Married ladies, do you have single girlfriends?

[CatholicSam]

All my single friends say enjoy the bachelorette party cause it’s a 90percent chance that this is the last time your friend will ever be fun.

My husband makes life at home so loving and peaceful that I can honestly say that if I never set foot outside of the house again, I would be perfectly happy (except to go to Mass, of course). And I can see how being fulfilled at home might not look like a lot of fun to others. But going dancing would be *my *idea of Dante’s 7th circle of hell I’d rather be at home reading a book to my husband while I’m breastfeeding our newborn and while hubby wrestles our toddler in the living room. Now *that’s *a good time! You should try it sometime

 

[puzzleannie]

yes I have friends who are married, single, divorced and widowed and some who are nuns. Some work, some are retired, most are involved in some type of apostolate either way.

Some have children at home (their own or grandchildren they are raising), some do not. Some have husbands who are joined at the hip, some have husbands who are busy with their own (male) friends and guy activities (golfing, hunting et al). some have no husbands, or no man in their life at all. Some share time and activities with their husbands (golfing, bridge, birding whatever), some have outside interests their husbands to not share.

For whatever reason, there are plenty of times the ladies want to spend time doing something that does not appeal to the men, so it is great to have friends to share those things with.

I don’t know too many men who want to have a monthly luncheon and gabfest over quiche and mushroom soup (DH won’t step inside anything that looks to him like a “girly place”). I don’t know too many men who will drive all over N Indiana looking for a farm that lets you select your own ewe, have her sheared, and the wool prepped and sent to you for spinning and weaving purposes.

Most of the men and women I know would rather participate in a prayer group or bible study with those of their own gender. (I often think at least for older folks if we offered His and Hers RCIA classes we would get a lot more participation from the men)

It is also nice, if there is a dance or social event at the RV park hall, when the men do dance, and even ask some of the single ladies to dance occasionally.

 

[OldAgeGuru]

My husband makes life at home so loving and peaceful that I can honestly say that if I never set foot outside of the house again, I would be perfectly happy (except to go to Mass, of course). And I can see how being fulfilled at home might not look like a lot of fun to others. But going dancing would be *my *idea of Dante’s 7th circle of hell I’d rather be at home reading a book to my husband while I’m breastfeeding our newborn and while hubby wrestles our toddler in the living room. Now *that’s *a good time! You should try it sometime

That’s your thing, and that’s fine. To me it’s just frustrating when these women who you spent so much time with suddenly decide that they are too good for you once they get that gold band on their finger. Even when you invite them to something like going out to dinner, or grabbing some margaritas after work with the girls it’s always poo poo-ed. Or worse, they only call you when their husband is out of town.

I’m not talking women with small children either. It’s very frustrating as your circle of friends dwindles, simply because people have gotten married.

 

[mariam1976]

My husband makes life at home so loving and peaceful that I can honestly say that if I never set foot outside of the house again, I would be perfectly happy (except to go to Mass, of course). And I can see how being fulfilled at home might not look like a lot of fun to others. But going dancing would be *my *idea of Dante’s 7th circle of hell I’d rather be at home reading a book to my husband while I’m breastfeeding our newborn and while hubby wrestles our toddler in the living room. Now *that’s *a good time! You should try it sometime

what you have described here is a DREAM COME TRUE!!!

god bless you!!!

 

[mariam1976]

That’s your thing, and that’s fine. To me it’s just frustrating when these women who you spent so much time with suddenly decide that they are too good for you once they get that gold band on their finger. Even when you invite them to something like going out to dinner, or grabbing some margaritas after work with the girls it’s always poo poo-ed. Or worse, they only call you when their husband is out of town.

I’m not talking women with small children either. It’s very frustrating as your circle of friends dwindles, simply because people have gotten married.

no my dear… its not that they think that they have suddenly become too good for you… when i was married, i also lost touch with my friends… it was becos the time that the friends went out for dinner or the other activities was also the time when my hubby was home… in the evenings… the rest of the time since both of us work there was no time together… also you end up doing so much around the house that it is easier to just stay home… if both he and me started going out with friends soon we would not have time left for ourselves… also it does not feel nice to leave him home alone while you are out… if u kwim?

 

[OldAgeGuru]

no my dear… its not that they think that they have suddenly become too good for you… when i was married, i also lost touch with my friends… it was becos the time that the friends went out for dinner or the other activities was also the time when my hubby was home… in the evenings… the rest of the time since both of us work there was no time together… also you end up doing so much around the house that it is easier to just stay home… if both he and me started going out with friends soon we would not have time left for ourselves… also it does not feel nice to leave him home alone while you are out… if u kwim?

If you kwim? I don’t know what that means.

