Married by the law

[newbetx]

ok but what if he seems to believe that he can confess straight to God right now his back away from the church cuz of his job and friend, he curses alot and say sexual jokes with in his friends like thet are gay it bothers me alot but i know that he can change he says he is trying but when he is ready he will confess to God he questions me alot about why the priest he is human. you know its his friends that influence him and makes it hard for him. i told him I was going to go to confession I told him we weren’t going to have sex I want to have my live straight with God regarless. but I have been faith that he is going to relialize that im going a totally different way and I have told him before I will leave you, if you cant change becuase been with him theirs temptation, and lust and influences me to get off track.

It’s a tough struggle. I understand. I struggled with these feelings and issues when I was his age. You do have to make a decision. Catholics are expected to have a real Church wedding or Convalidated wedding before engaging in the marital embrace. You and your boyfriend need to come to terms with this. There are times that chastity is required in a marriage, too. You need the strength (and he does, too) to do what is right for you and your relationship with God.

If you want a virtuous man, you need to tell him that and he has the choice to become one or leave. You have the choice of the type of man you want to be with, too. Prayers for you.

 

[newbetx]

ok but what if he seems to believe that he can confess straight to God right now his back away from the church cuz of his job and friend, .

Sorry. Forgot to address this. For Catholics, confession is through a priest, only. For others, they can deceive themselves into thinking they are sorry enough for it to count. Tell your boyfriend it takes a real man to admit to another, ones failings. That is why Jesus commanded it be done this way.

 

[LilyM]

ok but what if he seems to believe that he can confess straight to God right now his back away from the church cuz of his job and friend, he curses alot and say sexual jokes with in his friends like thet are gay it bothers me alot but i know that he can change he says he is trying but when he is ready he will confess to God he questions me alot about why the priest he is human. you know its his friends that influence him and makes it hard for him. i told him I was going to go to confession I told him we weren’t going to have sex I want to have my live straight with God regarless. but I have been faith that he is going to relialize that im going a totally different way and I have told him before I will leave you, if you cant change becuase been with him theirs temptation, and lust and influences me to get off track.

If he’s not serious about his faith, and you are, you need to think about whether this is someone you can really live the rest of your life with, and whether you even should get married. Your married life is going to be a real struggle with this sort of disparity of view - what if he wants to use birth control and you don’t?