Marriage in Heaven

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Does the same apply parent/child relationships? You could have the same complications if a child’s parents die, and then is adopted by other parents. Who would be their parents be in heaven?

As much as I normally favor speaking accurately, I don’t think we need to go around referring to widows’ dead spouses as “former.” My grandparents were married 64 years before my grandfather died 4 years ago. My grandmother still wears her wedding band and signs every birthday card to me, “Love, Grandpa and Grand-mom.” She had her named engraved on the gravestone when she had his done because she just didn’t want to think about him laying in the ground alone. I could just imagine getting kicked out of her house for the sake of theological accuracy. I would not refer to him as her former husband any more than I would refer to him as my former Grandpa.
Yeah I see what you mean. This life was made for a reason and it is connected to the afterlife. It would be a sad reality if in heaven, any stranger would be the same to you as someone you dearly loved on earth. God made you meet the people you met for a reason. We are all families within families within the giant human family and in heaven we will all be brothers and sisters, but in my soul I know that any relationship started on earth will be so much more special in heaven.
 
but in my soul I know that any relationship started on earth will be so much more special in heaven.
This doesn’t make sense with Catholic theology. For example, let’s say someone is in a relationship with someone, but one of them ends up going to Hell while the other ends up going to Heaven. That relationship isn’t going to be more special. The person condemned to Hell will hate the other person (Hell is only a place of hate and despair.) The person rewarded with Heaven, will love God for his infinite justice towards the other person being condemned to Hell. Anything else would be impossible with the beatific vision.
 
This doesn’t make sense with Catholic theology. For example, let’s say someone is in a relationship with someone, but one of them ends up going to Hell while the other ends up going to Heaven. That relationship isn’t going to be more special. The person condemned to Hell will hate the other person (Hell is only a place of hate and despair.) The person rewarded with Heaven, will love God for his infinite justice towards the other person being condemned to Hell. Anything else would be impossible with the beatific vision.
Well if both are in heaven then the above is not possible. That is why I was talking about heaven and the relationships people will have there, not in Hell. But yeah, I understand your point. The H word scares me though and has since around 5th grade so it’s not something I like to even discuss too much. I have scruples and the occasional fear that comes out of them that I am not and never will be good enough to go to Heaven.
 
This doesn’t make sense with Catholic theology. For example, let’s say someone is in a relationship with someone, but one of them ends up going to Hell while the other ends up going to Heaven. That relationship isn’t going to be more special. The person condemned to Hell will hate the other person (Hell is only a place of hate and despair.) The person rewarded with Heaven, will love God for his infinite justice towards the other person being condemned to Hell. Anything else would be impossible with the beatific vision.
So, I love my husband. But, if I am condemned and he isn’t, I’m going to suddenly start hating him. And he, having gone to his heavenly reward, will love God for sending me to hell. That is one twisted “beatific vision” you have there.
 
Well if both are in heaven then the above is not possible. That is why I was talking about heaven and the relationships people will have there, not in Hell. But yeah, I understand your point. The H word scares me though and has since around 5th grade so it’s not something I like to even discuss too much. I have scruples and the occasional fear that comes out of them that I am not and never will be good enough to go to Heaven.
Yes, it is impossible. Once we have the beatific vision we will be completely in love with God. That doesn’t leave room for other relationships. We’re supposed to have perfect detachment from our relationships here in order that we may be fully united with God.

This notion of “they’re now in Heaven reunited together” that they feed people at Catholic funerals is hogwash, and not part of Catholic theology.
 
My parents were married for 27 years. Then, my mother died of ovarian cancer. She went 11 months after she was diagnosed. My father cringes every time he hears the Gospel passage that has been repeatedly referenced. He loved my mother very much and still believes, in his heart, that they will remain married in heaven.

Brother Rich, I understand that the marriage bond is broken by death. Heck, that’s why remarriages for widows and widowers are allowed. But, how do you explain this to a man who goes to the cemetery every day and still wears his wedding ring?

Part of me thinks that Jesus told this parable to the Sadducees to get them to see that their whole line of thinking was plain ridiculous. But, Jesus’ words are crystal clear about marriage in other sections of the Gospel. The Church bases her doctrine on marriage precisely from Jesus’ words regarding divorce to the point that parties in an invalid marriage are not allowed to fully participate in the sacramental life of the Church until their situations are resolved.

But, back to the OP. My dad, as a widower who still grieves for my mother after nearly 14 years, still firmly believes that they will be reunited in heaven. What do you say to someone in his situation?
Well, certainly people can and will be reunited in heaven, but whatsoever one adores in one’s faithful and loving spouse will be far outshined by the Creator of spouses. The limitless love of God will come directly and fully rather than filtered and strained imperfectly through a creature’s limited heart.
 
Yes, it is impossible. Once we have the beatific vision we will be completely in love with God. That doesn’t leave room for other relationships. We’re supposed to have perfect detachment from our relationships here in order that we may be fully united with God.

This notion of “they’re now in Heaven reunited together” that they feed people at Catholic funerals is hogwash, and not part of Catholic theology.
The communion of saints is not hogwash.
 
Yes, it is impossible. Once we have the beatific vision we will be completely in love with God. That doesn’t leave room for other relationships. We’re supposed to have perfect detachment from our relationships here in order that we may be fully united with God.

This notion of “they’re now in Heaven reunited together” that they feed people at Catholic funerals is hogwash, and not part of Catholic theology.
Well, relationships will not be detached, just perfected and ordered. I’d never want to imply that the Church “feeds” grieving people “hogwash.”
 
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