But offhand, how could a priest possibly divide his loyalties between a wife and his duties to God? Their hearts are supposed to be totally devoted, wholly, 100% to God…all their love is for God and love for others in Christ. They can’t share their hearts and lives with a wife.
While the Church, East and West, teaches that consecrated virginity is objectively a preferred state of life, this teaching actually applies to Christians in general, not just priests. All Christians should, ideally, devote their lives 100% to God, and marriage does tend to get in the way of this, priest or not.
However, since this applies to all Christians, it also applies, even more, to priests, and to bishops still more (which is why even the Eastern Churches require bishops to be single, usually monks).
And so the Church, East and West, holds the celibate priest up as an ideal, but it’s an exagerration to say “how could a priest possibly divide his loyalties between a wife and his duties to God?” since hundreds of priests, Catholic and Orthodox, do it every day, and do it well, and they’re not necessarily inferior.
While consecrated celibacy is objectively, in and of itself, a holier state of life than marriage, this is not ncessarily the case
subjectively for each individual person. Not everyone has what it takes; that’s all there is to it.Which is why, for most people, marriage is the better path to sanctification than consecrated virginity.
However, all things being equal, the celibate priest (indeed, the celibate Christian) is better off, even holier, than the noncelibate.