Many negative comments about my Wedding Mass

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Were the ones who felt the most guilty the ones who drank a lot at the reception?
Wonder if there was a connection between the two variables.
 
sounds like the best wedding gift you received was sound preaching from a good priest to set the foundation for your marriage and family. Too bad many of your guests were blinded and had their ears closed to the truth and did not recognize the value of that gift. It is my experience having worked for the Church now for several years, that whenever individuals are angry with the Church teaching and the way it is presented, and especially with the presenter, it arises from their own guilt because a nerve has been struck. One of the most neglected Spiritual Works of Mercy is Admonishing the Sinner and another is Counselling the Doubtful.
 
Like the others said, this Priest sounds good to me. I wish there were more like him! 👍
 
Congratulations, and God bless you and your wife with a strong, happy marriage!

I would tell these complainers that it’s rather rude to complain to the bride and groom about the holy words of the priest at their once-in-a-lifetime sacrament of marriage. As the many other posters have said, these are the people who probably needed to hear his words the most. That doesn’t surprise me. What does surprise me is the incredible rudeness they exercised in complaining about one of the holiest moments in your and your bride’s lives. These people are obviously off course and needed to hear father’s words. Just pray that they will sink in!
 
Well. I’m going to have to go against the grain here. I’m sure I’ll get blasted, but it won’t be the first time.

If it were my wedding mass, I wouldn’t want my priest to chastise the congregation for the previous reasons. I would want him to preach on the beauty of marriage, the prospect of children, and what the future will hold if we stay true to each other and the church.

Don’t get me wrong, the things that he said, and the vigor he used to preach NEEDS to be done. I’ll be the first one to condone that…but not at a wedding mass. I know for a fact that I have many relatives who co-habitated, practice ABC, and fornicated before marriage, but I wouldn’t go out of my way to make them feel like they were the dirt under my feet just because I didn’t do those things. People don’t go to weddings for that reason.

Please forgive me for making assumptions, but the fact that you asked him to comment about fornication, birth-control, and so on seemed like you were gloating that you and your fiance did not use these practices. I just feel that that is not something to be rubbing in other people’s faces. Your reward will be in heaven.

I do not know your motivations. If I am making too many assumptions I apologize. I don’t mean to be a “troublemaker.” I just have a difference of opinion than everyone else, and I’m sure that I’ll pay the consequences for it. :o
 
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StratusRose:
Well. I’m going to have to go against the grain here. I’m sure I’ll get blasted, but it won’t be the first time.

If it were my wedding mass, I wouldn’t want my priest to chastise the congregation for the previous reasons. I would want him to preach on the beauty of marriage, the prospect of children, and what the future will hold if we stay true to each other and the church.

Don’t get me wrong, the things that he said, and the vigor he used to preach NEEDS to be done. I’ll be the first one to condone that…but not at a wedding mass. I know for a fact that I have many relatives who co-habitated, practice ABC, and fornicated before marriage, but I wouldn’t go out of my way to make them feel like they were the dirt under my feet just because I didn’t do those things. People don’t go to weddings for that reason.

Please forgive me for making assumptions, but the fact that you asked him to comment about fornication, birth-control, and so on seemed like you were gloating that you and your fiance did not use these practices. I just feel that that is not something to be rubbing in other people’s faces. Your reward will be in heaven.

I do not know your motivations. If I am making too many assumptions I apologize. I don’t mean to be a “troublemaker.” I just have a difference of opinion than everyone else, and I’m sure that I’ll pay the consequences for it. :o
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No you right, it is their Wedding but to use it as a soap-box to insult people you invited to your Wedding is very mean. Now saying that, That Priest sounds great for a Sunday Homily because he tells it like it is. 👍
 
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StratusRose:
By the way…Congratulations on your marriage! 😃
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You make a point…perhaps some don’t share it but I don’t think you’ll get ‘blasted’ for it.

I think it just so refreshing for a priest to speak up…so many don’t now. In our church…the best homilies come from one of our deacons…
 
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kaymart:
but to use it as a soap-box to insult people you invited to your Wedding is very mean.
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You assume way too much about me, my friend. You assume that our intentions (my fiance, myself and the Priest) were to USE a wedding in order to INSULT people.

I am sorry if the truth insults people, but it does. No one was singled out. What was preached against was fornication, adultery, pornography, and not an individual person. If there is any place for this to happen it is in this day and age in which marriage is under attack. What was preached was a defense of marriage and a condemnation of the culture which holds no respect for Catholic Christian marriage.

If someone feels insulted for us condemning these practices, i’m sorry, but they are STILL wrong.

I’ll have you know that it was mostly the non-Catholics who were impressed… Including one who is in contact with me now and inquiring about his possible conversion. Also, a 13 year old left sad that his parish isn’t more like Fathers… it lead him to confession. There was also a Catholic Answers apologist at the wedding whose name I will not repeat, but he is a friend of mine, he was impressed with Father’s “toughness” and “courage”.

So as you see it was not all bad, but the amount of bad comments did bother me.

p.s. – I believe telling people the truth is far from mean.
 
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StratusRose:
If I am making too many assumptions I apologize.
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You are making too many assumptions, but no I will not blast you for it. You are entitled your own opinion. I will assure you this though: there was no gloating involved. You have to know my family, my fiance’s family, and the people in attendence. This is their one chance to hear the truth preached… You may disagree with how it was went about… But please do not accuse me of gloating… far from it: evangelization was the concern here.

Please read my previous post as well. God bless you and thank you for being willing to speak your mind.
 
James_2:24:
You assume way too much about me, my friend. You assume that our intentions (my fiance, myself and the Priest) were to USE a wedding in order to INSULT people.

