension.

“All men thirst to confess their crimes more than tired beasts thirst for water; but they naturally object to confessing them while other people, who have also committed the same crimes, sit by and laugh at them.” - G.K. Chesterton, Illustrated London News, 3/14/08
 
While ALL of us are sinners, it seems that you are particularly concerned with finding a man that would make a good husband and father, is this right? Well, finding a good man has everything to do with LOCATION LOCATION LOCATION!

Don’t expect to find prince charming at a bar (not that he isn’t there on occasion) because you have to sort through all the wrong types to find him.

Don’t expect to find prince Charming on your doorstep either… If he is single and looking for a wife, I don’t think there is a treasure map that leads to your front door.

The way to find your prince charming is through prayer and association. Pray for guidance in finding him, but put yourself in the best place to find (LOCATION) and that is at functions of your faith community. Mass, Bible Study, Adoration, K of C breakfasts, Soup Kitchen workers, etc…

Don’t expect perfection either… as I said before ALL of us are sinners. Find one that is open to learning more about his faith and regularly contributes his time to that pursuit.
 
WHERE ARE ALL THE NON PORN ADDICTS…THE NON BEHIND YOUR BACK MASTURBATERS…THE NON…CLOSET HOMOS
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They’re married to women that actually deserve them.
 
Black_Jaque said:
They’re married to women that actually deserve them.
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wow, that’s harsh! Are you saying that the OP or a lot of us who’ve had similar experiences with scum men don’t deserve a good man? I don’t believe I deserve my cheating husband! I think I’m entitled to somebody who’s as faithful to me as I’m to him!

To the OP: hang in there and pray. I think the good guys are out there, just REAL hard to find…my friends are married to some of them…why couldn’t I be so lucky???😦
 
On a similar note, I suffer from the same problem but in reverse;

I understand that there are probably good women out there, it’s just a shame that I’m more likely to have a winning lottery ticket struck three times by lightning on a blue moon night than actually meet one.

I’ll spare everyone a rant about what kind of women I have met in the past, we all don’t have the stomach for it! 😉
 
Durendin said:
On a similar note, I suffer from the same problem but in reverse;

I understand that there are probably good women out there, it’s just a shame that I’m more likely to have a winning lottery ticket struck three times by lightning on a blue moon night than actually meet one.

I’ll spare everyone a rant about what kind of women I have met in the past, we all don’t have the stomach for it! 😉
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I totally agree with you. Even when I go to church I don’t see any women to even strike a conversation with.

All you can do is have pity on these people. There are sooo many false catholics like the OP described. But you still have to have respect for the other gender. It can be very depressive after a few years of trying.

This is a problem with americanized society. After all the women I dated I realized that it would have to basically be a miracle to find a good one.

That is why I started to date women from other countires. They are usually much more faithfull and traditional. It is a pleasure to date them. With that said however I could go around and bash women all day long but I don’t. What I realized is that if a woman bashes men then she will bash you after marriage. The same is true for men.

Recently I went on a date with a woman for coffee. All she did was bi-tch about men. I almost left before finishing my coffee. That was very disrespectfull. And this girl was catholic.
 
obscured said:
i cant stand them. all my life i have been dealing with cheaters, porn addicts…masturbaters…drunks and abusives.and then i read on the Catholic forum that they aren’t any different…they just …do their little dirty…and say oh hey i just ran a red light…PFFFT…CONFESSION is tamarrow.’…part of me is screaming inside WHERE ARE ALL THE NON PORN ADDICTS…THE NON BEHIND YOUR BACK MASTURBATERS…THE NON…CLOSET HOMOS trying to get married for face? do they exist?
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Here’s a wild idea. Why don’t you look at your own sins, just for a (probably total) change of pace?

How about you start off with your overweening spiritual pride? Satan didn’t fall by porn addiction.
 
