Marriage & life stages

[Giggly_Giraffe]

Recommendations needed because it seems that I’m in the joyful stage of life and my husband is drowning in the sorrowful mysteries. This imbalance does not seem to be good for either of us.

I’ve got all my needs and most of my wants meet. I love my God, my husband, & my children. I’m thriving and helping others. It’s very joyful. Before I meet my husband, it was sorrowful. I understand sorrow, & what my husband’s got my through, but still disconnected from him in his sorrow.

He is dealing with mid-life career disappointments: his co-workers are dropping like fly’s (funerals): burdensome parents who will not take advice, medical help, or anything-they still need to be the bossy parents: and we both agree without me in his life, he would be ruined.

Still, as a loving wife, I do want to help him. Like his parents, he’s got the whole “I can do it myself” and it drives me crazy. Then again, if I shake him out of denial, would he break? IDK.

It’s weird being so joyfully happy when my husband is in so much misery.

 

[oldgraymare2]

Hi Giggly Giraffe,

I think that I can relate to your situation.

I have always been an optimistic person. I’m easy-going and laid-back.

That’s not to say that I don’t get stressed and that things don’t bother me. It’s just that I handle them differently.

My husband is more of a quiet and serious person, by nature.

When my husband is bothered by something, I just try to be as supportive as I can be for him, also letting him know that I’m available to talk if he wants to do any extra talking, too.

I wish the best for you and your family. I’m sorry that your husband is going through a rough patch right now.

I pray that things turn around for him soon.

God bless you and your family. :grouphug: