Married with two kids Love to become priest please pray for me

[Jafar]

Please pray for me, I do not know what to do with the urge for years
and it has become stronger . I love to become priest and as I am married with two kids
I can’t

Please pray for me that I stop this confusion

 

[Sirach2]

Please pray for me, I do not know what to do with the urge for years
and it has become stronger . I love to become priest and as I am married with two kids
I can’t

Please pray for me that I stop this confusion

As St. Francis de Sales wrote, there are temptations that pull us from our primary vocation that should not even be considered … for instance, nuns or priests wanting to be married, married wanting to be clergy, etc.

If your desire is from God, there is no reason why you can’t be a Deacon and serve in your diocese or parish, and still be married.

 

[Neofight]

Please pray for me, I do not know what to do with the urge for years
and it has become stronger . I love to become priest and as I am married with two kids
I can’t

Please pray for me that I stop this confusion

Consider the permanent deaconate! The Church is always in need of good, faithful, Deacons.

 

[YADA]

Please pray for me, I do not know what to do with the urge for years and it has become stronger . I love to become priest and as I am married with two kids I can’t

Please pray for me that I stop this confusion

Perhaps you are confusing your calling to serve in a ministerial office as a calling to the priesthood … it may be a calling to serve the people of God through the permanent Deaconate … something that your wife would have to agree to because it is a permanent commitment … if your marriage should end in divorce or death - you would not be allowed to remarry …

There are many ways in which we serve Jesus … discernment, prayer, discernment and prayer are needed to understand God’s role for us … nothing happens quickly … e

The path to priesthood is not easy or quick … years in seminary …
The path to the permanent Deaconate is also years in study and formation …

I will be praying for you …

Also - This maybe a consideration for you … I know a few men and have read about many others who come to the priesthood later in life … after the death of a spouse [one after going through a civil divorce - and annulment] but I would not recommend this … his calling to the priesthood came after the divorce - not the cause of it … Our Lord would not call you to the priesthood to the harm of your wife and children …

 

[gravity]

Consider the permanent deaconate! The Church is always in need of good, faithful, Deacons.

 

[Dorothy]

As St. Francis de Sales wrote, there are temptations that pull us from our primary vocation that should not even be considered … for instance, nuns or priests wanting to be married, married wanting to be clergy, etc.

If your desire is from God, there is no reason why you can’t be a Deacon and serve in your diocese or parish, and still be married.

As long as the wife is okay with it; those in charge want to be sure of that.

 

[njlisa]

Prayer for Faithfulness to My Religion

O Lord, I pray for the grace and the strength to remain faithful to Your teachings and to the sacramental life of the Church. Help me to persevere in the commitments and promises I have made to You. Give me the fortitude to live up to the vocation I received in my baptism, to the duties derived from my confirmation in the Spirit, and to the graces received in the other sacraments.

Help me to place love of God and service to Him before all else and help me to bring selfless love to my brothers and sisters in Christ.
Amen.

 

[pianistclare]

Before you look into other possible ministries…I will pray that you seek a deeper relationship with your wife and children first, and that your commitment to them be renewed and the purpose for that vocation may be made clear to you and fulfill you.
May you follow the will of God in all things.
Peace.

 

[Jeanne_S]

As St. Francis de Sales wrote, there are temptations that pull us from our primary vocation that should not even be considered … for instance, nuns or priests wanting to be married, married wanting to be clergy, etc.

If your desire is from God, there is no reason why you can’t be a Deacon and serve in your diocese or parish, and still be married.

This!

 

[PaulScotus]

Praying for discernment that you may find the best vocation for you. To be a Deacon or to be a pastoral associate? Maybe to be a part of formation (RCIA). I am certain that you feel God calling you, brother. I pray for the Holy Spirit to guide you to Him.

Peace be with you

 

[tawny]

Please pray for me, I do not know what to do with the urge for years
and it has become stronger . I love to become priest and as I am married with two kids
I can’t

Please pray for me that I stop this confusion

Praying to the Holy Spirit to give you guidance & direction.

 

[Arizona_Fat_Gir]

As I have been told at one time in Catholic High School, a married man may become a priest with his wife’s permission. Then he would have to separate from her and not live as husband and wife.

Also, if the wife decided to become a nun, she would need permission from her husband. But before that could happen, there could be no small, dependent children. Their kids would have to be self sufficient.

 

[mcford1]

As I have been told at one time in Catholic High School, a married man may become a priest with his wife’s permission. Then he would have to separate from her and not live as husband and wife.

Also, if the wife decided to become a nun, she would need permission from her husband. But before that could happen, there could be no small, dependent children. Their kids would have to be self sufficient.

I’m sorry, Arizona FG, but you have been misinformed. In the ROMAN Catholic Church, it is absolutely not possible for a validly married man to be ordained a priest, permission or no permission.Same for the wife becoming a consecrated nun.

 

[Trishie]

Loving God please bless Jafar with all graces and determination needed to be the best, most attentive and generous of husbands,
and all the graces and determination a truly loving, attentive father who is a blessing to these precious souls entrusted to him.

