Manbashing: how to stop?

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Magicsilence said:
p.s I realise it is much easier to argue this as a man, but I think most women want a man who is in charge anyway, and not a walkover!
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I believe you are correct about this, at least for most women. I’ve been on dates where the men let me dominate the conversation, never objected to anything I said (and I’d say some pretty radical things on purpose in hopes they’d be vocally opposed), and would let me pick every movie, restaurant, whatever. Needless to say, after a few dates like that I stopped dating them.
 
obscured said:
i cant stand them. all my life i have been dealing with cheaters, porn addicts…masturbaters…drunks and abusives.and then i read on the Catholic forum that they aren’t any different…they just …do their little dirty…and say oh hey i just ran a red light…PFFFT…CONFESSION is tamarrow.’…part of me is screaming inside WHERE ARE ALL THE NON PORN ADDICTS…THE NON BEHIND YOUR BACK MASTURBATERS…THE NON…CLOSET HOMOS trying to get married for face? do they exist?
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I’m confused ---- where are the sinless women whom these sinless men should date? Do you know any such women? Some of the good Catholic single men here would love their phone numbers.

I dated a lot of good women back in my time, but I never met one who was sinless.
 
rkberlin said:
wow, that’s harsh! Are you saying that the OP or a lot of us who’ve had similar experiences with scum men don’t deserve a good man? I don’t believe I deserve my cheating husband! I think I’m entitled to somebody who’s as faithful to me as I’m to him!

To the OP: hang in there and pray. I think the good guys are out there, just REAL hard to find…my friends are married to some of them…why couldn’t I be so lucky???😦
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your not “entitled” to anything, you deal with the men you deal with by your own choice. the same as i dealt with the women i dealt with by my own choice. I can’t speak for you, but I have come to terms with the fact that my past bad relationships came from poor choices and standards on my part, due to the changes I needed to make that I didn’t want to face.

the OP certainly needs to be a little more compassionate, and
worry more about the plank in thier own eye, as do we all. It is one thing to vent about an injustice, but to just berate sinners based on a type of sin, which they deem somehow worse than what they do, is just as bad a sin in itself.

how about praying for men and women afflicted with porn addiction, or who battle these types of things, or promote to teach them about intimacy, and what God intended for it.

Peace of the Lord be with you
 
Please I have a person in our music group who has come to join the Catholic church and has a problem with marrage (at present parted). Asked if I would pray for their marrage, and I asked if it was all right toiplace the situation on this forum. No problem, please pray, this will also help her conversion.

i have another situation where a person came to me at work and is speaking suicide but says will not do it. The person has told me that they are some kind of christian? This morning he forgave others who in the past have hurt him and has let it all go to the cross of Christ.He has asked me for my copy of “The Passion”.
Help me to be strong and for him to strengthen in Christ.
Thank you
God bless

littleone
 
i have to say something…

there was only one perfect man and he died at the age of 33.

You will not find another perfect man. there will be defects in every man. But you have to be at the right places to get men like that. Again, these men do not last very long out there… 🙂

have hope my dear… and remember donot look for the bad… look for the good in a man…

My friend always told me: Men are very simple and they have very simple needs… they want to take care of us and feel needed and want RESPECT… thats about it…
 
By Rkberlin
wow, that’s harsh! Are you saying that the OP or a lot of us who’ve had similar experiences with scum men don’t deserve a good man? I don’t believe I deserve my cheating husband! I think I’m entitled to somebody who’s as faithful to me as I’m to him!

To the OP: hang in there and pray. I think the good guys are out there, just REAL hard to find…my friends are married to some of them…why couldn’t I be so lucky???😦
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By BlestOne
Aww Black Jaque… Since I have a good husband, are you saying I deserve him? I wonder if I do everyday!
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The juxtaposition of these two posts could not have been better!😃

To the OP, rather than spending all your energy searching for a good man, devote some energy to making yourself worthy of that good man if and when you meet him. It would be such a pity for him to pass you up because he thought too little of you.

I have to wonder about a woman who cannot comprehend a man’s struggle for purity on some level. Does chastity come that easily for them? If so, why? And would that be a good thing to have in a mate? Like I say to young couples contemplating living together, “but as brother and sister” – Any woman who can live in the same home with me and NOT be tempted to sin would lose chance to be my spouse.
 
my sincerest apologies to anyone i may have hit a ‘nerve’ with…esp. mister black. i definately am not sinless, i know no one is. i had a rant the other night, about a few issues that really bother me, -and most loving, caring, kind, DESERVING women…catholic or not. so thanks for all the replies…GOD BLESS!
 
There is another thread that discusses Real Men.

I will post the link:

forums.catholic-questions.org/showthread.php?t=129532&highlight=real

In addition there are several books that are worth reading:

This quote is something I posted on another thread on how to not marry a jerk:

Both men and women fall victim to both inside and outside pressures to conform to behaviors that are destructive. Neither age nor experience is of much benefit, unfortunately. And the damage can take 10 to 20 years to “work out”.

AND, there are people out there who seem to enjoy deliberately screwing up other people with really bad advice.

That’s why the books I mentioned in the post (#3) provide some “balance” that can help offset both bad advice and malicious persuasion, along with the core beliefs that are destructive.

I’ve repeated the titles of the books:

“Ten Stupid Things Men Do to Ruin Their Lives”

“Ten Stupid Things Women Do to Ruin Their Lives”

“Woman Power”

“Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage”

“Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands”

Interesting perspectives on choosing well and behaving well, insteading of choosing badly and behaving badly.

The author in each case is Dr. Laura Schlessinger.
 
rkberlin said:
wow, that’s harsh! Are you saying that the OP or a lot of us who’ve had similar experiences with scum men don’t deserve a good man? I don’t believe I deserve my cheating husband! I think I’m entitled to somebody who’s as faithful to me as I’m to him!

To the OP: hang in there and pray. I think the good guys are out there, just REAL hard to find…my friends are married to some of them…why couldn’t I be so lucky???😦
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Sister cors it aint nothing to do with LUCK!!!
Iam one of those loviing husbands who tell my wife each day I love her and give her flowers take her out and more, give her $$ to buy cloths she chooses, go to spend time with friends have them around. Most we pray together, we do house work together. And I got to tell you it has nothing to do with luck.
No I asked Jesus if He had some one for me all I wanted was a woman who would love me for being me, catholic, musical, and I got it all.

Now I am eternally grateful to Jesus, who hears the words of a sinner.

God bless
littleone.
 
  1. Choose wisely.
  2. Just stop.
  3. Develop some gracious scriptlines. Repeat them over and over.
  4. Be grateful.
 
obscured said:
i cant stand them. all my life i have been dealing with cheaters, porn addicts…masturbaters…drunks and abusives.and then i read on the Catholic forum that they aren’t any different…they just …do their little dirty…and say oh hey i just ran a red light…PFFFT…CONFESSION is tamarrow.’…part of me is screaming inside WHERE ARE ALL THE NON PORN ADDICTS…THE NON BEHIND YOUR BACK MASTURBATERS…THE NON…CLOSET HOMOS trying to get married for face? do they exist?
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Wow…!

You done been hangin’ out in the WRONG places,… apparently…!

Go to freakin’ church, chickadee… 🙂

And don’t hang out with dorks! Show a little discrimination, for goodny sakes…!

(( Is this a serious post, or is the OP pulling our collective leg…? ))
 
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