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This is a bit tangential to the conversation, maybe start a new thread?
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My husband and I both do the grocery shopping, so I can’t control what he buys. We have blueberries that grow near our home that he picks. I never buy grapes anymore for the kids’ safety.
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I am trying some avenues to see if it can be helped, but if it doesn’t improve, I know I’ll have to separate. At this point I’m trying to flesh out whether he has a medical issue or mental illness before I make my next move.
I will lay out a watered down timeline for clarification.
I moved to the East Coast, I met my husband, and we began dating. We became engaged and discussed our desire to have children and specifically, to have the first two be close in age, God willing (among many other important topics). No major red flags came up, and we got married after dating for over 2 years. After being married for several months, we had little ups and downs like every couple, but still, nothing that made me super concerned. He treated me kindly but with a little distance, and we seemed to align in our beliefs for raising children. We decided we wanted to have a baby, and I became pregnant. Our marriage appeared good, I was pregnant, we lived in a neighborhood that wasn’t child-friendly, and buying a house was quickly becoming cheaper than renting, so we bought a house. I was far away from my family, interacting with his family on a weekly basis, 7 weeks pregnant, and owned a house for about a month, when my husband told me that he’d been having explicit relationships online with several women. I stayed for our daughter. Our relationship got better for months, and then it got worse for months, and then it got better, to a point where I thought we’d made actual progress. We decided to have another child during this period of progress. Now my baby is 5 1/2 months old, and I’m trying to seek out any fair advice I can get to help my husband and my marriage before I absolutely call it quits.
Update: After another conversation with my husband, he has agreed to be more careful with how he feeds the children, even though he says he doesn’t believe it is necessary. *So at least the children are not in immediate danger.
I know I still have to make sure the health of myself, with consideration for my husband, is taken care of.
In writing this post, I am hoping for advice on how to handle a situation in which your spouse thinks they’re always in the right.
I will lay out a watered down timeline for clarification.
I moved to the East Coast, I met my husband, and we began dating. We became engaged and discussed our desire to have children and specifically, to have the first two be close in age, God willing (among many other important topics). No major red flags came up, and we got married after dating for over 2 years. After being married for several months, we had little ups and downs like every couple, but still, nothing that made me super concerned. He treated me kindly but with a little distance, and we seemed to align in our beliefs for raising children. We decided we wanted to have a baby, and I became pregnant. Our marriage appeared good, I was pregnant, we lived in a neighborhood that wasn’t child-friendly, and buying a house was quickly becoming cheaper than renting, so we bought a house. I was far away from my family, interacting with his family on a weekly basis, 7 weeks pregnant, and owned a house for about a month, when my husband told me that he’d been having explicit relationships online with several women. I stayed for our daughter. Our relationship got better for months, and then it got worse for months, and then it got better, to a point where I thought we’d made actual progress. We decided to have another child during this period of progress. Now my baby is 5 1/2 months old, and I’m trying to seek out any fair advice I can get to help my husband and my marriage before I absolutely call it quits.
Update: After another conversation with my husband, he has agreed to be more careful with how he feeds the children, even though he says he doesn’t believe it is necessary. *So at least the children are not in immediate danger.
I know I still have to make sure the health of myself, with consideration for my husband, is taken care of.
In writing this post, I am hoping for advice on how to handle a situation in which your spouse thinks they’re always in the right.
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TheLittleLady
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The answer to that is communication, and marriage counseling. The retreats I suggested are laser beam focused on healing problems in marriage.I am hoping for advice on how to handle a situation in which your spouse thinks they’re always in the right.
You may also find this ministry helpful, they have been featured on Catholic Answers Live
https://www.maritalhealing.com/conflicts.php
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Advice on how to handle annoying traits of an otherwise normal spouse are not going to work with a person who has a mental illness or personality disorder.I am hoping for advice on how to handle a situation in which your spouse thinks they’re always in the right.
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