Didn’t say “you” were asking for a sign. I said “not that we (meaning people) should be asking for signs”, but we are all human beings; so sometimes we ask for signs- I had to learn to have faith- faith that everything will be ok- even when it seems like it isn’t…I remember you in my prayers, I hope everything works out for you…Don’t give up- and send him the email- what’s the worst that can happen?I was not asking for a sign ss828… i just cried out to the Lord in desperation not to come to me unless the marriage is to be restored… I didnt ask him to come to me… its just amazing how all the novenas that I have been praying for are suddenly manifesting in the church… today I found another one for the holy spirit…
I feel like something major is going to happen… Please pray for me… I also realised that jesus is trying to open the lines of communication… i received an email for my husband at my email id… I am going to send it to him… please pray that he responds kindly to it…
That’s pretty rough. My situation is a bit different, in that I was not married to my ex. I can only imagine what you’re going through. Prayer has helped me A LOT. And the situation is getting better. I will pray for you and your husband as well. Hope everythig works out for you!hi there,
I’ll be praying for you and your husband that he wants to reconcile. Maybe all of us should start a prayer circle, it might work. Please include my husband and me, also, as he wants to leave the kids and me in 2 years when his military time ends. He doesn’t want to reconcile, either, says he’s just done loving me…so, I’ll keep you in my prayers, I feel your pain! God bless
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i am asking for a sign… but it was not that day… i did ask for one on friday when i received a nasty email from one of the prayer sites… i was shocked and have been having nightmares ever since… please pray for me…Didn’t say “you” were asking for a sign. I said “not that we (meaning people) should be asking for signs”, but we are all human beings; so sometimes we ask for signs- I had to learn to have faith- faith that everything will be ok- even when it seems like it isn’t…I remember you in my prayers, I hope everything works out for you…Don’t give up- and send him the email- what’s the worst that can happen?
Hang in there. Right now even though I see progress, things are still difficult. My ex calls me, arranges to meet and then doesn’t show. He usually calls to say he’s not coming- but yesterday he didn’t. It seems like there’s no end in sight. I just want things to be resolved. I am sad today- it’s odd he didn’t call back to say he wasn’t passing by. I am wondering should I call him? Should I wait a few days? This game he’s (both of us) playing is so frustrating. Anyway, I have to keep reminding myself God is with me…and to not give up yet. I have to keep praying for the grace to accept God’s will. I know he hears me I asked for more communication between M and I- and I got it, but no reconciliation yet- means it’s probably just not the right time.i am asking for a sign… but it was not that day… i did ask for one on friday when i received a nasty email from one of the prayer sites… i was shocked and have been having nightmares ever since… please pray for me…
I did not receive any response from him and today i learned that he has changed it to his email id… so i guess that did not work… I think his heart is too hardened at this point… after all it has been almost 7 months… Please pray for me so that I can let this go and move on with my life. I keep dreaming about him and future kids as I am getting old but I think now I need to start asking God for strength to handle the pain and not dream anymore…I also realised that jesus is trying to open the lines of communication… i received an email for my husband at my email id… I am going to send it to him… please pray that he responds kindly to it…
Keep praying, pray for strength, pray for courage, pray for the grace to ask God’s will, pray for love and pray for a reconiliation…I guess at some point you have to put yourself first. I have been feeling the same- if it’s not meant to be just let me move on and let him go, but everytime I think may be it’s time to give up he calls or we meet. I can’t deny I’ve seen progress- but sometimes itI did not receive any response from him and today i learned that he has changed it to his email id… so i guess that did not work… I think his heart is too hardened at this point… after all it has been almost 7 months… Please pray for me so that I can let this go and move on with my life. I keep dreaming about him and future kids as I am getting old but I think now I need to start asking God for strength to handle the pain and not dream anymore…
but i keep getting the answer that i need to pray unceasingly… but you know I guess u hear what you want to hear…
I know Jesus has been with me all my life and I know that he will be there for me through this as well… the only problem is that all this time i had the conviction that i was living by the Lord’s word but i made so many mistakes in this marriage that I dont have the conviction anymore…
let me know what you think… should i continue to pray for reconciliation?
i know that my pastor friend told me that we pray by faith and not by sight.
Mariam,…but I think now I need to start asking God for strength to handle the pain and not dream anymore…
but i keep getting the answer that i need to pray unceasingly… but you know I guess u hear what you want to hear…
I know Jesus has been with me all my life and I know that he will be there for me through this as well… the only problem is that all this time i had the conviction that i was living by the Lord’s word but i made so many mistakes in this marriage that I dont have the conviction anymore…
let me know what you think… should i continue to pray for reconciliation?
i know that my pastor friend told me that we pray by faith and not by sight.
