Marrying a Catholic

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We have extended family that are Christian, they pray every day, they have friends in their churches. When everyone is sitting at supper for a holiday, the grandpa makes the sign of the cross, and NO ONE does the sign of the cross. Why? They believe in the Trinity. Something so simple, so unifying for Christians. You know there’s a wall there. So it’s overlooked for ‘peace in the family’. It makes my heart ache.
 
OK…all marriage has conflict. Either the couple can deal with it or not.

You’ve kind of changed your tune from up thread…so we agree. At first it was “will cause conflict”, not it’s it may for some and not for others so we agree.
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So it’s overlooked for ‘peace in the family’. It makes my heart ache.
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Sorry, not sure if I understand. The grandfather doesn’t do the sign anymore for “peace in the family”?
 
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whereas for those who claim no religious affiliation, those who claimed to be married were only about 34%. Sad that the secular culture holds marriage in such low regard.
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Or they recognize it is something with significant ramifications if it fails and use great caution before entering.
 
That is one interpretation, but I think when you actually look at the data, that doesn’t make sense. You have only 37% of religious “nones” who are married compared to well into the 50% or greater range for most Christian denominations. You then have 37% never married, and 11% living with a partner, but not married and 11% divorced. Even the number of people in the widowed category is statistically different to a significant degree. That seems to me to be a devaluation of marriage rather than holding it to be more sacred. Compare that to the Mormons, for example, who hold a very high view of the value and permanence of marriage and you will see a stark contrast. Check the results out yourself and see what I mean.
 
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Without the religious “pressure” to marry, perhaps the risks involved become more pertinent. I for one regard getting married as the one of the riskiest things I’ve ever done. I’ve seen ppl broken by a failed marriage

Also, your stats suggest a large portion who are simply not in relationships serious enough to consider marriage, if in relationships at all. But I suppose the growing wave of singleness is their odd mine and another topic based on anecdotal data for now.
 
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Two parents believing in two different things means the child does not know which one is correct as they can’t both be.
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This means both parents may be honest and neutral by allowing the child to choose. information presented will not be in malice against spouse. would this not work?
 
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I did not regard dating or having romantic intent with non-Catholic is inherently wrong. I said that developing another person’s desire and hope with purpose to convert is wrong. there is a difference.
 
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Eh…maybe for some, I’m not someone who would say another’s relationship would be better or worse dependent upon their faith traditions (specifically when both are Christian).
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Both being Christian does not mean they have the same religion, and that difference will cause conflict. We know that those calling themselves Christians do not have the same creed. There is a long history of apostasy, heresy, and schism.
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That long history is from those who did not love themselves or others
 
I regard dating a non-Catholic as inherently problematic, for the reason that dating should be ordered towards discerning marriage, and marriage with a non-Catholic as very problematic (you actually need a dispensation to go ahead). I also view dating with no intent whatsoever to discern marriage as inherently wrong. To me, that strongly suggests that one should have the possible conversion of the non-Catholic significant other at the forefront of the mind. If it turns out that religion is a dealbreaker, then a break-up is always a possibility like it is for any number of other legitimate reasons. The breakup is never intended, but it’s an understood risk by both parties. I don’t see anything dishonest in this mindset, unless one is deliberately misleading the non-Catholic about one’s intentions. Many people are actively searching/discerning religious truth too, and having a significant other who is a strongly convicted Catholic can be a means to conversion.

It’s also not “dating to convert”, but more like “dating, and hoping to convert, as a prerequisite to possible marriage”. Slight difference.
 
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