Marriage without sex

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Is it possible for someone to offer up being a virgin and not having sex in their marriage. I Know that this is the case with the Blessed Virgin Mary, but as far as I know church teaching says that we are to consumnate our marriage by having sex. I understand that you can also practice constinance for periods of time, as well as chastity. But what if someone decided to offer up their virginity could they still be married?
 
Arturo_Ortiz said:
Is it possible for someone to offer up being a virgin and not having sex in their marriage. I Know that this is the case with the Blessed Virgin Mary, but as far as I know church teaching says that we are to consumnate our marriage by having sex. I understand that you can also practice constinance for periods of time, as well as chastity. But what if someone decided to offer up their virginity could they still be married?
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Yes, Josephite marriages. It would be a valid marriage just not consummated. This article will help explain…
jimmyakin.com/2005/07/marys_marriage.html
 
Arturo_Ortiz said:
Is it possible for someone to offer up being a virgin and not having sex in their marriage. I Know that this is the case with the Blessed Virgin Mary, but as far as I know church teaching says that we are to consumnate our marriage by having sex. I understand that you can also practice constinance for periods of time, as well as chastity. But what if someone decided to offer up their virginity could they still be married?
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I think they could.
But it would be unwise.
To sleep in the same bed, or room, or house and … nothing ?
I do not believe in such arrrangements.
For that, there are cloisters of nuns and friars and they are sepparated …wisely …
 
Arturo_Ortiz said:
Is it possible for someone to offer up being a virgin and not having sex in their marriage. I Know that this is the case with the Blessed Virgin Mary, but as far as I know church teaching says that we are to consumnate our marriage by having sex. I understand that you can also practice constinance for periods of time, as well as chastity. But what if someone decided to offer up their virginity could they still be married?
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Can. 1061 §1 A valid marriage between baptised persons is said to be merely ratified, if it is not consummated; ratified and consummated, if the spouses have in a human manner engaged together in a conjugal act in itself apt for the generation of offspring. To this act marriage is by its nature ordered and by it the spouses become one flesh.

§2 If the spouses have lived together after the celebration of their marriage, consummation is presumed until the contrary is proven.
 
Tietjen said:
Yes, Josephite marriages. It would be a valid marriage just not consummated. This article will help explain…
jimmyakin.com/2005/07/marys_marriage.html
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I did not understand for I read it fast.
I knew 2 cases: one of a WW I soldier who was with his sexual organs damaged and another who married a lady without telling her that she had some trouble with his sexual organs genetically.
In both cases, the marriage was kept till death.
 
Only when your’e ready for a baby,don’t make sex an object of your marriage,your marriage should be based on love,loyalty and joy in sickness,good times and the bad times.Do what God Pleases.
 
Would somebody please tell me why someone would choose to enter into a Josephite marriage? What is the point? Why not remain single and chaste? I am talking about 2 fully sexually functioning humans, not those who are impotent.

I certainly hope one of the answers does not have to do with money.
 
The parents of St Theresa of Lisieux attempted to live this way, until a priest found out and scolded them. telling them that the purpose for marriage is to be open to procreate. They agreed and of course they had some nine children, four who died in infancy.

Jim
 
According to the Bible, 1 Corinthians chapter 7, to avoid sexual contact in marriage, except by mutual consent for a season of prayer, would not line up with the biblical view of Christian marriage.
 
God brought Adam and Eve together to, guess what, FILL THE EARTH WITH PEOPLE!!!

It isn’t rocket science…

I lost my virginity at 18 to a girl I met in a bar that wanted to get married, but I was WAY too young and wanted to shop around and keep pursuing so we split. Needless to say, I’ve had one other sexual encounter in the last 19 years. Talk about God trying to get your attention. Now, I do not believe that God wanted me and her to marry but I do believe he wanted to get me on the right path in the hopes of, I hope someday, landing a fully devout Catholic wife with whom I can share every congunal blessing with, the way HE intended.

A marriage without sex is not just wrong, it goes against EVERYTHING God himself intended. A man is supposed to want to please his wife sexually and likewise, the wife desires to please her husband sexually as well. It’s a beautiful thing I hope to share someday. Peace.
 
