Marriage/Divorce

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7 years ago my mother divorced my father and got remarried. She was unhappy living on a farm in the country is the main reason she left him. She is now remarried. I recognize that her new marriage is invalid. My dad is not remarried, but has a girlfriend. He says he plans on never remarrying. How would the Church look at him having a girlfriend even though he was not the one to instigate the divorce? Is he in the same wrong that my mother is? A detailed response would be appreciated. Thanks.
 
Well, I guess that depends upon what he means by having a girlfriend. Does he mean to live with her, have sexual relations with her, kiss her/be romantic with her? Or does he merely have a companion to go to dinner with or a movie or something?

The first is very wrong, the second is more ambiguous. He should talk with his priest for spiritual guidance. Stringing along a woman whom he can never marry is not fair to her. Simple companionship could be a temptation to other things.

He is still a married man, and should act that way. Married men do not have girlfriends.
 
Your Dad has companionship what a wonderful deal.

Your mother is re married , and now your loving Dad needs to move on as he has done so constructively
 
enickman said:
7 years ago my mother divorced my father and got remarried. She was unhappy living on a farm in the country is the main reason she left him. She is now remarried. I recognize that her new marriage is invalid. My dad is not remarried, but has a girlfriend. He says he plans on never remarrying. How would the Church look at him having a girlfriend even though he was not the one to instigate the divorce? Is he in the same wrong that my mother is? A detailed response would be appreciated. Thanks.
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Were they both Catholics? Married in the Church? Not sure what their personal living situations have to do with traditional Catholicism, though.
 
Wiseowl said:
Your Dad has companionship what a wonderful deal.

Your mother is re married , and now your loving Dad needs to move on as he has done so constructively
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Hmmm, how is this a “100% Catholic” answer, as your religious affiliation states on your profile?

The OP’s dad is a married man. He is not free to “move on” with another woman.
 
1ke said:
Hmmm, how is this a “100% Catholic” answer, as your religious affiliation states on your profile?

The OP’s dad is a married man. He is not free to “move on” with another woman.
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What 1ke said above. Mom and Dad are still married to each other in the eyes of the Church and married people do not have other spouses or boy/girlfriends. To the OP: Sorry if that comes off sounding harsh in anyway, but it is not all that complicated, nor should it be.
 
Many unfortunate assumptions stands out here.

For example; is Dad catholic, did he get annullment, is his girlfriend anything more than a good friend., so many more.

Assuming is never prudent, so I apologize for the assumptions on this thread before anyone knows the facts.

God Bless

John 3:16.
 
enickman said:
7 years ago my mother divorced my father and got remarried. She was unhappy living on a farm in the country is the main reason she left him. She is now remarried. I recognize that her new marriage is invalid. My dad is not remarried, but has a girlfriend. He says he plans on never remarrying. How would the Church look at him having a girlfriend even though he was not the one to instigate the divorce? Is he in the same wrong that my mother is? A detailed response would be appreciated. Thanks.
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Speak with a priest. Honestly, I think that’s the best way to go.

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Ed
 
Thanks for the replies. Yes, both Catholics, married in the Church. Its not just a friendly relationship. i had figured it was wrong, but now the challenge is breaking that to him without him exploding.
 
enickman said:
Thanks for the replies. Yes, both Catholics, married in the Church. Its not just a friendly relationship. i had figured it was wrong, but now the challenge is breaking that to him without him exploding.
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Encourage him to speak to his priest. I do not think you need to put yourself in such a position.
 
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