Mass for an unbaptised family member

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Hi everyone,

The title says it all. My cousin died in a car crash 3 years ago. My aunts still mourn him greatly and pray for his soul on All Soul’s Day. I was just wondering if it’s possible to have Mass said for him?

Thanks!

-steph
 
Absolutely.

When requesting Masses for the deceased, no one will ever ask you whether or not the deceased was baptized. At least, I hope no one does.
 
The interesting part is that because of the Missal at one point the priest will mention the name of the person and he will say something like “and (name here) was baptized in Christ …”

That happened to me when I asked for a Mass for a friend of mine that was not baptized. When I heard those words I realized that something was not right. Afterwards I asked my pastor and he said that I did not do anything bad and that asking for a Mass could not have hurt, but he did not went into the details because he had to get ready for the following Mass.

I would encourage you to talk to the priest before the Mass and let him know the details.
 
You certainly can. And it’s nice to do it near the anniversary of his/her death at the parish his family goes to. Sometimes a little stipend of a few dollars is requested.

During our liturgy in our parish there is no mention of whether these folks are baptised or not - just that they have gone to their eternal rest.
 
ltbpoe43 said:
During our liturgy in our parish there is no mention of whether these folks are baptized or not - just that they have gone to their eternal rest.
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That is interesting! Now I have to go back to my pastor and really bug him on what the disconnect is about.

On the other side, I better take a peek at the GIRM and other documents before looking like a know it all idiot!:o
 
az_4_faith said:
Absolutely.

When requesting Masses for the deceased, no one will ever ask you whether or not the deceased was baptized. At least, I hope no one does.
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They do ask for Baptised name. 🙂 However, I wouldn’t think there is any problem for having the mass for stephanut’s cousin.
 
water said:
They do ask for Baptised name. 🙂 However, I wouldn’t think there is any problem for having the mass for stephanut’s cousin.
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Interesting. That’s never happened in my neck o’ the woods. And I’ve been requesting Masses for a long time. I just give 'em a list of the names with my money.
 
There is no need for the priest even to mention the name of the person for whom the Mass is being offered, (or their baptismal status.)
 
When I was in high school, there was a terrible car accident that claimed the lives of three of my fellow students. One of the boys was Catholic, the other two were Lutheran (of different Synods as well). Every year, on the Sunday closest to the anniversary of the accident, the Catholic’s pastor always prays for all three of the boys during the Eucharistic Prayer. The accident was some fifteen years ago, and Father never fails to pray for all three of them.
 
HI,
The priest has the option of mentioning the name of the deceased in the Eucharist Prayers - depending on which one they are using and if they include the optional section on ‘masses for the deceased’. In our parish the priests do not do this, they do include their name in the General Intercessions.
 
Thanks alot everyone. That helped, and was very reassuring. =)
 
stephanut said:
Hi everyone,

The title says it all. My cousin died in a car crash 3 years ago. My aunts still mourn him greatly and pray for his soul on All Soul’s Day. I was just wondering if it’s possible to have Mass said for him?

Thanks!

-steph
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You can have a Mass said for anyone, baptised, unbaptised, believers, other religions and athiests.
Periodically I have a Mass said for my friend’s dead protestant brother and mother, and for another friend’s dead buddhist father.
 
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