Married CAFers, how did you meet your current spouse?

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We’ve had a lot of debates on here how people should meet their spouses. So here’s the question - for those of you who are actually married, how did you meet? And what did you do between meeting your spouse and getting married that you think has an impact on your marriage now?
 
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That said. We both attended the same parish–often the same masses. We both went to TOT events hosted by the dioceses. We have photographic evidence that we were both at the same event but we, on our lives, could not recall each other being there.

He had conversed with one other person on CM. I had conversed and met with a handful, and had gone on many dates with one man. Oddly enough, none of them were in my town.

I am glad we met through an online source. My husband is a lovely man, but he is timid and warms up very slowly. I am very lively in crowds but that’s a facade for public consumption. It’s hard to get to know me.

In short, despite us being in the same circles and going to the same parish for years, we never met.

How does it impact our marriage?

I dunno…we like the internet? We don’t have a TV and watch Youtube off the internet and shop on Amazon rather than Target/Walmart…

Other than that, I think or marriage is pretty much the same as any faithful marriage. How we met is rather irrelevant at this juncture.
 
I’ve been married a long time now, before there was such a thing as the Internet, and on-line dating.

My husband and I met through mutual friends.

In fact, our friends were going out with each other.

My closest girl friend, was going out with his closest male friend, but we had never happened to meet each other. I had known his closest friend for a long time, before I ever met my husband. The three of us would hang out together, where we would go out together, like go to the movies together, and then go out to eat together.

However, his friend had decided–along with my girl friend–that he and I would make a good couple together, so they asked me to go with them to meet him.

We were all going to meet him to play games and have snacks that evening, and that is what we did.

I wasn’t looking to really meet anyone at that time, but I had an open mind about it, at the same time, too.

He asked me out that night, and I accepted, and we started going out after that. 🙂
 
Dude worked in the next cube from me at my first job out of college and had been hired the year before.

As for what we did between meeting and getting married, we got to know each other very well and decided we would always be together. If the Lord hadn’t instituted the sacrament of marriage, we’d still be together.
 
That’s nice, Jharek. 🙂

I think that it must keep things interesting in your relationship. 🙂

My husband and I are “opposites,” in some ways. Where we are similar, is that we share the same values.

I am more extroverted than he is, and he has more of a serious personality than I do. He can be more quiet and introverted. I am more easy-going.
 
Thanks for your beautiful response, Jharek!

I really enjoyed reading what you had to share with us. It was lovely! ❤️

My husband comes from a different religious background from me.

I have enjoyed learning about it, and learning from his Mom, whom I absolutely love.

She has taught me how to cook and bake some of his favorite family dishes. It has been a joy and a pleasure learning from her, and then being able to make those same dishes for my husband. 🙂
 
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His sister was in a club with me in college and introduced us! It was long distance until I graduated.
 
Through work. We were with the same company but on different continents.

My in-laws met under similar circumstances, and like them we communicated frequently from a distance for over a year before deciding one of us had to move 😀

Since we didn’t have physical presence, these conversations were very important. Our relationship started with a lot of talking. We were extremely frank with one another, and this honesty continues to this day.
 
His brother introduced him to me on Good Friday.
His brother and I had gone out a couple of times,
but his brother thought I was too old-fashioned, so it wasn’t going well.
My future husband liked old-fashioned
He married me.
His brother married a modern woman.
 
We met through church. When I first clapped eyes on him he was kneeling in worship. Which is commonplace for Catholics, not so much for evangelicals. I had a pretty good idea he serious about his faith and that’s what was important to me.
Got to know him for a few months, found he was decent, hardworking, reliable and kind and he proposed eight months after we met. My mother was dying at the time and he was an enormous support. She died in April and we married in September.
I’ve always said that our marriage was forged together by difficulty. Grief, health problems, the loss of children, all manner of challenges have cemented us as partners. And I suppose that stems from me having my head turned by a man of true faith and integrity, and learning that about him before we married.
 
We worked in the same area of the city and we both attended daily mass during work hours at a nearby church. One day I was outside the church and he asked me to go to lunch. I would never had met him, otherwise as lived far away from each other. We both knew that we were brought together by God. We started to sit together at mass and lunch became a habit, and expanded to outings and so on.

He was a semi country mouse and i was a city mouse☺we were married, and we moved to suburbs. I learned how to have a vegetable garden and learned how to drive.(No need for a car in the city).
 
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I had a job in college working in the mailroom of a bank. I kept seeing this woman I thought attractive as I’d make my daily rounds with the mail cart. I had a friend introduce us. On June 25, 1988 we went on essentially a blind date. After two years of getting to know each other, we were married on June 23, 1990. I married way above my station. She is a Saint.
 
I was much younger and a rather lapsed Catholic at the time. I was with a different girlfriend, going with her to her high school homecoming bonfire out behind the school. My future wife was there, a friend of my then girlfriend.

There were no instant sparks or what have you. I remained with that girlfriend another two years, seeing my future wife from time to time as they were friends and hung out. That girlfriend and I had a rather nasty break up. A couple months later I started hanging out with my future wife, first date (though we wouldn’t consider it as dating until months and months later) was to the beach on a cold April day, walking in the sand, getting our feet wet, followed by dinner at Fridays.

I guess the short of it is that I met my wife “through a friend.” I’ll have to think on the rest of the question. I married her, her a lapsed Baptist and me a lapsed Catholic. It was her interest in Catholicism years later that had me reinvestigate my faith.
 
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We were working in the same store after college. Our time together there only overlapped by a month but that’s all it took.

One of the biggest things that we did that still has an impact is that we started going to Mass together weekly. This will likely scandalize many CAFers but my husband didn’t marry a Catholic. 😲 😉 So regular Mass attendance before marriage had a profound impact on our marriage because it set the expectation for what our family faith life would be like and laid the groundwork for my conversion.
 
My DH and I worked together at a summer job. I later was hired to a full time position. He went on to grad school. We remained friendly, sometimes closer other times I thought he was very snooty. We dated about 3 or so years after we met. He ended up not being snooty. 😉 We have been married almost 20 years.
 
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We met through Ave Maria Catholic Singles website.
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And what did you do between meeting your spouse and getting married that you think has an impact on your marriage now?
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We spent a lot of time talking and writing to one another, and when we were together in the same place more time talking and not so much time “dating” (doing “stuff” like movies and dinner and whatever) although we did things it was more with our families and church.

We lived 1800 miles apart until we got married. Gave us lots of time to talk and think critically, analyze goals and priorities, and get to know the other on a very deep level.

And we were older, I was 36 and he was 42 when we met. So we had a lot of life experience behind us as well.
 
My husband and I met in college my freshman year. I didn’t find out he was Lutheran until after we had gone out for a hike and a pizza. We just clicked right away, and I was straight forward about my faith and my desire to marry a fellow Catholic. He started attending mass with me, and he found that he felt drawn to the Catholic Church. He converted two years later, and the following Christmas he proposed. We dated about four and a half years total before marriage.
 
I got my wife through a trade. I had to give up a basket of eggs, a watch and some homemade preserves. I think I got the better part of the deal.

😉😀
 
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