Marriage as Sacrament versus State Defined

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Did you think that you had a monopoly on misrepresenting the position of your opposition?
And you do not provide a correction in his position, so I would have to agree with him.
Note also that ‘bigotry’, while undeniably unhelpful, does accurately describe your position, taking the literal meaning. It may also be hurtful, but Catholics are very quick to describe homosexuals as “intrinsically disordered” or “sodomites” or as being more likely to abuse children or be serial killers. I think Matthew 7:5 applies. If you want thegay marriage lobby to stop calling you bigot, I sympathise, but I would suggest that you start by persuading your colleagues to stop slandering gays.
Which has nothing to do with the Catholic understanding of marriage or a correction in what you claim to be a misrepresentation. It does seem like irrational name calling on your part.
 
Many marriages do not involve raising children, and many gay marriages do, so this argument fails on both sides. The only thing all marriages have in common are two (or more, if you insist) people committing to spend their lives together.
Does that mean you see no purpose for marriage?
Some eyes see while some don’t; therefore eyes have no purpose?
 
But it is the couple that you object to, and against which you wish to discriminate (and force the State to discriminate).
Recall that my statement was in response to “A same sex couple cannot choose not be a same sex couple.” A same sex couple cannot choose anything. A couple of any kind cannot choose anything. Only individuals can choose things. And in the case of getting married, it is individuals that first chose to become a couple. And if that couple happens to be a same sex couple, then those individuals did choose to become a same sex couple. They didn’t just wake up one day and find themselves paired up. So I am not discriminating against people just for being who they are.
And the same sex couple cannot choose not to be the same sex, whereas your marriage refuseniks could just choose to marry.
Please clarify.
Further, there is a direct causal link between their choice not to marry and them not being considered married. In the case of the gay couple it is only your inistence that they not be allowed to marry that prevents them from being married.
I don’t get the point.
 
I think that you are confusing two ‘benefits’. The ‘benefits’ that the State grants are the legal status of marriage and the advantages that go with it. The ‘benefit’ to the State of encouraging marriage is seperate.

So if the State abolished the legal institution of marriage, that would not mean that two people living together long term no longer benefitted the State, just that there would presumably be fewer such long term realtionships.

In other words there is a purely utilitarian justification for the State to encourage same sex couples to establish long term stable relationships.
That is exactly the point that I was arguing against. The inherent benefit you describe that comes from a couple living together in long term relationship is not much of a benefit to society at large. It is a benefit primarily to the couple involved. So society does not have much reason to take steps to encourage long term relationships just for the sake of their being long term relationships.
 
There is a well established link between religiosity and poor societal health.
Whatever “poor societal health” means, assuming gratuitously that it is a true statement, the state already does not validate any religious belief or require its citizens to accept them as true. The same cannot be said for this gay “marriage” issue, which has already seen courts insisting citizens recognize the dogmatic beliefs of such “marriages,” such as in the cases of the florist and the photographers sued. So this point is irrelevant. At any rate, you are dodging the evidence that it is not in a society’s best interest to normalize this arrangement, along with the ill-effects of easy divorce, cohabitation, etc… To simply ignore the evidence is not a strong counter-argument.
‘bigotry’, while undeniably unhelpful, does accurately describe your position
No, it doesn’t. The definition of the term is misapplied. A bigot must have unreasonable cause to deny another their proper dignity based on some arbitrary characteristic. That obviously does not apply in this case, because there is natural and statistical cause to be opposed to the normalization of a gay “marriage” arrangement.
 
If you don’t like the State marriage, don’t use it.
It is also irrational to think if someone does not directly use a “state” program of some kind, that such a person must therefore support its existence. The idea of a gay “marriage” is detrimental to all interested parties because it de facto denies the uniqueness of stable marriages of men and women as societal pillars. That is a consequence of pretending to redefine marriage, as the state has done. Whether or not any specific person avails themselves of the state’s decree is irrelevant.
 
