Married 10 years ago

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This question is referring to my brother and his wife
they got married by civil court 10 years ago. Can they marry through church now? if no, why not?

They when to there church and they were told that they couldn’t. all they could do is bless the marriage.
 
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Jlrami1:
This question is referring to my brother and his wife
they got married by civil court 10 years ago. Can they marry through church now? if no, why not?

They when to there church and they were told that they couldn’t. all they could do is bless the marriage.
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They are already married, so I don’t think that it is possible to happen again. They can celebrate there marriage with some kind of reception. They can probably renew there vows.
 
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Jlrami1:
This question is referring to my brother and his wife
they got married by civil court 10 years ago. Can they marry through church now? if no, why not?

They when to there church and they were told that they couldn’t. all they could do is bless the marriage.
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you left out a lot of relevant facts: are they both Catholic? was either one married before? if not Catholic are both baptized? there are all kinds of factors. every case is unique and must be decided by their pastor (not church secretary, DRE, lady in the next pew, neighbor in a similar situation).

If both are Catholic and free to marry but were married by a judge they are not married in the eyes of the Church. If they were told they may have their marriage blessed, that probably means convalidated, which means the church then witnesses and recognizes the marriage, but not that they get “married again” it means they get married for the first time in the eyes of the church and after a good confession may receive communion. having the marriage “blessed” is not very specific. they should make an appointment with the pastor, give him all the facts and hear his decision.
 
My brother and sister in law were married by a justice of the peace, and they had what I assumed was a wedding about 6 years later in a Catholic church. I don’t remember her calling it a blessing, she called it a wedding. And they are both Catholics since childhood. I don’t recall her having any difficulty at the time getting permission for it.
 
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They are both Catholics.
Neither was married before.
They are both Baptized.
 
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They are both Catholics.
Neither was married before.
They are both Baptized.
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Then, they would seek Convalidation of the marriage. As baptized Catholics who married in a civil ceremony they have what is called a “lack of form” meaning their marriage is not Sacramental. They can seek to have their marriage recognized by the Church and have it convalidated. This will rectify the problem of being married outside the church.

They should talk to the pastor.
 
What does convalidation mean as a ritual? Can I get married with a full ceromonial church or (renewing wedding vows) I was told that I could only do a wedding blessing my family is very catholic and are wanting us to have a ceromial wedding.
 
convalidation is not supposed to be an opportunity to have the big fancy expensive wedding that was forsaken when the couple decided to get married by the judge. It is supposed to be a simple ceremony, with witnesses, in which the couple state their consent and make their vows in the presence of the priest or deacon, so that the marriage between two baptized Catholics becomes valid, and hence since they have removed the objective condition of sin, sacramental. the circumstances should be decided by the couple in consultation with the pastor, not with their extended family.
 
I write from personal experience. My husband and I were married in a civil ceremony seventeen years ago. Ten years later, we were married in the Catholic Church. My husband had attended classes and was confirmed and was allowed to marry me in the church.
 
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Jlrami1:
What does convalidation mean as a ritual? Can I get married with a full ceromonial church or (renewing wedding vows) I was told that I could only do a wedding blessing my family is very catholic and are wanting us to have a ceromial wedding.
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We had our marriage convalidated this past summer. Our priest told us we could make it as elaborate or simple as we wanted. We had a matron of honor and a best man. Our daughter was the flower girl. Obviously I didn’t wear a big fancy wedding gown, but I did have a bridal bouquet (in which I had the florist weave a rosary into.)
We could have had a Mass but we didn’t because we had a large percentage of protestants attending and I didn’t want any confusion with the Eucharist. My husband and I did recieve communion though. My husband and I walked down the aisle together instead of my dad giving me away since he had already done almost 14 years earlier that felt a bit weird to me. We placed roses at Mary feet, we said the same married vows any other couple would say when getting married. We even got new wedding bands that have a cross design on them.
It was beautiful and I loved it.

Yes it is a wedding. It was listed in the parish bulletin wedding banns as a wedding.
 
Rayne89, that sounds beautiful. You’ve given me some ideas for my convalidation ceremony…perhaps I will carry a rosary. Quick question, though, do your witnesses have to be Catholic or can they be anyone?
 
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Rayne89, that sounds beautiful. You’ve given me some ideas for my convalidation ceremony…perhaps I will carry a rosary. Quick question, though, do your witnesses have to be Catholic or can they be anyone?
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I believe they have to be Catholic but I would ask your priest just to be sure.
 
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