Marital Conjugal Struggle

[heidi_storage]

Yeah, ideally, the couple works out this stuff together.

 

[Nik]

I don’t know, sounds pretty romantic to me. It’s all in the delivery.

 

[AdamP88]

That is quite a generalization. There are many things in life that can cause one’s spouse to avoid sex that have nothing to do with selfishness.

True. But the OP was quite specific in his framing of the circumstances. If a spouse is withholding sex for an indefinite period with no real reason except “they’re just not that into it right now” then that is selfishness.

In fact, to insist or implore their spouse that they should have sex despite their reasons not for not wanting to is the ultimate in selfishness.

Yes. But to ask that spouse who is refusing sex to take action to remedy the situation and try to get to a point where they can have sex again is hardly selfish.

 

[AdamP88]

What Religion has to say about these matters may be interesting to speculate on in an internet forum, but, practically speaking, in this case it may be best to leave it (religion) outside the bedroom door.

This is not the correct attitude to have in a Catholic marriage though. Religion should come into all aspects of life and it should give greater meaning to what happens when spouses have sex. If you believe religion should be left out of any part of life you are mistaken.