Marriage Sacrament, Bind and Loose, etc

[mesl4]

When Peter was given authority to bind and loose, does that mean that when we our “bound” or married here on Earth, we will still be married/ “bound” in Heaven? Jesus did say there are no marriages in heaven, but maybe he just meant no new marriages, but people are married there if they were married here. After all, we become one flesh.

Anyway, so if my husband was raised Catholic, but we’ve been practicing Protestants since we met, and I was baptized Mennonite where we were married, we need to get validated if I become Catholic. DOes that mean we’re not married in God’s eyes now? So like, I could get out of it if I wanted? Hypothetically of course. I’ve held on all these years because I didn’t believe in divorce since God hates it, but if he didn’t consider us married anyway, than we wouldn’t be divorced right? In which case, I wouldn’t want to go ahead w/the validation if I didn’t want to be married to him. Practically speaking though, it wouldn’t matter if the Priest says we’re not really married because in our hearts /minds we are. It would still be awful to separate because we have 2 young kids and it would be wrong so we will try to make the best of things. I just wanted feedback on the above questions. Thanks.

 

[gvogt4]

You’ve got a lot going on there.

When Peter was given authority to bind and loose, does that mean that when we our “bound” or married here on Earth, we will still be married/ “bound” in Heaven? Jesus did say there are no marriages in heaven, but maybe he just meant no new marriages, but people are married there if they were married here. After all, we become one flesh.

You’re attempting to apply this to marriage. You answered your own question. No, Jesus was not talking about marriage. At least not in the context you are speaking. As you pointed out, there is no marriage of persons to each other in Heaven. However, if the Church recognizes a marriage as valid, we have the assurance that it is as such in Heaven. The same applies if the Church were to determine a marriage invalid.

There is a difference between Sacramental marriage and a valid marriage though.

Anyway, so if my husband was raised Catholic, but we’ve been practicing Protestants since we met, and I was baptized Mennonite where we were married, we need to get validated if I become Catholic.

Well, you are asking if your marriage needs to be convalidated.
If you were not married in the Catholic Church, yes, you would need to have your marriage convalidated before entering.
However, this presumes you had a valid marriage in the first place. There are way too many circumstances to get into here to determine that. So, caution, this is not necessarily an explicit yes.

DOes that mean we’re not married in God’s eyes now? So like, I could get out of it if I wanted?

No way anyone could answer that with the information provided. For the record, the Church does recognize marriages outside of the Church as valid, not Sacramental. This, however, again is determined by many factors and circumstances. You need priestly counsel to help determine this. Generally though, a mariiage is considered valid until proven otherwise.

Hypothetically of course. I’ve held on all these years because I didn’t believe in divorce since God hates it, but if he didn’t consider us married anyway, than we wouldn’t be divorced right? In which case, I wouldn’t want to go ahead w/the validation if I didn’t want to be married to him.

refer to above

Practically speaking though, it wouldn’t matter if the Priest says we’re not really married because in our hearts /minds we are. It would still be awful to separate because we have 2 young kids and it would be wrong so we will try to make the best of things. I just wanted feedback on the above questions. Thanks.

No. Again refer to the authority of the Church given by Christ - first response.

Much consideration should be given to any marriage, but especially when it involves children. Again, various circumstance would come into play. Is it an abusive relationship? Are the children in danger? (Don’t answer these please. They are hypothetical.)

I’m sorry I can’t do better for you, but there are too many variables here, and if you are really serious about desiring to become Catholic, you will definitely need to address the marriage issue before you are able to do so, and these variables will have to be discussed with the priest anyway.

 

[quiet52]

Anyway, so if my husband was raised Catholic, but we’ve been practicing Protestants since we met, and I was baptized Mennonite where we were married, we need to get validated if I become Catholic. DOes that mean we’re not married in God’s eyes now? So like, I could get out of it if I wanted? Hypothetically of course. I’ve held on all these years because I didn’t believe in divorce since God hates it, but if he didn’t consider us married anyway, than we wouldn’t be divorced right? …Practically speaking though, it wouldn’t matter if the Priest says we’re not really married because in our hearts /minds we are.

If your husband was baptized in the Catholic Church, and married outside of the Church without dispensation from his bishop, then in the eyes of the Church your marriage is not a valid one.

 

[mesl4]

From first answer:

“However, if the Church recognizes a marriage as valid, we have the assurance that it is as such in Heaven.”

Does that mean people are married in heaven? Wow, I never thought that would be the case. Makes you REALLY want to be sure of the person before you get married since it’s not 'til death do you part" but “for time and eternity” as the LDS say.

 

[rwoehmke]

From first answer:
Does that mean people are married in heaven? Wow, I never thought that would be the case. Makes you REALLY want to be sure of the person before you get married since it’s not 'til death do you part" but “for time and eternity” as the LDS say.

No, what it mens is that a valid marriage is recognized in heaven until one of you dies. There is no marriage in heaven, nor is there sex, but that does not mean that people in heaven do not relate to one another. Guess you could say you could still be good buddies.