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It does look like the husband has some insecurities, although at the same time he did notice some attraction. And yes, nobody’s at fault for merely perceiving somebody as an attractive person or even feeling attracted; it’s how we act about it which makes the fault. And yes, hormones don’t shut off just because you’re married.
From a man’s perspective, I suspect the husband may need some reassurance. Personally, I’ve got enough knowledge/sense of body language (sense comes from years of knowledge that’s partly forgotten on a conscious level, so it’s like “reads” on people), so I can generally easily tell a girlfriend or companion being attracted to some other guy (especially more than to me) and it’s never pleasant to me. Maybe the husband is not feeling desired/admired/respect/whatever? You could try giving him some reassurance about that. Or remind yourself why you found him attractive.
But I wonder why it’s his friend and he’s not taking action himself about it but complaining like a bit of a powerless person. Is he feeling lost/powerless?
He could use some counselling and he could especially use some conversations with a qualified person to explain to him how attraction works. Or a book.
Also, if it gets to the point of sexual thoughts or serious temptation to such, you may need to cut contact to remove the temptation. And definitely focus your mind elsewhere if there is even a light temptation. Sometimes temptations are subtle, disguised, seemingly harmless.
From a man’s perspective, I suspect the husband may need some reassurance. Personally, I’ve got enough knowledge/sense of body language (sense comes from years of knowledge that’s partly forgotten on a conscious level, so it’s like “reads” on people), so I can generally easily tell a girlfriend or companion being attracted to some other guy (especially more than to me) and it’s never pleasant to me. Maybe the husband is not feeling desired/admired/respect/whatever? You could try giving him some reassurance about that. Or remind yourself why you found him attractive.
But I wonder why it’s his friend and he’s not taking action himself about it but complaining like a bit of a powerless person. Is he feeling lost/powerless?
He could use some counselling and he could especially use some conversations with a qualified person to explain to him how attraction works. Or a book.
Also, if it gets to the point of sexual thoughts or serious temptation to such, you may need to cut contact to remove the temptation. And definitely focus your mind elsewhere if there is even a light temptation. Sometimes temptations are subtle, disguised, seemingly harmless.