Mannyfit75 said:
%between%Second, if they go to confession, and continue sinning, they have not truly confess with contrite hearts. The confession itself becomes invalid, and the sinner will be subject to the judgement of God.

I hope this helps.
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I don’t think that is correct.
One can certainly confess with a contrite heart and later fall again into the same sin, esp. if it is something habitual or addictive like porn or gambling. That would not invalidate the original confession or we would all be in trouble, no?
 
James G wrote:
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But you still have to respect the other gender
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Yes men have a duty of charity and a duty of care to look after the wellbeing of all, not just women but children and men. But I think that any man who wastes his time paying respects to women could make better use of his gifts and ‘not throw his precious pearls before swine’!

I have in the past been very active in support of the weak and vulnerable. Protecting the rights of non-contractual sessionally employed people. Raising my head above the parapet and taking flack in the name of Christian duty.

I have always been at the cutting edge leading the way to Equality of Opportunity and acceptance of Diversity,

Imagine then how I felt when I undertook a years level 4 course of study when I had to sit listening to 'how wicked us men were in denying women their equal rights, how we are all aggressive ‘women beaters’, Spend all the family resources of gambling and alcohol. How we are responsible for all the worlds ills. How there is only one word a man understands so he repeats it three times ‘me’ ‘me’ ‘me’.How actually we are now redundant. Since the advent of artificial insemination, men are no longer required!

Everytime I left the classroom, I felt as though I had been badly beaten up. It was traumatising. The course tutor encouraged this but the female members of the group were not slow in taking her lead and reciprocating.

NEVER NEVER NEVER AGAIN will I ever speak up for a woman or women’s rights in the work place. In my view they do not want equality they want total dicatorial supremacy.

I would still defend a lone female not because she is female but because she is a vulnerable human being. But I will never again speak for ‘women-plural’ as they do not deserve a voice. I can now see where Islam is coming from. They are absolutely right and justified to stop women from becoming the ruthless dictators they aspire to ! :confused:
 
Sixtus said:
Yes men have a duty of charity and a duty of care to look after the wellbeing of all, not just women but children and men. But I think that any man who wastes his time paying respects to women could make better use of his gifts and ‘not throw his precious pearls before swine’!

I have in the past been very active in support of the weak and vulnerable. Protecting the rights of non-contractual sessionally employed people. Raising my head above the parapet and taking flack in the name of Christian duty.

I have always been at the cutting edge leading the way to Equality of Opportunity and acceptance of Diversity,

Imagine then how I felt when I undertook a years level 4 course of study when I had to sit listening to 'how wicked us men were in denying women their equal rights, how we are all aggressive ‘women beaters’, Spend all the family resources of gambling and alcohol. How we are responsible for all the worlds ills. How there is only one word a man understands so he repeats it three times ‘me’ ‘me’ ‘me’.How actually we are now redundant. Since the advent of artificial insemination, men are no longer required!

Everytime I left the classroom, I felt as though I had been badly beaten up. It was traumatising. The course tutor encouraged this but the female members of the group were not slow in taking her lead and reciprocating.

NEVER NEVER NEVER AGAIN will I ever speak up for a woman or women’s rights in the work place. In my view they do not want equality they want total dicatorial supremacy.

I would still defend a lone female not because she is female but because she is a vulnerable human being. But I will never again speak for ‘women-plural’ as they do not deserve a voice. I can now see where Islam is coming from. They are absolutely right and justified to stop women from becoming the ruthless dictators they aspire to ! :confused:
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Furthermore, man is the head of woman. 😉

This is how God made it, and any women arguing against it are arguing both against men’s natural superiority (through intelligence, strength, and logic/rationale) and against God’s ordained order.

That is not to say that women do not excel in other areas (e.g motherhood and raising children, emotional intelligence, a stronger resistance to urges of the flesh).

The two sexes were made to complement each other, but God put man in charge.

God Bless!

p.s I realise it is much easier to argue this as a man, but I think most women want a man who is in charge anyway, and not a walkover!
 
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