Marriage annulled but now I am not sure if I want to marry again

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Hello this is my first post (yeah!!) I am in my 40s and recently divorced from an abusive man. It took me 2 tries to get away. I finally made it and am slowly putting my life back together. I desperately wanted to marry again after I left my ex husband, mostly I think to prove to myself that I was worthy of love and I could do it right. But God was good and I was too busy getting back on my feet the last 18 months to ever meet anyone. Well today I did without even trying. But the best part of the story is that after talking to him for a little while I started to get a negative feeling about him. He was not answering basic questions in a straightforward way. Stuff lime well what brought you to this part of town. Anyway long story short I trusted my gut and walked away. And he was very handsome. That is huge for me because I was always so desperate for love that I didn’t pay attention to alarm bells in my head. Thank God forced me to take time to work out my issues and learn to trust and love myself. I tell you its a great day. I will still lime to be in a relationship someday but I am thrilled to think I am not going to be much more careful in the future.
So glad you are happy with your life. Enjoy.
 
I am divorced and I don’t intend to marry again either. Not even looking. I am fine with being single and having good friends. If you are happy being single, there’s no reason to have to justify it to anyone else.
 
I just wanted to say thanks again for all the words of encouragement and support.

I think one poster hit on what I am feeling. While I am happy and have a great life there is this doubt in the back of my mind. It’s a combination of loneliness and the feeling that I missed out on being loved as a wife. I guess I felt my calling was to be a wife and mother and I still have those feelings… but instead of a calling, it seems more like the distance echo of a dream now. A dream I wish were reality, but I know isn’t.

But your words of encouragement help me to overcome that feeling–I will keep them in mind and review this thread when I feel sad from time-to-time (which despite overall happiness, does happen now and then). Thanks again 🙂
 
Don’t go looking for someone, necessarily, but be open for anything God may have for your life!

ICXC NIKA.
 
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