Marrying a Catholic

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What are some good steps for a mix religion couple considering marriage?

If a couple is catholic and non-catholic, what concerns or challenges may come up during future?
 
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The catholic-non-catholic married couples I know eventually became non-catholic-non-catholic couples.
 
Are you the Catholic or the non Catholic party?

The first big steps imo are
  1. What does the Catholic church believe regarding marriage, children, and it’s place I a Catholic’s life?
  2. What does the Catholic him or herself believe on #1?
  3. what’s the non Catholic’s view of #1?
Edit: I’m the non Catholic in my marriage.
 
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A lot of it isn’t a matter of routine, or of where you choose to spend an hour on Sunday, but is a matter of worldview.

So the challenges come up are things like, “What is the purpose of a family”, “What is the purpose of children”, “What is the purpose of sex”, “What is the purpose of philanthropy”, and so on.
 
I am stronger in my faith 20 years into my valid, Catholic non-sacramental marriage than when i started thanks 😀.
Our life experiences are all limited and different in different areas arent they!

I feel Jesus resisted the temptation to put people in boxes.
There are always exceptions and we must be open to them.

Challenges will be the religious education of the children, your attending Church functions and whether the other partner will be involved. Also things like contraception, abortion and euthenasia.
 
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So the challenges come up are things like, “What is the purpose of a family”, “What is the purpose of children”, “What is the purpose of sex”, “What is the purpose of philanthropy”, and so on.
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Keep in mind that there’ll be differing answers and philosophies to many of these, but differing answers aren’t automatically incompatible answers. For instance, Engaged Encounter repeats the theme that “Love is a daily decision”. I kinda get what they are trying to impart but from my POV is absurd and a recipe for disaster. OTOH that resonated with my wife.
 
The best first step is to go visit with the parish priest.

There are different steps for marrying someone of another Christian faith, and different ones for marrying someone who is not a Christian.

Both require permission from the bishop. This is due to the fact that either case requires more pre-marital counseling because these marriages have additional challenges.
Please call the parish today; the spiritual guidance of your clergy is what is needed; not the well-intentioned, yet often insufficient, advice of an Internet forum.
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Deacon Christopher
 
Catholic catholic marriages are hard enough, I woukdn’t want to imagine more chaos and confusion for children.
 
I think Catholicism is harder. We have obligations to fulfill. We have a harder theology to follow. There are more expectations. I think if a person has to get up on Sunday morning and go to Mass while his/her spouse lays in bed, it gets hard to go to Mass after a while.
Just my anecdotal observations.
 
it is dishonest and dumb. why put that pressure on someone we are supposed to love. a person can know God and come to him in their time as well anyhow
 
The kids will see conflicting beliefs being lived out in their home unless the non catholic parent keeps their mouth shut and also doesn’t attend their own church.
 
Can you give more information?
Is the non-Catholic another Christian person? Are they actively going to church, or not that interested? Are they an atheist? Do they come from a back ground that may be anti-Catholic? For example, are the parents in a church that are anti-Catholic?

When I go to church and see a husband and wife, together, kneeling, praying, going up for communion together in a reverent way, their children and my children witness that. When they do the sign of the cross, when they wait in line for confession, they are showing by example what God has put in place for our salvation.

Likewise, if the children see one parent going to church on Sunday and the other parent does not, and won’t go over the years, that also shows the children that you can totally ignore the God stuff and there is no lightning bolt that comes down. There are no consequences. How bad is sin, really, if one parent never goes to church, to communion, or confession? Not that bad would be an easy conclusion. How can the practicing parent impress on children that sin is bad and God has a plan for us when the other parent can totally ignore all that?

Not only are we to gain graces for ourselves, but for the whole world! The world is desperate for God grace! Two people, married to each other, and practicing their faith, impact the world for good. They are stronger together. I wish I could give that desire to single people who are looking for their life partner! Do not settle for less than that. Your choice impacts your children and your grandchildren. God bless and guide you!
 
As a child I and my siblings went to the salvation with our mum whereas our dad went to the catholic church.

As a small child you accept it but it was confusing why we went to a different church to our dad.

Now imagine being a bit older where one parent believes in once saved always saved and the other does not, one parent believes in the intercession of the saints and the other does not; it create confusion.
 
conflicting beliefs can occur among Catholics. if we are talking strictly about religious believes, this would occur at church - maybe. maybe.
 
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