Married Woman Flirting

[PiusXIII]

At a business I frequent, there is a woman who works there who often flirts with me. The woman is married–seldom mentions her husband but often mentions how we should go to lunch together or dinner together sometime. I’m not sure whether she’s serious or joking around but either way it makes me a little uneasy. Should I just avoid this business or should I bring it up and confront her about how I feel about her flirting?

 

[Marilena]

You should go to her and ask her to stop. She is married, and her
flirting is wrong. to not say something could be construed by her
as your not against it, and she might think it is permissable, when
in fact, it is not. I would speak politely with her, and tell her your feelings, and ask her to stop. God bless you!

 

[CuriousInIL]

I would simply avoid the business.

 

[Marilena]

CuriousInIL:

I would simply avoid the business.

Maybe you would, this makes him uneasy, and therefore he
needs to ask her to stop doing it. It is the correct thing to do.
It is not appropraite behavior on her part.

 

[Jonah]

Tell her you and your wife would love to go to lunch with her and her husband… Maybe brunch after Mass.

If you can avoid her do so, if you can’t because of work relationship then just make sure that there is always someone else around.

Do not allow her to talk to you about intimate things such as: her relationship with her husband, her unhappiness. This is even more dangerous than flirting.

 

[deekod1967]

I’m with Jonah - if she wants to tell you about her husband’s faults etc. then cut her short and tell her how great your wife/partner is to you and that yoiu think it would be good for both couples to have a meal sometime together. Above all - tell your wife what’s going on - she will get the message acroos to her at the meal no problem.

 

[CuriousInIL]

Marilena:

Maybe you would, this makes him uneasy, and therefore he

needs to ask her to stop doing it. It is the correct thing to do. It is not appropraite behavior on her part.

Her behavior makes him uneasy. Avoiding the business addresses the uneasiness as much or more than a request to her to stop. Also, I see no indication whatsoever of a relationship that would require that some sort of a correction be attempted. There is also no indication of the underlying belief set of the woman, she may be on of the many that think such flirting harmless. In such a case an extended discussion will cause more uneasiness.

I understand your opinion, but the OP asked whether to correct or avoid and I vote for avoid in this circumstance. I believe it is the more appropriate response to her inappropriate behavior.

 

[Island_Oak]

Jonah:

Tell her you and your wife would love to go to lunch with her and her husband… Maybe brunch after Mass.

The perfect answer in one sentence–economy and wisdom–what a combination!