First and foremost, Mary is the ever-obedient “handmaid of the Lord.” (Luke 1:38) By her own statement, Mary admitted that she was and would always be subservient to Jesus by virtue of his divinity.
There is, however, one way in which Mary is over Jesus or at least she was. When he became flesh, Jesus voluntarily placed himself under Mary’s authority when he became her son and made himself dependent on her. By reason of this mother-son relationship, as per the Commandment (Luke 18:20), Jesus owed filial honor to Mary throughout his lifetime, which, when he was a child, included filial obedience to Mary. (Luke 2:51)
What about now? As described in 1 Kings 2:19-20, when Solomon ascended to the earthly throne of the Davidic kingdom, as an expression of filial honor for his mother, Bathsheba, he enthroned her right next to himself, as later Davidic kings also enthroned their mothers, as “queen mother” (1 Kings 15:13), and Solomon promised not to refuse his mother’s requests. Are we to believe that Jesus was inferior to Solomon when it came to honoring his own mother? Or, did the risen Jesus, after ascending to his heavenly throne, similarly enthrone his mother, Mary, at the end of her earthly life, right next to himself as queen mother of his heavenly kingdom, as suggested in Revelation 12:1-17, and similarly promise not to refuse her requests? If this is the case, then in heaven Jesus has voluntarily place Mary over himself in a way by reason of his promise to not refuse her requests.
Since, as mentioned above, Mary is first and foremost the ever-faithful handmaid of the Lord, we can assume that any request she makes of Jesus in heaven is similar to the request he himself made as the ever-obedient Son of his heavenly Father at Gethsemane, “…if it be possible,… [insert request here]; nevertheless, not as I will, but as thou wilt.”
Kind of makes you wonder how they manage to get things done up there as they each defer to the other. Jesus: Whatever you want, Mary, you are my mother. Mary: No, Jesus; whatever YOU want, you are my Lord and my God. Jesus: But I insist, whatever you want. Mary: No, I insist, whatever YOU want.
