Marriage Dating Catholic Rules

[Tis_Bearself]

It’s almost impossible to follow what you just posted.
The OP needs to speak to a priest about his personal situation of needing an annulment.

 

[TheLittleLady]

Take a look at this website,

http://catholicsdivorce.com/

 

[pnewton]

That’s still not grounds. Annulment is purely based on intentions going into the marriage. Did they have the right intentions at the time of marriage

It is evidence of grounds for annulment. If there is reason to believe that either party did not intend permanency, then that is evidence for annulment on those grounds.

 

[rcwitness]

Odds are that you will get an annulment, if you petition, no matter what you believe or plan to do with someone else.

Jesus commanded us to remain faithful to our vows, and Scripture gives 3 situations for valid divorce.

1.) Porneia (a sexual relationship without God’s blessing)
2.) Non believing spouse (unbaptized/nonChristian)
3.) Unconsumated marriage (wedding without having intercourse open to life)

Do you really want to follow Jesus?

 

[His_helpmeet]

It isn’t necessarily true that the OP would get a declaration of nullity. They aren’t handed out willy-nilly. There’s a process that must be completed - and not all petitions are granted. There must be grounds.

 

[rcwitness]

Yep. And odds still are that he will.

Grounds are easy to find in our Church.

 

[rcwitness]

“For the canonist the principle must remain clear that only incapacity and not difficulty in giving consent and in realizing a true community of life and love invalidates a marriage,” said Pope John Paul in 1987. “Only the most severe forms of psychopathology impair substantially the freedom of the individual,” he said the following year, as he called upon defenders of the bond to prevent “tensions and difficulties, inevitably involved in the choice and achievement of the ideals of marriage, from being confused with the signs of a serious pathology.”

In 2009, Pope Benedict, quoting Pope John Paul, spoke of the “urgent need” of “preserving the ecclesial community from the scandal of seeing the value of Christian marriage being destroyed in practice by the exaggerated and almost automatic multiplication of declarations of nullity, in cases of the failure of marriage, on the pretext of some immaturity or psychic weakness on the part of the contracting parties.”

“We concur with those statements by both popes,” says Leary. “The current statistics on annulments mandated by US tribunals are truly a scandal, and I have appreciated the popes making these statements…Save Our Sacrament receives many, many requests for help from mostly women respondents. Many of these respondents are good, upstanding Catholics who have three or more grown children, and whose husbands are simply going through midlife crises and want an easy way to remarry in the Roman Catholic Church, which is, more often than not, granted.”

For this quote, and some unpleasant statistics of annulments:

Annulment nation

www.catholicworldreport.com

 

[Gorgias]

I understand to follow the Catholic rules I need to go through the annulment then remain celibate until I meet a woman and get married.

Celibate means “unmarried”. I think the word you’re looking for is ‘chaste’ or ‘continent’ – which, in this case, would mean “not having sex with anyone.”

Is it a sin

Yes. Jesus himself talks about how this is adultery.

and will I go to hell if I do not follow these rules?

If you have an affair and don’t repent prior to death… yes.

If I meet someone and fall in love and we have intercourse is that a sin?

I love the Catholic faith but would Jesus Christ condemn me?

Well… what did Jesus say? When he encountered the woman caught in adultery, what was his response? Was it “that’s ok… keep on keeping on”, or was it “go and sin no more”…?

 

[joeybaggz]

If you are separated, try to reconcile with the help of counseling. If that doesn’t work, divorce and make the break clean (at least from the civil aspect) Then petition the church for a decree of nullity. Who knows, there might be psychological factors in your wife’s mental and/or emotional make up that would render the marriage null. (or maybe some culpability on your part). That’s what I’d do. And as another poster said, annulments are not guaranteed. You might have a cross to bear for the remainder of your life.

I heard a priest make a very good remark in a sermon to college students. He said we are made in the image and likeness of God. He then pointed to a crucifix and said that this is part of that image.

Good luck.

 

[rcwitness]

If you are separated, try to reconcile with the help of counseling. If that doesn’t work, divorce and make the break clean (at least from the civil aspect) Then petition the church for a decree of nullity. Who knows, there might be psychological factors in your wife’s mental and/or emotional make up that would render the marriage null. (or maybe some culpability on your part). That’s what I’d do. And as another poster said, annulments are not guaranteed. You might have a cross to bear for the remainder of your life.

Good luck.

Yes, who knows is indeed the question!

“Only the most severe forms of psychopathology impair substantially the freedom of the individual,”

Pope St. JPII

 

[Greenfields]

doniker:

I understand to follow the Catholic rules I need to go through the annulment then remain celibate until I meet a woman and get married.
Is it a sin and will I go to hell if I do not follow these rules? If I meet someone and fall in love and we have intercourse is that a sin? I love the Catholic faith but would Jesus Christ condemn me?

Yes you must apply for an annulment. This does not mean you will get one.

Sex is only allowed inside a marriage where you are not still married to another in the eyes of the Church. That would equal adultery.

So you would be condemning yourself and another to sin. The other for fornication, you as an adulterer.

And now you know this, you have a cross to carry in celibacy , and whether there is a prospect for a future marriage.

This is a really good point Rose.
Placing some one you ‘love’ in danger of mortal sin,is that really love? If you really loved someone you would put their soul first and protect them from grave/mortal sin .

 

[therese1998]

My wife left the marriage. Things have been bad for a long time. I am just looking to the future.

Looking to the future is probably not your best course of action in this case and likely to produce more anxiety than peace. Focus on the here and now, let yourself heal. Wait for the results of your petition for annulment. Until you know the outcome of that, it’s all speculation anyway.

 

[rcwitness]

OP,

My wife has separated with me also.

I have absolutely no sound reason to cry to a Tribunal. We need to face our demons and love our wives. Peace to you.