As a weekly Mass attendee, I have to say that every Christmas and Easter it bugs me that I can’t get a seat at my own parish. The one I support, the one I volunteer at, and then these interlopers finally show up for once, and my family either can’t get a place to sit, or we get broken up. We stood through the entire Easter Mass this year, except when we were kneeling on the floor, and this was in the overflow Mass because the main church was full. (I am pregnant and showing, and we had to somehow keep the four children contained…the 2 and 4 year olds were fun!) Am I glad that people at least feel enough draw to give a couple hours a year to the Lord? Yes. Am I aware that my feelings are unChristian and definitely uncharitable? Yes. But I am also aware that if that many people came every week, we would have had the new church we need long ago!
My husband was thoroughly disgusted with some of the perfectly young and healthy people that would look right at fragile elderly people or obviously pregnant women and then turn around and get comfortable in their seat. I am not that big, and do not feel I need accomodation yet, but there were others there that could have used some kindness. Are people who act like that really getting anything out of Mass? They don’t even get basic courtesy, never mind Christian kindness. And P.S. they were not all faces we have never seen, some of them were regular attendees.
I think the honey vs. vinegar argument will go on forever. The PPs who have said that a few times a month is better than twice a year are right. But I also agree that priests need to have some backbone, and not be afraid to tell the truth even when it is unpopular. However, those twice a year types are also the ones who, if they started going more often and then heard a sermon that offended them, would probably start going less often again. Unfortunately, I think priests and parishes have very little power in these situations. People are going to choose whether to have God in their lives, or they are going to choose not to. The place where the parishes have power is good catechesis with children, so that they will feel they need a faith life. The reason we see so many people who sort of “feel Catholic” but don’t really make it part of their lives is decades of bad catechesis, from both church and parents, though the parents were most likely badly catechized too.
The American Church is paying the price for watering down the faith and concentrating on warm fuzzies from the 60s through the 90s. If God is just a warm fuzzy, is He really that important?