Marriage and name changes

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I am pretty traditional and never thought twice about taking my husband’s name, even though I had quite a lovely Irish maiden name. ☘️ :irish2: I had planned to make my maiden name a second middle name but the MVA lady said “you can’t do that” while scowling at me…so, no more maiden name. 😦
 
MooCowSteph said:
I am pretty traditional and never thought twice about taking my husband’s name, even though I had quite a lovely Irish maiden name. ☘️ :irish2: I had planned to make my maiden name a second middle name but the MVA lady said “you can’t do that” while scowling at me…so, no more maiden name. 😦
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That’s the same song I’m getting from the department of public safety here in Texas. I don’t mind having the same last name as my husband. In fact, I rather like the idea, but I’m rather fond of my maiden name as well, especially since it appears on my master’s degree, so I’d like to put it somewhere. 🙂 I’m a fairly stubborn person when I’m annoyed (sometimes a good thing, sometimes not ), and being told I can’t do something that is not immoral (and probably not illegal either) really annoys me. 😃 Looking for a way around their stupid driver’s license manual…
 
Ok -ever so slightly annoyed here. Just because I took my husband’s name happily, dropping my maiden name -does not make me some cowering, dependant June Cleaver. (Not that anyone has that:D ).
I was quite young when I got married-not quite 19. Still in stage of doodling my first name and my future last name at the time. 🙂 Was positively excited about starting my new life with my hubby and having our own family. Sad for my dad because there is no one to carry on the family name -none of his siblings had children and he only had girls. But he wouldn’t have wanted me to keep my last name - he’d view as some weird feminist thing.
Taking on my hubby’s last name didn’t me make less of who I was, infact it added to who I was. Changing my last name didn’t suddenly suck out all my individualism or family loyalty -that seems goofy to me.
To me taking my hubby’s name symbolically made us our own family unit -Mr. & Mrs. “Jones” instead of Mr. Jones and Ms. Smith or Mr. Jones and Mrs. Smith-Jones. Kind of like two becoming one flesh thing. By the way if you kept your last name do you still go by Mrs. ?
Anyway-I’m not trying to pick on people who chose to keep or hyphenate their name, just trying to dispel the idea that us maiden name droppers are somehow less independant or less proud of our heritage.
 
LittleRose said:
Women seem to be doing a variety of things with their names these days when we get married. Having recently married a wonderful man, I am curious about what other women do with their names, as I am running into difficulty with offices of an official nature when it comes to changing mine. I don’t think I’m odd, wanting to make my maiden name a part of my middle name when I change my last name to match my husband’s. I got the idea from my mother, who did this a certain number of year ago when she married my dad (with no interference from anyone, I might add). She simply went to the proper places, showed her marriage certificate, and made the changes. I, on the other hand, am discovering that in the present time, it may be necessary to get a court order! Very inconvenient.
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In my case, I simply cited family tradition - my mother, my grandmother, and my great-grandmother all did this.

I also pitched a fit in the Records office when they said it would be “impossible” to keep my maiden name as a middle name - and, hey, it worked. 😃
 
I dropped my maiden name when I married. It was a beautiful, uncommon, ethnic name but I was 31 and so sick of spelling it for everyone! My married name is one of the most common names in the world. Hey, I even share it with our original Pope. “Bar Jonah” is translated to a very common name.

My sister kept our maiden name and hyphenated it to her middle name. Her’s is First Middle-Maiden Last. I kind of wish I had followed suit, but it was just too long for me. That combination for her is 30 letters long. Mine would have been 28 letters long. Her legal signature has only her middle initial, so it isn’t that bad.

She is a professional and had no problems when she changed her name, though a lot of people just presumed she wouldn’t change it. Everyone knew I would change mine. I love being a “Mrs.”
 
I love my husband’s last name, and what it means (as in the translation), so I was happy to take it!
 
I dropped my Father’s name and took my husband’s.

On a side note, I worked with a woman that was getting married around the same time I was.

She asked if I was changing my name. When I said yes, she told me that she wasn’t changing her name. Why, you ask? Because it is such a pain to change it back. :bigyikes:
 
maryjk said:
I dropped my Father’s name and took my husband’s.

On a side note, I worked with a woman that was getting married around the same time I was.

She asked if I was changing my name. When I said yes, she told me that she wasn’t changing her name. Why, you ask? Because it is such a pain to change it back. :bigyikes:
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oh my…
 
I took my husbands name but I would have loved to have kept my maiden name. Who wants Pugh as a last name? DH’s friends all called him Puke in high school. Some still do. The day I get called Mrs. Puke, is the day I end up in jail.:mad:

Fortunately,DD will get rid of it one day, and DS looks like he’s going to be big enough to defend himself.
 
To edit my previous post - Its a good thing my DH is so likeable!!😃 If it weren’t for his last name and some of his more annoying habits, he’d be almost perfect!!! 😉
 
Some one I know didn’t see why the woman should change her name. When they married, they chose a whole different name that they liked and changed their name to that.
 
Mousey said:
Some one I know didn’t see why the woman should change her name. When they married, they chose a whole different name that they liked and changed their name to that.
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Geneologists of the future will be cursing it, I suspect. 😉
 
I took my husbands last name and I really like it. I obviously liked it well enough to use as my user’s id here. 😛
There was no question and no debate about it. I’m a traditionalist and thought nothing of taking his last name. It’s what’s been done all throughout my ancestors so I followed the trend. 😉
 
I combined my name with my husbands - but that only lasted about a week. :eek: It took way too long to write it! Now I am using just my husband’s name - and glad to do it - since we now have a family … it would be too confusing to hyphernate both for the kids!👍
 
MGEISING said:
it would be too confusing to hyphernate both for the kids!👍
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and in my case it would be too confusing for my kids and their schools not to hyphenate…since they each have different last names (two different husbands )
 
Karin said:
and in my case it would be too confusing for my kids and their schools not to hyphenate…since they each have different last names (two different husbands )
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Well then that is different! 🙂
 
I’m not married but I would most likely keep my last name for official documents but use my husband’s last name in social situations. I am happy to be called “Mr & Mrs…”. My children would take my husband’s name. I might consider taking my husband’s name as a middle name… but really, it would depend on whether or not I liked the name 😉
 
For business and personal reasons I kept using my maiden name. Business wise we acquired a business together, before we got married, and it seemed like such a pain to change paperwork.

The personal reason was that even though I got married I didn’t lose myself. I felt like I was giving up my identity if I took my husband’s name. I mean, I wouldn’t ask my husband to change his name to mine and then have to explain to clients he’s had for 15 years about why the sudden name change. It bothered my husband that I didn’t take his name but he never pressured me to change my mind.

A few years after we sold the business I had a brush with a near fatal brain bleed. I saw how much my husband loved me and how we truly were partners in every sense of the word. For better and for worse …

I changed my name legally in time for our anniversary that year and told him what a blessed gal I was to be able to take his name. 🙂
 
When my husband and I got married lkast year, I dropped my maiden name and took his name. Even though my maiden name was somewhat “exotic” where I live, we agreeed as a family we want to have a family name. I didn’t really mind to change my name, it’s very nice actually, it just needed a little time to get used to, like when answering the phone :).
 
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