Married at two chruches?

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Question, if I get married to someone that is of the nondenominational church, can I also get married in a catholic church 6 months later. I ask this because she wants to get married in her church, and I know the Catholic faith will not recognize if I don’t get married in a Catholic church. So can I get married in both?
 
you can get married in her church with a dispensation. Talk to your priest.
 
Okay so I can get married at her church first, then like 6 months later I can ask a Catholic priest to marry us? When I do it in a Catholic chruch I want it small, just the priest and the two of us. The big wedding will take place in hers. Tell me your thoughts.
 
Okay so I can get married at her church first, then like 6 months later I can ask a Catholic priest to marry us?
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No! You can only get married once. It is possible to get married in a non-Catholic ceremony and still have the marriage recognized by the Catholic Church. You need to talk to your priest now, not after the non-denominational wedding, to obtain a dispensation.

When people talk about married “outside the Church,” it doesn’t literally mean inside a Catholic Church building versus at another denomination’s Church building. “Outside the Church” means a marriage that is not sanctioned by the Catholic Church. A Catholic can marry a non-Catholic at a non-Catholic wedding ceremony with prior permission.

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So with prior permission it can be reconized by the Catholic chruch and I would not have to go through the process twice?
 
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J-cath:
Question, if I get married to someone that is of the nondenominational church, can I also get married in a catholic church 6 months later. I ask this because she wants to get married in her church, and I know the Catholic faith will not recognize if I don’t get married in a Catholic church. So can I get married in both?
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Well as a Catholic you should also insist on the Marriage taking place in your Church. The celebration of Marriage can only take place once, with one minister officiating. Also something to remember since you mention that she is a member of a nondenominational church. She must also be validly Baptized or the Marraieg is automatically invalid without the Bishops dispensation and is also NOT a Sacrament unless both persons are Baptized.
 
Right be she lives out of state. I want her to have the wedding at her church the wedding more or less is for her, as in the celerbration. I was married before, and yes I have an annullment but I want to get married at her church first then at mine.
 
If you are saying that you want to be married at her church because it is important to her while no church marriage at all is important to you, you have a problem.
 
I’m saying the actual ceremony at the church is important to her and the celebration. After I get married to her in her state with this in mind, I would like the Catholic church to recognize it.

Example: June I get married to her in her state in her church, etc have the celebration. I just want to have the marriage acknowledged and valid by the Catholic church.

Will that be a problem?
 
One more thing - since you are a Catholic, should you have a wedding in a non-Catholic Church without getting a dispensation from your Bishop - you would be living in sin. Catholics are bound to follow the Church’s rules. The idea of living in sin just to have a celebration, well - not what I’d advise a friend to do!

On Catholic Answers Live last Wed evening, someone called in with this kind of question, the answer would be worth listening to in the archives.

You really need to speak to your Priest.
 
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J-cath:
I’m saying the actual ceremony at the church is important to her and the celebration. After I get married to her in her state with this in mind, I would like the Catholic church to recognize it.

Example: June I get married to her in her state in her church, etc have the celebration. I just want to have the marriage acknowledged and valid by the Catholic church.

Will that be a problem?
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What you should do then is meet with your pastor. Both of you attend the necessary pre-marriage preparation required for valid Marriage in your diocese. (even if you ask the Church to recognize the invlaid marriage later. You will usually still be required to attend the preparation process prior to validation) Being in two different places does not pose a problem by the way. Your pastor will request the necessary Dispensation if she is not Baptized or the necessary permission if she is. He will also obtain the necessary permission for you to marry validly in another church and without a Catholic priest present. This then makes the marriage valid from the beginning and does not require a convalidation by the Catholic Church at a later date.

One of the problems presented by attempting Marriage invalidly and later seeking convalidation is that during the meantime you are not validly Married. You cannot receive Holy Communion, you risk being tempted to fall away from your Catholic faith. You commit the Mortal sin of Fornication every time you engage in sexual contact. It’d just not a good way to start a Marriage.
 
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J-cath:
I’m saying the actual ceremony at the church is important to her and the celebration. After I get married to her in her state with this in mind, I would like the Catholic church to recognize it.

Example: June I get married to her in her state in her church, etc have the celebration. I just want to have the marriage acknowledged and valid by the Catholic church.

Will that be a problem?
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Yep. Yes. Ja. Si. Oui. Vere. You bet. It will be a problem.

Please listen to what the rest of the posters are telling you, really hear the voices behind the type.

If in June you marry her in the nondenominational church (small c) in her home state without a dispensation from the Church (large C and the One, True Church), you are committing a sin. The Church will consider that you are living in sin and committing fornication every time you and she have relations.

However, if you go to see a priest now, before June, and get a dispensation, provided she is properly baptized in the Trinity and can prove it, you will have a sacramental marriage. You will not have to go through another ceremony.

If you want to receive the Sacrament of Marriage, and you want it in a Catholic church, which will be recognized by the Church, then you still need to go see a priest now. In that case, you will be getting married in your local parish church.
 
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