In some cases they have gotten to good for us. We’re blown off constantly, unless it’s convienient for them. We hear things like we have to do X, but you wouldn’t understand, since your not married. Well, last time I checked, I had a functioning brain, a college degree, and almost a masters, I’m pretty sure I can understand “I have to mop the floor” Like I said, I understand busy. I work full time, and I’m getting a Masters Degree, and I’m getting my social work licensure. I have an apartment, and a dog. I know what busy is like, but I just think it’s not hard to pick up the phone and check in while mopping the floor or walking the dog. Then they get frustrated with us cause we stop inviting them out. Well why waste the cell phone miniutes to invite you when you’re just going to say no.

I guess I’m just the type of person where I don’t feel as though I should need to babysit my husband or vice versa, and that if I want to go get my nails done, then I can go with one of my friends. When my boyfriend goes golfing I don’t sit in the car while he plays 18 holes. I guess I just think that it is wonderful to spend time together, but that it’s not a terrible thing to pursue interests and hobbies of your own sometimes.

I understand that when you have a baby, you’re limited in what’s available to you. Limited free time, you can’t drink, lack of sleep… but when you’re married, you could sneak away for an hour or two once a month, and I highly doubt that you feel tempted and lustful at a hair salon while you have so much tinfoil on your head you’re picking up radio signals from space, and it’s not like you don’t need haircuts every once in a while. Call a friend and go with them.

 

[Feanaro_s_Wife]

In some cases they have gotten to good for us. We’re blown off constantly, unless it’s convienient for them. We hear things like we have to do X, but you wouldn’t understand, since your not married. .

Doesn’t sound like the problem is with married friends. Your problem is with your friends. If they are truly as you describe, then they sound a bit condescending and act like they are “better than you”. That would irritate me too.

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**Just keep these things in mind for the possible day when you are married and have single friends… **

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Malia

 

[Lucania]

… again what was she doing dreaming that all 3 for searching for a place to stay in if she didnt like him in the first place./quote]

Well it is just a dream. I don’t know anyone who can control who or what they dream about! Believe me, I’ve had some weird, strange, far-fetched dreams & I am pretty normal ! It does seem that when I dream, the person or subject matter seems to have to do with something I had been discussing recently or a person I had talked to or thought about recently. Dreams usually don’t make any sense, I don’t put much meaning into them myself.

 

[Lucania]

If you kwim? I don’t know what that means./quote]

kwim=know what I mean
dkwtm=don’t know what that means

 

[mariam1976]

If you kwim? I don’t know what that means.

if u kwim(know what i mean)…

i agree with feanaro’s wife… the problem seems to be with ur friends and not married friends in general… i was always there (or hope i was… ) whenever any of my friends needed me for whatever… to talk or help or whatever…

i just felt bad when i went out and did stuff where my hubby would not be able to join in… but thats just me… everyone does not have to be that way…

i still had long talks with my friends over the weekends to catch up with them but i also felt good knowing that i was not leaving my hubby to fend for himself… so 2 birds with one stone!!!

also, these were the same friends who were there for me as i am going through my divorce so i dont think i ever gave them the feeling that i was not there for them when they needed me… and they always tell me now that they understood that once i got married, my priority was my husband and they respected me for that and all they wanted was for me to be happy…

 

[Sandi]

Listen to your intuition; this woman sounds like a problem you don’t need.

My friends (married or not; their marital status doesn’t matter to me) don’t have to like my husband; they just have to be polite to him. I have one single friend who makes it very clear that she wants to socialize with just me, not my husband. She doesn’t dislike him; she’s very friendly to him. But she likes just the two of us to go out and do “girly” stuff and I’m fine with it.

 

[SeekerJen]

My best friend is single.

I have been married for 15 years, and she was my maid of honor. My husband likes her, and as far as I know, she likes him.

I recently moved to another state. So we don’t see each other as often as we used to. But before I moved we loved to go out and do things together. Mostly dinner, movies, shows or just shopping. We only went out, at the most, once a month. It was more like once every two months.

Now it is only when I get up there to visit. Or when she comes down and stays with us. She came down and stayed a week when I was having some medical problems. It was great.

Sounds a lot like my best friend, who is also single. We’ve been friends for 10 years now, and we’re more like sisters than friends. She was my maid of honor, and has promised that I will be hers if and when she marries. She lives and works 1.5 hours away, so we don’t get together as often as we would like, but it’s always the most fun when she comes to stay with us for a weekend. She and my husband get along well, and he has no problem if we want to have a girly lunch-and-shopping outing.

But this women isn’t your friend. She is a neighbor. One that doesn’t like your husband. One that I would stay away from as much as possible.

I agree. My husband is my family. Anyone who has a problem with my family is not a friend of mine.

 

[raggakitten]

If you have a bad feeling over this, than follow your heart, she must be showing other signs besides dreaming about you 2…

Is better to avoid any problems, you know what I mean? You can always make more friends, but you only have one husband