Some sources from an October post on why it is not in a society’s best interests to deviate from the unique pillar that is marriage between a man and woman.
Whether or not someone is born with a particular disposition does not mean that it is in the best interests of society to normalize or certify that disposition. Some people are born with violent tendencies or attraction to drugs or perversions or whatever. Such persons should be loved, but it is not rational to demand that a disposition at birth be automatically recognized as proper.

There are a number of reasons that are not even religious as to why it is not in the best interest of a society to normalize non-male-female “marriages.”

See
Not all marriages are created equal
Talk by Dr. Jennifer Roback Morse on why a society should not attempt to make same-gendered “marriages”
Replies to “gay marriage” arguments 1
Replies to “gay marriage” arguments 2

I’m sure there are other resources. But the reasoned mind can hopefully recognize that this largely is not an arrangement advantageous for children or a society.

And remember, to teach your own children to love, love, love - which means they would not confirm their friends in a lie, which gay “marriage” is. They would not confirm their friends in the idea that this is a matter of “equality,” which it is not. The great thing about love is that one learns to care for others ultimately beyond that other’s emotional satisfaction.
 
The fact that a Catholic might disagree with the curriculum is incidental to the argument.
So why are you focussing on that issue solely in order to say that it is incidental, rather than clarifying why you complained about something you then say you agree with?

The case of the State having a say in what schools can or cannot or must teach is a new topic, but we’ve been around this bush so much that I suggest we just drop it. None of this seems directly related to leglising same sex marriage, but is more about antidiscrimination law and state regulation of education.
They can force those view on me (and I am not just speaking of gay marriage here). But I don’t have to like it. Just as those in favor of gay marriage do not have to like it when gay marriage is denied.
So what is the point of discussing it? You lot are being treated not just as you treated others, but a lot better, so what are you complaining about?
To the extent that married couples cannot or choose not to have children, this weakens the basis for legal recognition of marriage.
Only if you accept your assertion that marriage was only ever about children. Which I don’t, and most of western society does not. So why should you feel justified in forcing your view on the rest of society?
As for couples staying together for life, that is pretty much a joke anyway.
So humans are fallible. 🤷

You have done nothing to counter the assertion that the only thing all marriages have in common is two (or more) people committing to spend the rest of their life together. Whether they stick to that ideal or not, in the end.
What does the couple offer to society in return for this legal recognition?
a) We have covered many reasons why this is of benefit to society
b) you are back to asserting an extremist utilitarian philosophy. Note that your counter example to why the State should support the terminally ill, disabled or elderly only showed benefit to citizens, not the State itself. Marriage is a service the State offers (at least potentially) to all citizens, a priori for the benefit of the citizens, not that of the State itself.
 
And you do not provide a correction in his position, so I would have to agree with him.
What position? That dismissing your arguments as ‘just’ bigotry, I explicitly agree that that is an unfair description - but earlier in the same post he gave a far more direct and simplisitic mischaracterisation of the arguments against your position.
It does seem like irrational name calling on your part.
I am sorry you feel that way. But I called noone any names, just called for everyone to stop calling names and misrepresenting their opponents’ arguments. 🤷

As typified by your next post:
Does that mean you see no purpose for marriage?
Some eyes see while some don’t; therefore eyes have no purpose?
Obviously not, I have never said any such thing. All I have said is that raising children is not the only purpose of marriage.:rolleyes:
 
A same sex couple cannot choose anything. A couple of any kind cannot choose anything.
Of course they can, they do it all the time. Indeed I would say that if you and your (hypothetical?) spouse cannot make decisions as a couple, then it is my turn to doubt the worth of your marriage.
then those individuals did choose to become a same sex couple. …] So I am not discriminating against people just for being who they are.
You are discriminating against the couple for being a same sex couple. And unless you deny the existence of homosexuals you are discriminating against them just for who they are as individuals as you are deliberately structuring the law so that they can never marry anyone they might genuinely fall in love with or be attracted to.
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And the same sex couple cannot choose not to be the same sex, whereas your marriage refuseniks could just choose to marry.
Please clarify.
What is unclear? Your hypothetical refuseniks have the right to marry eachother, no-one is denying that to them, they have simply chosen not to do so. The hypothetical gay couple are being denied that right, by you, even if they want to marry.
I don’t get the point.
Clarified above?
That is exactly the point that I was arguing against. The inherent benefit you describe that comes from a couple living together in long term relationship is not much of a benefit to society at large.
I described concrete benefits to society. And I reject your idea (apparently?) that the State should not do things just because they make life better for its citizens - I see that as a core puropse for the State.
 