Hi,Mariam,
I have been following your story in these forums, and I am so happy to see you post this.
While I do believe that God does not want truly sacramental marriages to end in divorce, and while I do believe that prayer can work miracles, I am glad to see you have begun to open yourself up to the possibility that God already has answered your prayer but that you have not been listening. As human beings, it is very difficult for us to accept God’s will when it does not agree with our own will, and as a result, we sometimes search for signs – anything and everything to help us keep our hopes alive, even when God has already answered “no.”
I am a divorced woman. After three and a half years of marriage, I was the one who made the decision to separate from my husband (we divorced four months later) after months and months of prayer, searching for ways to resolve our differences because I didn’t want to fail. Today, I am in the midst of the annulment process, my husband has remarried, and I am finally coming to the understanding my mistake wasn’t necessarily in ending my marriage but, instead, was in entering it – because entering into it did not match God’s plan for my life – by my own will instead of His.
It is possible that God will eventually answer your prayers for reconciliation in the affirmative, but it is also possible that His plan is more complex. It may be that your husband has reconciled his decision with God, that a period of separation is a trial you must overcome in your marriage, that divorce is the path that must be taken in order to place you both back on track with God’s plan (in which case, something was likely wrong from the beginning, as in my case), or any number of other things you, I, or any other members of these forums do not see or understand. In any case, there is a point in every petition to God that we must stop praying for what we want and start praying for what He wants (and for the ability to accept it). Place it in God’s hands, and allow yourself to find out what He has in store for you. In these things, you are in my prayers.
Hi Mariam,hi writergirlmel,
i dont think he has reconciled himself to the fact… i filed for divorce after waiting around for 5 months… he is said to be superbusy which means that he is not dealing with it…
also, i dont really believe that God wants marriages to be lost… which is the reason why it is so difficult for me to let go… as it is a vow that you take in front of god and god has said that what you promise you should fulfill…
anyways i still dont know what to do as i get this sudden sense of peace from god that it will be restored… i dont know why and yesterday i got the feeling that it would be restored by christmas… since i have been praying so much i have been getting feelings about things and they turn out to be true… which is amazing… its nothing like i have ever experienced before!!! Just like a wave that comes over me and then I feel like someone is saying it…
Thank you. I understand how difficult it can be to decide when enough is enough, but I think that if you truly keep your heart open and listen to God, He’ll tell you when that point comes. It can be frustrating when things progress but just don’t seem to progress on our timetables, and it takes a lot of strength, patience, and courage to accept that even when God’s answer is “yes,” it sometimes comes with the condition of patience.Hi,
You had a very interesting post. I too am trying to reconcile a relationship ( we were not married). Sometimes I think it’s time to walk away, and when I do- my ex always calls, or arranges to meet- and we have great conversations. So I get confused as to what will be the best course of action. We have maintained in contact from the very beginning of the break up, but we have not yet reconciled. I am very confused right now, and I am praying that whatever happens, God gives me the grace to accept his will. Thing is I’m not sure what h\His will is- but I am sure soon enough it will be clear.
After 4 months neither of us is seeing anyone else, and we talk almost every other day. I am afraid to walk away because I see progress on a weekly basis, but at the same time I don’t want to it around and wait forever, for him to make a decision (since he is the one who broke it off). We don’t talk about recon ciliation, but we are getting closer.
It’s a trying time- and sometimes I am so filled with strength (from prayer) and other times I am very sad and down- and I know those are human emotions, but I try my best to give all my pain to God.
The worst thing about my situation is that it is not resolved. And unresolved issues eat away at you…But since I’ve started praying more I feel much better than I did before; renewed almost. It’s just that I’m having a bad couple of days. I wish this pain and the emotional rollercoaster will just end, but I know God is testing me. I need to stick it out for a little while longer so that I never have to wonder what would have happened.
Prayer has really helped me, especially with my impatience…
You are so right- that is the one thing I’ve learnt in the last few months- patience. I thank God for that.Thank you. I understand how difficult it can be to decide when enough is enough, but I think that if you truly keep your heart open and listen to God, He’ll tell you when that point comes. It can be frustrating when things progress but just don’t seem to progress on our timetables, and it takes a lot of strength, patience, and courage to accept that even when God’s answer is “yes,” it sometimes comes with the condition of patience.
You’ll be in my prayers.