I’ve been in the same position a number of times. My position is that anyone inclined to believe that these alleged apparitions are legitimate would do well to visit the diocese website and read what the Bishop has to say.
cbismo.com/index.php?mod=vijest&vijest=101
I’ve come to some firm conclusions about this. If I’m wrong about them, if there’s some point I’ve missed or misstated, then I’d appreciate being corrected. I know that there’s more than one Deacon, Priest or canon lawyer lurking this site.
My understanding is that the local ordinary has the authority to pass initial judgment in the validity of alleged apparitions in his diocese. My understanding is that under canon law his judgement is presumed correct until proven otherwise, and thus the faithful are bound to adhere to that judgement with religious submission of mind.
To date, every local ordinary and comission investigating the events at Medjugorje has concluded that there is no evidence that it’s a legitimate apparition.
In my opinion, the behavior that the Bishop reports is most decididly NOT in accordance with what the Blessed Mother would have us do. Our Lady would NEVER countenance disobedience to the Bishop.
Under canon law (as I understand it), we are bound to submit to the judgement of the Bishop until it’s proven that he’s wrong. Because both of the Bishops and all of the comissions have concluded
non constat de supernaturalitate, we the faithful are bound to NOT act as if this is a legitimate apparition. The mere fact that the Vatican has decided to look into it further does not change that, and in fact to date the Holy See defers to the judgement of the Bishop in response to questions about the proper attitude toward the events at Medjugorje.
There are many dozens of
approved apparitions in which our Blessed Mother has asked for the things this alleged apparition at Medjugorje asks. There is no need to chase after an unapproved apparition merely because it piques our fancy.
We do not benefit from being disobedient to the law of the Church. It seems to me that even if we believe that this is a legitimate apparition, if the Bishop judges that it is not we will gain more grace by refusing to listen to the alleged apparition in obedience to the Bishop, than we will by engaging in the pious acts that the alleged apparition requests (even if they otherwise would be good and pious acts in accordance with Church teaching).
Even if
I were the one to whom the alleged apparition appeared, I would submit myself to the judgement of the Bishop. If he concluded
non constat de supernaturalitate, then all of my public and private acts would be in accordance with his judgement. That is my proper role in the Church.
Do nothing without the Bishop.