Marriage without sex isn’t wrong, for my father became paralyzed from the waist down at age 43, my mother was age 42. For them, sex ended, yet they were married for over 65 years, by the time my father died.

Also, as you age, trust me, sexual desires decline until almost not existent.

Doesn’t mean a couple should get a divorce because they can no longer have sex.

Sex isn’t love, it’s merely the means to expressing love, but not the only means and in fact, the lesser of all means.

Jim
 
just_came_back said:
God brought Adam and Eve together to, guess what, FILL THE EARTH WITH PEOPLE!!!

It isn’t rocket science…

I lost my virginity at 18 to a girl I met in a bar that wanted to get married, but I was WAY too young and wanted to shop around and keep pursuing so we split. Needless to say, I’ve had one other sexual encounter in the last 19 years. Talk about God trying to get your attention. Now, I do not believe that God wanted me and her to marry but I do believe he wanted to get me on the right path in the hopes of, I hope someday, landing a fully devout Catholic wife with whom I can share every congunal blessing with, the way HE intended.

A marriage without sex is not just wrong, it goes against EVERYTHING God himself intended. A man is supposed to want to please his wife sexually and likewise, the wife desires to please her husband sexually as well. It’s a beautiful thing I hope to share someday. Peace.
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So what would you said to holy virgin Mary? Did Mary sin? Did Mary go against EVERYTHING God intended?
 
JimR-OCDS said:
Marriage without sex isn’t wrong, for my father became paralyzed from the waist down at age 43, my mother was age 42. For them, sex ended, yet they were married for over 65 years, by the time my father died.

Also, as you age, trust me, sexual desires decline until almost not existent.

Doesn’t mean a couple should get a divorce because they can no longer have sex.

Sex isn’t love, it’s merely the means to expressing love, but not the only means and in fact, the lesser of all means.

Jim
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This is not what we are talking about. We are talking about entering into marriage fully intending not to have sex. Your parents had sexual relations (or you wouldn’t be here), but unfortunately were not able to continue, and your mother faithfully kept her marriage vows. It is no secret that one can live without sex and that many married couples find themselves for mostly medical reasons unable to have sex. But they did not enter into the marriage intending to remain virgins the rest of their lives. And nobody even mentioned divorce in this discussion.
 
CB_Catholic said:
This is not what we are talking about. We are talking about entering into marriage fully intending not to have sex. Your parents had sexual relations (or you wouldn’t be here), but unfortunately were not able to continue, and your mother faithfully kept her marriage vows. It is no secret that one can live without sex and that many married couples find themselves for mostly medical reasons unable to have sex. But they did not enter into the marriage intending to remain virgins the rest of their lives. And nobody even mentioned divorce in this discussion.
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This is the statement that was made, which I responded to;
A marriage without sex is not just wrong, it goes against EVERYTHING God himself intended.
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Of course a healthy couple going into marriage, should be open to pro-creation. But that’s not the sole purpose of sex, it’s also the unitive expression of love.

A couple not capable of pro-creation, or of having sex, should not be prohibited from expressing their love in marriage.

Jim
 
CB_Catholic said:
This is not what we are talking about. We are talking about entering into marriage fully intending not to have sex. Your parents had sexual relations (or you wouldn’t be here), but unfortunately were not able to continue, and your mother faithfully kept her marriage vows. It is no secret that one can live without sex and that many married couples find themselves for mostly medical reasons unable to have sex. But they did not enter into the marriage intending to remain virgins the rest of their lives. And nobody even mentioned divorce in this discussion.
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Right, and it is grounds for an annulment to enter a marriage and then find out someone is impotent. I think the OP was talking about entering a marriage this way.
 
Lady_Love said:
St. Cecilia was married and remained a virgin.
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But it was a prearranged marriage in that her parents arranged when she was just a child.

Different set of circumstances than the OP is questioning.

Jim
 
rebecca123 said:
According to the Bible, 1 Corinthians chapter 7, to avoid sexual contact in marriage, except by mutual consent for a season of prayer, would not line up with the biblical view of Christian marriage.
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Paul was discussing normal marriages --not those who where called by God (a rather rare call) to exchange the right to the marital act but forgo the acting upon it say to be missionaries etc etc. (or later forgo the marital act). Not a normal call. But one God can give.
 
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