But Mary never had any original sin.
Neither did Jesus (a fact you choose to ignore), and he was fully man. But both Jesus and Mary existed in a world which was entered by sin. So, they didn’t live in paradise. The cave was a very cold and damp place for both Jesus and Mary when she gave birth to him. And the manger wasn’t much more comfortable. Jesus chose to come into the world under adverse conditions together with his mother because it was “necessary for the Son of Man to suffer many things and be rejected” (Luke 9:22-25). Jesus suffered and gave up his life so that our souls wouldn’t be eternally lost. He bore the punishments that sinful people deserve so that they might be saved, while denying himself his rightful exemption from suffering and death. Jesus made both eternal and temporal satisfaction to the Father for our sins. But the temporal satisfaction he made could only have been completed by his mother joining her suffering with his from the time he was born to the time he was crucified. (Colossians 1:24; cf. Luke 2:34-35).
Jesus chose Mary to be his mother because he had something necessary in mind for her in connection with his redemptive work which was more important than receiving his humanity (Luke 11:27-28). God could have formed Jesus from the clay of the earth as he had formed the first Adam. Mary’s
Fiat required that she participate in making satisfaction to God for the temporal punishments for the sins of the world. Temporal punishments refer to the personal, social, and cosmic effects of original sin. By intimately participating in the suffering of her Son and faithfully enduring the trials they shared, Mary made temporal reparation that completed the temporal reparation made by him. Christ alone made eternal satisfaction to God by his propitiatory self-sacrifice for the expiation of sin. However, his eternal satisfaction required that temporal satisfaction be made first. And this was where Mary came in as “the Mother with the Redeemer” - our co-Redemptrix. In the order of grace, Mary’s participation excelled in value far above the participation of all the saints combined, since it belonged to the hypo-static order of Christ’s incarnation. And, thus, the Mother’s association with her Son in his redemptive work on the behalf of all humanity necessitated that she should suffer together with him, but not as a punishment for sin. The suffering Jesus and Mary had to endure possessed remedial value.
We, on the other hand, are expected to offer our sufferings to God in reparation for our sins and those of others which involves making hard spiritual sacrifices (1 Peter 2:4). When we sin, we incur before God the liability of guilt (
reatus culpe) and the liability of punishment (
reatus poena). Even though we are forgiven after making a contrite act of contrition, we must still fully satisfy the punishment that is our due. Acts of penance are still required of us. If Christ’s temporal satisfaction were complete, there would be no more suffering and death in the world. So we, too, are called to complete the suffering of our Lord in our flesh if we hope to be saved. We must “present our bodies as a living sacrifice holy and acceptable to God” (Romans 12:1-2). In any event, the temporal satisfaction Mary made for only the sins of others, which completed the temporal satisfaction Jesus made, was a prerequisite for his complete eternal satisfaction. We who haven’t fully satisfied the punishment which is our due in this life, even for sins that have been forgiven, must do so in purgatory before entering heaven after having been cleansed and purified for all our forgiven sins (Revelation 21:27). Saying “I’m sorry for having offended thee” is not enough to restore the equity of justice between God and us. Compensation is still owed to God, without which His justice cannot be temporally completely satisfied. Mary made complete temporal satisfaction with her Son by offering her body as a living sacrifice together with him. Without her moral participation, he wouldn’t have suffered and died to make eternal satisfaction for all sinners who have ever lived.
Jesus must have felt acute compassion and sorrow for his mother at the wedding feast in Cana when she told him there was no more wine for the wedding guests. How little the mother knew what anguish she would have to endure beneath the cross through her solicitation. She had everything to do with her Son in his redemptive work under the shadow of the cross.
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*When the wine failed, the mother of Jesus said to him, “They have no wine.”
And Jesus said to her, “O woman, what have you to do with me? My hour has not yet come."
John 2, 3-4