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JOL
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Does anyone here wear the Mantilla for Mass?
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ac_claire
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I cover my head with a brown kerchief I bought at devorah’s site online. It’s not a mantilla but it does the job. Occasionally I’ll forget to bring it with me to Mass, but I think that’ll happen less and less as I get more used to it.
Just curious…why do you ask?
Just curious…why do you ask?
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roveau
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There were a few wearing them at St Cecilia’s, Wyong, last Sunday. It looks respectful and elegant.
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JOL
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Why do I ask???I cover my head with a brown kerchief I bought at devorah’s site online. It’s not a mantilla but it does the job. Occasionally I’ll forget to bring it with me to Mass, but I think that’ll happen less and less as I get more used to it.
Just curious…why do you ask?
Well…I have never seen women covering their heads at Mass until I started coming to my current Parish. Only a few ladies do it. I kind of feel God calling me to change my outwards (clothing and covering of my head) and wanted to see if this is something that is making a come back in the Church. I also have reservations…
I don’t want people to stare at me, I know, that shouldn’t be a thought that I worry about if I feel the Lord calling me to do this, yet, it is.
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RosaryCrusader
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Several years ago my wife had a similar calling. She is 33 years old now and she was really self conscious about being one of the few who wears a veil. Keep in mind this was a liberal novus ordo parish and my wife felt she was rejecting God’s call to do this so she confessed it in confession to this liberal Priest. Much to her surprise the Priest encouraged her to wear the veil thus validating her belief that this was God’s will.
People may stare at first but not as much as you think. As always, when trying something new, we tend to exaggerate our thoughts and how others might perceive us. For every stare you do get you will probably have several more stares of admiration. I can’t tell you the number of people who commented, including Priests, after Mass on how they admired my wife and daughters wearing the veil to mass.
Of course, if you attend the Latin Mass, you’ll fit right in and you would be the sore thumb if you didn’t wear one.
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JOL
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Thanks! This is reassuring as I am 31. In my parish I have seen two other ladies where the Mantilla. One is much older and the other seems to be about my age. It is more of a traditional parish. But, growing up I never saw it and never even knew it (the Mantilla) had a name. I never knew women naturally wore one to Mass long ago. Where have we gone as a people?Several years ago my wife had a similar calling. She is 33 years old now and she was really self conscious about being one of the few who wears a veil. Keep in mind this was a liberal novus ordo parish and my wife felt she was rejecting God’s call to do this so she confessed it in confession to this liberal Priest. Much to her surprise the Priest encouraged her to wear the veil thus validating her belief that this was God’s will.
People may stare at first but not as much as you think. As always, when trying something new, we tend to exaggerate our thoughts and how others might perceive us. For every stare you do get you will probably have several more stares of admiration. I can’t tell you the number of people who commented, including Priests, after Mass on how they admired my wife and daughters wearing the veil to mass.
Of course, if you attend the Latin Mass, you’ll fit right in and you would be the sore thumb if you didn’t wear one.
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RosaryCrusader
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As a people we’ve strayed… you know, whenever I read the Bible about the infidelity of the jews I think, “How can they be so STUPID! - they just witnessed the plagues of Egypt, a column of fire descending down and preventing Pharoe from attacking, the parting of the red sea and then they worship a golden calf! How stupid is that?” Every successive generation was unfaithful to God. It doesn’t make sense but thus is human nature. If we learn our lesson our children will soon forget it only to commit the same errors.
Don’t feel bad about not knowing what Catholics did just 30 or 40 years ago… we’ve all gone through it. There’s an exceedingly rich Catholic heritage (and spirituality) we were never told we had and which, for the most part, has been disregarded, thrown out, or ridiculed but when you find out the reason for them you’ll think how much it all makes sense. The sad thing is the most opposition to traditional practices such as wearing veils, altar rails, patens etc. come not from the outside but from fellow Catholics.
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JOL
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In my parish we don’t have an alter rail, but when we line up for communion, we do so across the front of the alter, rather than two lines up the center isle. This gives each recipient of our Lord the chance to receive Him in the manner they choose. Some do so on their knees, some simply bow, others just stand, whatever. My point is, we have the opportunity to be more reverant which I am oh so thankful for. I wish we could go back to the days where there was more reverance as a community. I have only lived through V2, but it seems to me that the changes V2 created weren’t such a positive thing.
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thankful4grace
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I never saw anyone wearing a head covering and I just started changing and re-examining my clothing that I wear to church. I went to a Catholic school from first grade through high school and my parents are not Catholic but that is another topic. I don’t remember discussions about head covering and it was only recently in the past month or so that I’ve been wearing a head covering to church. I have to thank the internet for my interest in head coverings and also felt called to wear one once I read more and knew the meaning behind it.
No one in my church wears a mantilla but I’ve seen a few older women wear hats. I think it’s wonderful you want to wear a mantilla to church. In the beginning, I also had similar thoughts about people staring. I still feel self conscious about it but I always pray right before or as I’m going into church to the Holy Spirit to guide me and keep me focused on the real reason why I am in mass and why I wear the head covering. It is getting easier and I feel less self conscious now. It has also helped me to be more reverent during mass as well as focus on Jesus’ real presence in the Holy Eucharist.
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redrosetea
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Almost no one ever veils at my parish…If someone comes in wearing one no one pays any attention…I have never seen anyone pointing to a woman wearing a veil saying look at her
If you want to veil by all means do so, and don’t worry about anyone else
If you want to veil by all means do so, and don’t worry about anyone else
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Kolbelover
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one man’s perspective:
woman is God’s masterpiece. Yet, in a fallen world, your beauty is often times twisted in the minds of otherwise good men and through no fault of your own, our thoughts may stray away from purity… sad, but true. I must confess, that this has even happened to yours truly at Holy Mass.
there are several beautiful women who wear the mantilla at my parish…and this outward sign of reverence and modesty is a reminder to me that I am called to love my sisters in Christ as God intended.
thus, wearing a mantilla may be an act of charity…
woman is God’s masterpiece. Yet, in a fallen world, your beauty is often times twisted in the minds of otherwise good men and through no fault of your own, our thoughts may stray away from purity… sad, but true. I must confess, that this has even happened to yours truly at Holy Mass.
there are several beautiful women who wear the mantilla at my parish…and this outward sign of reverence and modesty is a reminder to me that I am called to love my sisters in Christ as God intended.
thus, wearing a mantilla may be an act of charity…
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JOL
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I never thought of it this way, thanks!
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Lainey63
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Sometimes I wear a mantilla to the TLM but it is rare. I’m always fussing with it…so it is a great distraction for me. But I see women wear it at the NO mass and they always look nice. So if I were you I wouldn’t be so self conscious about it. People aren’t staring, they’re just admiring your beauty. My mother used to say that to me.
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Ohiomom
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I also live in MD and I wear a chapel cap or mantilla whether I attend the TLM we can go to on Sunday or the NO during the week. I was at a mass today and saw another woman with a mantilla and several women were wearing hats or caps. I wear mine regardless of what others are doing as I feel I am called to cover at mass, but I often notice other women with other ways of covering.
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JAGCath28
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Does this mean that women shouldn’t pray unless they are wearing a head covering? Like over a meal or morning/night prayers? Or the quick prayer when they see or think of something that needs to be prayed for?
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Ohiomom
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That passage is why there are some (not many) but some Catholic women (aside from religious) do cover at all times and of course it is why some protestant groups, such as Amish etc) cover.
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JAGCath28
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If most women who wear a veil today, do so to show reverance to God, should you wear it in non-Catholic churches? (or is it not required because the real presence isn’t there?)
I’m asking because I’m seriously considering wearing a veil to Mass from now on. Another question, I’m a matron of honor in a Catholic wedding coming up. I don’t really think it would be right to ask the bride for permission to wear a mantilla…what do you think?
I’m asking because I’m seriously considering wearing a veil to Mass from now on. Another question, I’m a matron of honor in a Catholic wedding coming up. I don’t really think it would be right to ask the bride for permission to wear a mantilla…what do you think?
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Ohiomom
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I wear a mantilla to show reverence to/for the Blessed Sacrament so I do not wear one if I am in a protestant church.
If you are a member of the wedding party, then you kind of have to defer to the bride, imo. Unless she is having everyone wear a mantilla or covering of some kind, it would be jarring to have one bridesmaid with a mantilla. There are ways of covering that can be more subtle, but that fulfill what you are doing in your heart. You could incorporate a headband or bow perhaps. If you are the only attendant it will probably be less of an issue and maybe you could wear a hair colored chapel cap.
If you are a member of the wedding party, then you kind of have to defer to the bride, imo. Unless she is having everyone wear a mantilla or covering of some kind, it would be jarring to have one bridesmaid with a mantilla. There are ways of covering that can be more subtle, but that fulfill what you are doing in your heart. You could incorporate a headband or bow perhaps. If you are the only attendant it will probably be less of an issue and maybe you could wear a hair colored chapel cap.
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renewed_faith
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just purchased a black and a white matilla- my first in 30 years- from Gabonnay Catholic Store in Irwin, Pa and am so happy to be wearing them again!
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