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That was HoosierDaddy. I don’t think he stuck around after the format change.
 
Sorry that this is so random,but would you happen to be the Adam school teacher from Ireland that was interviewed regarding pro life by The Tonightly with Tom Ballard,an Australian show?
It aired in Australia last night and it looks just like you😋.

(Sorry if it’s not you!)
 
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Small world!
Good job 👏.It was very brave of you to be interviewed for this show as it has a strong “leftist” and pro abortion leaning.

Unfortunately the only way that I know how to access it is by watching the show via iview by going to iview dot abc dot net dot au
Replace all the dots with .
Then on the iview website type in Tonightly with Tom Ballard.
This works in Australia but I don’t know if it will work in Ireland.
You can also try typing in
tonightly with tom ballard bridie goes to ireland on google search.

If that doesn’t work,maybe you could try emailing the ABC and asking for a copy of the show.
 
Wait, so you’re not even an adult yet?

Okay, slow down, sit down and relax 🙂

Every adult needs to be able to support themselves. That’s one of the foundational pillars of adulthood ( no, I’m not slamming SAHMs—which is a career in itself, although everybody should be ready to pick up the financial reins in case of unforeseen circumstances).

As a student, your job is “student”.
If you’re struggling at being a student, then get help.
Eventually you need to stand on your own two feet, but the key word is eventually.

Get your job training, get your job, the. Worry about finding a spouse.

But don’t project into the future right now…

Peace
 
What do you do if the wife earns 10 times the salary of the husband? And the wife wants to work rather than stay at home and look after children and pets?

Should the children go to daycare and they both work? Or is it better for the farther who wanted to stay home with the kids to do so?
 
Alex5 said:
What do you do if the wife earns 10 times the salary of the husband? And the wife wants to work rather than stay at home and look after children and pets?
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Personally I wouldn’t have married someone who was resistant to staying at home with the kids.
 
It’s important that couples be honest and discuss issues such as this prior to marriage. Personally, I would be reluctant to marry someone who had a mindset that following preconceived gender roles was more important than the family’s security and overall happiness.

If a man is independently wealthy or fortunate to have a job that is both high paying and otherwise conducive to being a physically present and emotionally contributing member of a family, that’s great! I’m happy to stay home with the kids in that case. As much as I enjoy my job, I love being home teaching and loving on my children far more. In such an instance, it would probably be in the best interest of my kids to avoid daycare and frankly, I’m a dang good teacher and would probably enjoy homeschooling a great deal.

However, that decision would be based entirely on what is best for our family at a given time and not on some sort of mistaken notion about “a woman’s place”. A woman’s place is the same as a man’s place, and that is doing whatever is necessary to raise healthy, happy, and moral children. I would not be willing to stay at home at the expense of taking on debt, being financially insecure, begging off of our parents, or having a husband with a career that for all practical purposes, makes me a single parent. I would not agree to marry someone who placed their idea of “traditional gender roles” over what was practical or best for our family life.
 
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I would not agree to marry someone who placed their idea of “traditional gender roles” over what was practical or best for our family life.
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That’s fine. But I made sure I had a career that would allow my wife to look after the kids.

For me it’s less about gender roles than the idea of one parent being able to look after the kids during the day.

I simply believe that it a better option for kids.
I would tend toward traditional roles I guess.
 
Allegra said:
However, that decision would be based entirely on what is best for our family at a given time and not on some sort of mistaken notion about “a woman’s place”. A woman’s place is the same as a man’s place, and that is doing whatever is necessary to raise healthy, happy, and moral children. I would not be willing to stay at home at the expense of taking on debt, being financially insecure, begging off of our parents, or having a husband with a career that for all practical purposes, makes me a single parent. I would not agree to marry someone who placed their idea of “traditional gender roles” over what was practical or best for our family life.
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Yes to all of this. A husband and wife should both go into marriage with the understanding that life happens and that while you may have a preference for a certain arrangement, things might not work out the way you hope. Families’ needs change and both parents need to adapt to that and be willing to do whatever is necessary to make sure everyone is taken care of. People get laid off and get in accidents.

There is also the issue that some women start out wanting to be a SAHM and find that the reality of that is much different than the expectation. If a woman decides her family would be better served by having her in the work force, a good husband is going to consider that instead of saying “Well this is what we agreed on, and you’re a woman so you’re staying home”. People (my pre-child self included) have all these ideas about what having kids is going to be like, and sometimes there are a lot of surprises.
 
Agree. Work opportunities can change as well as payments for a certain profession.
Funny, I experienced it from the other side - I always saw myself in a fulltime professional job and now I´m more happy at home (which I can´t do atm, so I work 38 h).
I would not make plans for more than a couple of years, generally.
 
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Work opportunities can change as well as payments for a certain profession.
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Indeed, personally I feel that both people should stay in at least part time work so that there is less chance of a complete loss of the household income and it would probably be easier to find a full time job after working part time if it becomes necessary.
 
I guess. But that is one reason why I decided to go into a stable career with a clear salary progression and four months of holidays throughout the year. So I can provide sufficiently for my family. I think in general men get their identity more from their profession and this is why traditionally men work and women stay home.
 
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AdamP88 said:
But that is one reason why I decided to go into a stable career with a clear salary progression and four months of holidays throughout the year.
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This was very smart. I hate to see people totally give up on the idea of being a stay at home parent or being married to one out of fear that the family will end up destitute if the working spouse would pass away or become disabled. With some careful planning such as having adequate life insurance (which I’m sure you have) to pay off the mortgage, funeral expenses, and outstanding debts, adequate long and short term disability insurance and also some insurance on the stay at home parent that would cover child care and funeral expenses, these things would help lessen the burden should anything catastrophic happen and possibly allow a widowed spouse to be able to get a year or two of vocational training if need be. If the house and vehicles were paid off, they may not need to bring in the same amount of paycheck their deceased spouse did to keep things going. Children of a deceased working parent would also receive social security benefits until they graduate high school so that would also help the family. I’m not saying things would be ideal for many families, but having a stay at home parent is possible with good planning for the unexpected.
 
Elizabeth3 said:
I hate to see people totally give up on the idea of being a stay at home parent or being married to one out of fear that the family will end up destitute if the working spouse would pass away or become disabled.
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I think every young couple should have life insurance on each other.
If I die my wife will get €100,000.
It doesn’t cost very much to set up this kind of arrangement.
 
Op,
Although it is practical to look at salary ranges, don’t settle for something just because of money only. That’s a bad idea.

You will start to recognise in your studies the gifts and talents God gave you. you then will choose a career that will not feel like work when you do. God gives unique gifts to everyone.

Then you live within your means with your wife and family.
 
Katie777 said:
Although it is practical to look at salary ranges, don’t settle for something just because of money only. That’s a bad idea.

You will start to recognise in your studies the gifts and talents God gave you. you then will choose a career that will not feel like work when you do. God gives unique gifts to everyone.
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I have to say that from experience, this can be bad advice.
Not everyone is going to land in a “dream job” that doesn’t seem like work, and many people do have to prioritise money over career satisfaction.

Sure, some people have jobs they love, and I do think it’s possible. But sometimes it’s just a matter of doing what you can for the cash.
 
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