Marriage question concerning impotency / infertility

[Rau]

Don is correct that one cannot have confidence in answers provided on an anonymous Internet forum.

Nevertheless, many accurate answers were provided. The trick is - do you know which?

 

[ConstantLearner]

Absolutely not. This is completely alien to the mind of the Church – and repugnant to her thought.

Why is it? I don’t see anything repugnant about it. In the parish I attend no one can marry unless BOTH are Catholic and BOTH have been members for one year. No exceptions. Seems a little harsh to me, but that’s the pastor’s decision, not mine.

 

[TheLittleLady]

This needs to be brought to the attention of the Bishop because this contradicts the teaching of the Church.

Is there a chance that this pastor has a rule that you have to be members for a year in order to get the “member rate” to rent the building for a private wedding?

 

[ConstantLearner]

Is there a chance that this pastor has a rule that you have to be members for a year in order to get the “member rate” to rent the building for a private wedding?

No, no chance of that!

The bishop knows and approves.

 

[TheLittleLady]

You are claiming that a Bishop of the Church allows a parish pastor to disallow properly dispensed persons from marrying in the Church? That is scandalous. I pray you have misunderstood.

Marriage between a Catholic and a Non-Catholic

Q: My husband and I have been married almost 21 years now. He was raised as a Mormon, though he is a non-believer in any faith. We were married in the Church during a time when they had not fully d…

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[ConstantLearner]

I haven’t misunderstood. It’s in the bulletin every Sunday and is the topic of much conversation. This has gone on for years. It’s the bishop and priest who need prayers.

 

[Rau]

The bishop knows and approves.

What diocese is it that will never marry a non-catholic to a catholic? Or is it only in that parish?

 

[ConstantLearner]

What diocese is it that will never marry a non-catholic to a catholic? Or is it only in that parish?

It’s just the parish I’m in, but it’s a large one.

 

[Rau]

Must be very special Catholics there. Or a bishop too weak to give the priest a shake up and tell him to judge cases on their merits, not by prejudice. As the Canon law provides

 

[ConstantLearner]

I don’t know the bishop’s personality well, but our pastor is VERY overbearing and authoritarian. He’s not even welcoming to new Catholics. When I joined that parish, he frowned, asked me how many other churches I’d “investigated.” He said, “Maybe we aren’t for you.” And I’ve been Catholic all my life.

 

[Don_Ruggero]

I haven’t misunderstood. It’s in the bulletin every Sunday and is the topic of much conversation. This has gone on for years. It’s the bishop and priest who need prayers.

That is completely contrary to Canon Law.

What happens if a member of that parish wants to marry a non-Catholic? Does it happen in another parish? Surely they are not forced to marry outside the Church…I hope.

 

[ConstantLearner]

What happens if a member of that parish wants to marry a non-Catholic? Does it happen in another parish? Surely they are not forced to marry outside the Church…I hope.

They can’t marry in the Church until the non-Catholic converts, or they have to marry outside the Church.

It’s not my rule, it’s my pastor’s. Always seemed a little harsh to me.

 

[Rau]

They can’t marry in the Church until the non-Catholic concerts, or they have to marry outside the Church.

If they visit the neighboring parish, and ask to marry there, would not we expect that parish to judge their proposal to marry on its merits? You said the embargo on “mixed marriages” was in the one parish only?

 

[TheLittleLady]

I simply do not believe that any Bishop would permit a pastor to do this, there must be something that you have misunderstood.

 

[ConstantLearner]

If they visit the neighboring parish, and ask to marry there, would not we expect that parish to judge their proposal to marry on its merits? You said the embargo on “mixed marriages” was in the one parish only?

I don’t really know about other parishes, but this is an archdiocese. I would think some priest would marry them in the Church.

 

[ConstantLearner]

I simply do not believe that any Bishop would permit a pastor to do this, there must be something that you have misunderstood.

It’s nothing I misunderstood. It’s printed in bold in the bulletin every Sunday, and many parishioners discuss it. No misunderstanding.

 

[Rau]

Perhaps you could attach a copy of that Bulletin, removing the name of the parish (if identifying the parish is a concern to you). Does the website of the relevant parish specify that only marriages of catholic to catholic is acceptable?

 

[ConstantLearner]

Well, the non-Catholic can convert. But both have to be a member of that church for one year, and the pastor always has “No Exceptions” is bold.

 

[Rau]

Could you please attach something - link to website or bulletin?

 

[alice24]

a man and woman are engaged and plan on marrying when his tour of duty in a war zone is over and he returns to the US. He could be injured, never to have sexual relations again. Or the woman could experience a rape that leaves her unable to tolerate physical relations. Compounding insult to injury, this couple, who are loving and kind, find out that they cannot marry. Well, can’t the same logic be applied to them? A miracle could happen. A miracle cure could come along (it’s not a miracle, but the world didn’t always have Viagra and Cialis), and they, too, can adopt and have a loving family. They can bring much goo

I see your logic, but let me give you another point of view:
They marry and heal together their pain, but unlike his physical disability, her pain heals and she starts to wish sexual relations. He can’t give her what she needs and wishes, but she is bound with him in marriage .
See, marriage needs to be open for change, if a marriage is only within a specific status quo a good way, then its a risky decision.