I am sorry if the truth insults people, but it does. No one was singled out. What was preached against was fornication, adultery, pornography, and not an individual person. If there is any place for this to happen it is in this day and age in which marriage is under attack. What was preached was a defense of marriage and a condemnation of the culture which holds no respect for Catholic Christian marriage.

If someone feels insulted for us condemning these practices, i’m sorry, but they are STILL wrong.

I’ll have you know that it was mostly the non-Catholics who were impressed… Including one who is in contact with me now and inquiring about his possible conversion. Also, a 13 year old left sad that his parish isn’t more like Fathers… it lead him to confession. There was also a Catholic Answers apologist at the wedding whose name I will not repeat, but he is a friend of mine, he was impressed with Father’s “toughness” and “courage”.

So as you see it was not all bad, but the amount of bad comments did bother me.
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The angels rejoice when each sould repents and returns ‘home’ to the truth.

Can you imagine how many lives may have been changed for the better!?

Another reason to be glad on your wedding celebration.
 
James_2:24:
You assume way too much about me, my friend. You assume that our intentions (my fiance, myself and the Priest) were to USE a wedding in order to INSULT people.

I am sorry if the truth insults people, but it does. No one was singled out. What was preached against was fornication, adultery, pornography, and not an individual person. If there is any place for this to happen it is in this day and age in which marriage is under attack. What was preached was a defense of marriage and a condemnation of the culture which holds no respect for Catholic Christian marriage.

If someone feels insulted for us condemning these practices, i’m sorry, but they are STILL wrong.

I’ll have you know that it was mostly the non-Catholics who were impressed… Including one who is in contact with me now and inquiring about his possible conversion. Also, a 13 year old left sad that his parish isn’t more like Fathers… it lead him to confession. There was also a Catholic Answers apologist at the wedding whose name I will not repeat, but he is a friend of mine, he was impressed with Father’s “toughness” and “courage”.

So as you see it was not all bad, but the amount of bad comments did bother me.

p.s. – I believe telling people the truth is far from mean.
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The rest of my post (which was left out:rolleyes: why?) praised The Priest. I would love to hear him on a Sunday Homily. It’s was your wedding and your right, but “I” still would never make anyone feel uncomfortable on what should be a Joyous Day. And believe me a lot of sinners attended my Wedding. (and they were mostly family) Who am I to judge? They have to make peace with the Lord. What you do to your family and friends is your business.
 
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kaymart:
The rest of my post (which was left out:rolleyes: why?) praised The Priest. I would love to hear him on a Sunday Homily. It’s was your wedding and your right, but “I” still would never make anyone feel uncomfortable on what should be a Joyous Day. And believe me a lot of sinners attended my Wedding. (and they were mostly family) Who am I to judge? They have to make peace with the Lord. What you do to your family and friends is your business.
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Thanks for your thoughts. I believe we will just have to agree to disagree. There was no judging of any individual involved. Just the condemnation of objectively sinful acts. Also, the intent was not to make anyone uncomfortable, however, if they are guilty of sin I can see how they would be uncomfortable. But it is this “guilt” that causes us to change. As Karl Keating once said, “I am a big fan of guilt, it tells me that there is something wrong”.

It was still a joyous day. I believe even more joyful because I know that we had done as St. Francis said: “Preach the Gospel always…” and not catered to any individuals comfort, but always were about the work of the Lord.

The flipside to this is just about everyone came up to me and said it was the best wedding and reception they’ve been to, but… [insert problem with homily here]… so as you can see it was still joyful for them and the word was preached.

Thanks again, I respect your opinion.
 
Agree to disagree, no hard feelings:) By the way, May you both have a long and happy marriage.:blessyou:
 
We definetly need more of this type homily in The Church.
People have become lulled into a false sense that they are good and don’t need to examine their own lives.
Any Saturday I can go to the Sacrament of Reconciliation and there is no line at all.
Too much fuzzy wuzzy LOVE is preached and not enough true Church doctrine.
I applaud both of you and your Priest and if I lived in your area would love to attend your parish.
Don’t worry about the nay sayers. It was your wedding and if you were happy with it, that’s all that counts.
Congratulations to you both!
 
Since the priest’s homily was directed by you and your wife, then kudos to you, and too bad if the non-faithful Catholics got their noses bent out of shape.

You know, as do the rest of us, that the ones who are most ‘insulted’ are the ones who have been rationalizing their behavior all along. I can guarantee Father’s words keep creeping into their minds at night and are having an affect on their souls right now.

That was the intent of you and your wife, so you’ve done your duty and can keep your head high for the conversion of the non-Catholics at your wedding and for planting the proper seeds in the hearts of the Catholics present.

The only question I have is when you heard these negative comments, did you let the people know you loved his homily, you and your wife agree with everything he said and look forward to living your marriage out accordingly?
 
Hmmm…:hmmm:

You wanted your priest to preach the Truth, and then you were surprised that many of your guests couldn’t handle it? And you were expecting…??

My thoughts (since you asked for them) are that sadly, you should have seen it coming. I just hope you had a really great and clever response for those who had the nerve to complain to your face!

I can’t imagine being a guest and insulting the host to his face that way. Does no one know the fine art of biting one’s tongue anymore? 😛
 
James_2:24:
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My thought is you have a really cool priest and I would have been smilin’ all through the wedding in delight of everyone’s squirming! hehehee…

Most interesting to me though is… YOUR response to those who complained. Did you defend your priest? You didn’t apologize I hope. 🙂

Congrats on your nuptuals. May God bless you with a long happy and fruitful marraige and a bunch of kids! 😃
 
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