The real problem is rooted in the fact that most Americans now feel it is their civic duty to separate the Faith from politics.

Nonetheless, this is not what America was founded on; it was founded on common Christian values and these values formed a framework to create laws that are moral and just.

Unfortunately, now that so many Americans have bought the lie that is it “patriotic” to support the false flag concept of “separation of church and state” we have to address issues such as the recognition of what before were considered aberrations and detrimental to society. This issue and others will be an ongoing exercise of secularizing our laws until there is no Christian framework left, but rather one based on false morality, expediency and short sightedness.

Finally, the fact that so American Christians proudly support the “separation of the church and state” only reflects a very poor understanding of the Word of God that they have. Not only does God not want us to actively participate in allowing godless laws to be created He does not want us to stand by idly and do nothing but rather wants us to fight it tooth and nail. Secularization is nothing more than diabolic plan implemented by none other than Satan. If anyone doubts that I refer you to the 50,000,000 children that have been slaughtered in the name of “progress” and the all out onslaught on our children to indoctrinate them in the homosexuality so that they may suffer needlessly living an empty and miserable life full of confusion and despair.
 
The real problem is rooted in the fact that most Americans now feel it is their civic duty to separate the Faith from politics.

Nonetheless, this is not what America was founded on; it was founded on common Christian values and these values formed a framework to create laws that are moral and just.

Unfortunately, now that so many Americans have bought the lie that is it “patriotic” to support the false flag concept of “separation of church and state” we have to address issues such as the recognition of what before were considered aberrations and detrimental to society. This issue and others will be an ongoing exercise of secularizing our laws until there is no Christian framework left, but rather one based on false morality, expediency and short sightedness.

Finally, the fact that so American Christians proudly support the “separation of the church and state” only reflects a very poor understanding of the Word of God that they have. Not only does God not want us to actively participate in allowing godless laws to be created He does not want us to stand by idly and do nothing but rather wants us to fight it tooth and nail. Secularization is nothing more than diabolic plan implemented by none other than Satan. If anyone doubts that I refer you to the 50,000,000 children that have been slaughtered in the name of “progress” and the all out onslaught on our children to indoctrinate them in the homosexuality so that they may suffer needlessly living an empty and miserable life full of confusion and despair.
While I pretty much agree with what you say here, I don’t think that the recognition of marriage as between man and woman was a product of religion. It was recognized simply as a result of how men and women are built. They are made to be sexually complementary. Whatever religion one might profess, that basic biological fact has been pretty much recognized as a matter of nature—at least until the most recent societal loss of reason.
 
What position?
The position given to you in post #107, which you claimed misrepresented you, but then failed to clarify.
I am sorry you feel that way. But I called noone any names, just called for everyone to stop calling names and misrepresenting their opponents’ arguments. 🤷
As typified by your next post:
Actually, I was asking for clarification of your position.
Obviously not, I have never said any such thing. All I have said is that raising children is not the only purpose of marriage.:rolleyes:
So you agree that creating and raising children is at least one of the purposes of marriage.
 
While I pretty much agree with what you say here, I don’t think that the recognition of marriage as between man and woman was a product of religion. It was recognized simply as a result of how men and women are built. They are made to be sexually complementary. Whatever religion one might profess, that basic biological fact has been pretty much recognized as a matter of nature—at least until the most recent societal loss of reason.
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While I pretty much agree with what you say here, I don’t think that the recognition of marriage as between man and woman was a product of religion.
I didn’t think I inferred it as such, rather was pointing out the principles on which the US was founded.

I also agree that the biological purpose should be obvious, after all God creates for a purpose and is supremely logical.