Do not allow him to remain divided in heart or mind, but to live in great charity in the life given to him.
We must serve with mind heart and soul where we are, not where we are not,
otherwise we are cheating ourselves, the spouse to whom God Himself in Sacrament has united us as one; and in danger of betraying the deep needs of souls brought into being through God and through our marital unity in the Sacrament of Marriage bestowed before the face of God in the Church.

 

[SyroMalankara]

Please pray for me, I do not know what to do with the urge for years
and it has become stronger . I love to become priest and as I am married with two kids
I can’t

Please pray for me that I stop this confusion

Are you a member of Latin Church, or one of the Eastern Catholic Churches? The Eastern Churches have married deacons and priests.

 

[LilyM]

I’m sorry, Arizona FG, but you have been misinformed. In the ROMAN Catholic Church, it is absolutely not possible for a validly married man to be ordained a priest, permission or no permission.Same for the wife becoming a consecrated nun.

Mcford, I am sorry but you are the one who is at least partially mistaken.

There are cases, particularly in recent years, of converts who are married men who had, for example, been Anglican or Episcopalian ministers prior to conversion, being permitted by Rome to remain married whilst becoming ordained Catholic priests in the Roman rite. A dispensation from the requirement that a priest must never have been married can be granted by Rome under Canon 1047.

The one hard-and-fast rule seems to be that marriage must occur prior to ordination, and there seems to be no reason in theory (although I have not personally come across a case in practice) why someone born and raised in the Roman Rite of Catholicism could not possibly receive a similar dispensation from the discipline of celibacy as the converts. It must be pointed out that it is a rarity even among converts.

Others have mentioned the Permanent Diaconate.

Perhaps the OP is being led to look into a switch to one of the Eastern Catholic Churches, which while very much in communion with Rome do allow more readily for married priests. I am not knowledgeable enough in the process of such change to be able to tell you whether the fact you want to be a married priest would by itself be good enough reason for it to be allowed - but it couldn’t hurt to contact an Eastern Catholic parish in your area to find out.

 

[mcford1]

Mcford, I am sorry but you are the one who is at least partially mistaken.

There are cases, particularly in recent years, of converts who are married men who had, for example, been Anglican or Episcopalian ministers prior to conversion, being permitted by Rome to remain married whilst becoming ordained Catholic priests in the Roman rite. A dispensation from the requirement that a priest must never have been married can be granted by Rome under Canon 1047.

Yes, of course that’s true, but I was clearly not responding to the theoretical case of a married Anglican or Episcopalian (or Lutheran) minister converting to Catholicism, which is irrelevant to this thread. I was responding to the ACTUAL case of the originator of this thread, who is married but is (presumably) not currently a Protestant minister in one of those denominations, and therefore is not covered by that special indult. The fact remains: in the Latin rite, this man cannot be ordained a priest unless he is widowed or the marriage is annuled, though the permanent diaconate is of course an available option.

 

[mcford1]

LilyM;12065167:

Mcford, I am sorry but you are the one who is at least partially mistaken.

There are cases, particularly in recent years, of converts who are married men who had, for example, been Anglican or Episcopalian ministers prior to conversion, being permitted by Rome to remain married whilst becoming ordained Catholic priests in the Roman rite. A dispensation from the requirement that a priest must never have been married can be granted by Rome under Canon 1047.

Yes, of course that’s true, but I was clearly not responding to the theoretical case of a married Anglican or Episcopalian (or Lutheran) minister converting to Catholicism, which is irrelevant to this thread. I was responding to the ACTUAL case of the originator of this thread, who is married but is (presumably) not currently a Protestant minister in one of those denominations, and therefore is not covered by that dispensation. The fact remains: in the Latin rite, this man cannot be ordained a priest unless he is widowed or the marriage is annuled, though the permanent diaconate is of course an available option.

 

[LilyM]

mcford1;12065214:

Yes, of course that’s true, but I was clearly not responding to the theoretical case of a married Anglican or Episcopalian (or Lutheran) minister converting to Catholicism, which is irrelevant to this thread. I was responding to the ACTUAL case of the originator of this thread, who is married but is (presumably) not currently a Protestant minister in one of those denominations, and therefore is not covered by that dispensation. The fact remains: in the Latin rite, this man cannot be ordained a priest unless he is widowed or the marriage is annuled, though the permanent diaconate is of course an available option.

Please read the actual Canon I cited - it makes zero mention of the dispensation only being available to converts. It makes no distinction at all between converts and cradle Catholics, in fact. As I said, in practice it appears to at least be applied more readily to converts, but legally there seems to be no difference.

 

[pollylodges]

Saint Michael, the archangel, defend us in battle, be our defense against the wickedness and snares of the devil, may God rebuke him, we humbly pray. And do you, O’ Prince of the Heavenly host, by the power of God thrust into Hell Satan and all the other evil spirits who prowl about the world for the ruin of souls.

Amen.

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Our Father who art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name.

Thy kingdom come, thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven.

Give us this day our daily bread.

And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.

And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.

Amen.

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Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.

Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb Jesus.

Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.

Amen.

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