Also, I don’t think we should give an inch to the secularists and try to defend laws based on secular reasoning, if such a thing actually exists.
 
Whatever “poor societal health” means,
Low levels of things like homicide, teenage pregnancy, STDs, suicide, abortion and so on.
assuming gratuitously that it is a true statement,
Really, you’d never even heard of this before? 🤷
the state already does not validate any religious belief or require its citizens to accept them as true.
It validates a lot of religious beliefs and require it citizens to respect them. The obvious example in this debate being the religious sacrament of marriage, but also protections offered to the sela of the confessional, or laws against blasphemy or religious discrimination all give legal weight to religious views.
The same cannot be said for this gay “marriage” issue, which has already seen courts insisting citizens recognize the dogmatic beliefs of such “marriages,” such as in the cases of the florist and the photographers sued.
No, that was anti-discrimination law, not legalisation of same sex marriage, and even took place in a place where same sex marriage was not legally recognised. Nor did it require the photographer to believe anything, just to offer the same service offered to other couples.

And again there are legal exemptions for religious organisations that the photographer could have used to avoid covering same sex marriages. The law applies to all, including christians.
At any rate, you are dodging the evidence that it is not in a society’s best interest to normalize this arrangement, along with the ill-effects of easy divorce, cohabitation, etc… To simply ignore the evidence is not a strong counter-argument.
Right back atcha - I gave many examples of how legal recognition of same sex marriage would benefit society, and a good illustration of why the basic argument is invalid.
No, it doesn’t. The definition of the term is misapplied. A bigot must have unreasonable cause to deny another their proper dignity based on some arbitrary characteristic. That obviously does not apply in this case, because there is natural and statistical cause to be opposed to the normalization of a gay “marriage” arrangement.
No definition of ‘bigot’ or ‘bigotry’ exempts those who use statistics to justify their intolerance. If anything I would say that citing statistics or sacred texts is a very common component of bigotry.

The point is that you are utterly intolerant of the opposing point of view and refuse to even try to reach a reasonable accomodation. 🤷
 
It is also irrational to think if someone does not directly use a “state” program of some kind, that such a person must therefore support its existence
But the mere fact that you (hypothetically) do not wish to avail yourself of a government institution is no argument for demanding that it be abolished. So the libertarian argument that a formal State institution of marriage should be replaced by private contracts has, in my opinion, no place in this debate.

That is all that quote meant.
 
Whether or not someone is born with a particular disposition does not mean that it is in the best interests of society to normalize or certify that disposition.
Nor is it a priori a reason to discriminate against them.
That article (or more to the point the study it references) actually undermines your argument on two points:

  1. *]it shows that married straight couples do better (at raising kids) than unmarried ones - so the obvious conclusion is that the same benefit may well accrue to same sex couples
    *]it shows unmarried gay (male) and straight couples doing equally well at raising kids, despite the discrimination that gay couples face.

    It does not allow you to conclude that same sex marriage would damage anything.
    Talk by Dr. Jennifer Roback Morse on why a society should not attempt to make same-gendered “marriages”
    Sorry, but that is an hour long video. Even if I did not live in Darkest Wales where telephone companies think broadband is something to hold your gut in, that is too long for me to want to watch.
    These explicitly counter your attempt to caricature the argument for gay marriage as just so that “2 people can love each other” as it gives many other exciting new caricatures of gay marriage arguments. :rolleyes:

    Otherwise it is all the same old sophistry or flat unsupported assertions that marriage means only one man and one woman. For example, the argument that there is no discrimination against gay couples because everyone has the right to marry someone of the opposite sex is obviously absurd.

    Did the old English law that anyone could marry as long as they did so in the Church of England rite not discriminate against Catholics? Is there nothing racist about banning interracial marriages? 🤷
 
Nonetheless, this is not what America was founded on; it was founded on common Christian values and these values formed a framework to create laws that are moral and just.
Treaty of Tripoli:
As the Government of the United States of America is not, in any sense, founded on the Christian religion
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