Mass for loved ones

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Hi! I know I should just call my church office or ask my sponsor but was wondering - what is the general procedure for having a mass said for a loved one/anyone - I was thinking of doing it for my son (he’s 9 so there again not sure if appropriate -would it be okay to honor my sponsor that way also?) He and I will be received Easter 2009 so would be after that. We belong to a large congregation so I’m thinking I need to plan ahead. My RCIA sponsor mentioned getting a mass card for her sister-in-law that she needed to send which got me thinking but forgot to ask! Thanks for any advice! 😊
 
csg1976 said:
Hi! I know I should just call my church office or ask my sponsor but was wondering - what is the general procedure for having a mass said for a loved one/anyone - I was thinking of doing it for my son (he’s 9 so there again not sure if appropriate -would it be okay to honor my sponsor that way also?) He and I will be received Easter 2009 so would be after that. We belong to a large congregation so I’m thinking I need to plan ahead. My RCIA sponsor mentioned getting a mass card for her sister-in-law that she needed to send which got me thinking but forgot to ask! Thanks for any advice! 😊
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Having a loved one remembered at a Mass is a perfect gift for anyone, alive or deceased. You call your church office and let them know what you want, how many you want, etc… And you could do it now or later or both. Everyone needs prayers and the Mass is the best prayer around. I’m sure your sponsor would appreciate the thought and the act. I request Mass intentions all the time for everyone I know for many different occasions, birthday, anniversary, etc…

Go for it:thumbsup: Your Pastor and other Priests appreciate it too.
 
It was my understanding that Mass intentions were for the deceased. Is that incorrect? If Mass intentions could be made for “anything” then it could become practically impossible to have a Mass said in any timely manner.:confused:
 
Timothysis said:
It was my understanding that Mass intentions were for the deceased. Is that incorrect? If Mass intentions could be made for “anything” then it could become practically impossible to have a Mass said in any timely manner.:confused:
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While a lot of the Masses we see offered are for the deceased, a Mass can be offered for practically anyone. I know a guy who offers Masses for all his relatives at birthdays, anniversaries, etc.

I’m not sure what you mean by timely manner. IIRC, we aren’t supposed to accept more Masses than we can acquit in a year. Often when parishes have too many stipends they send them to the Missions to have the Masses celebrated there.
 
Phemie said:
I’m not sure what you mean by timely manner.
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I mean, having a Mass said not long after a person dies. When I arranged to have Masses said for my dad after he passed away I was surprised when I saw that they were stretched out for a year after his death. I thought they were a little more “timely.” I guess it’s true, you do learn something everyday.🙂
 
csg1976 said:
Hi! I know I should just call my church office or ask my sponsor but was wondering - what is the general procedure for having a mass said for a loved one/anyone - I was thinking of doing it for my son (he’s 9 so there again not sure if appropriate -would it be okay to honor my sponsor that way also?) He and I will be received Easter 2009 so would be after that. We belong to a large congregation so I’m thinking I need to plan ahead. My RCIA sponsor mentioned getting a mass card for her sister-in-law that she needed to send which got me thinking but forgot to ask! Thanks for any advice! 😊
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I would consult the Code of Canon Law first then approach your parish priest.
 
Timothysis said:
I mean, having a Mass said not long after a person dies. When I arranged to have Masses said for my dad after he passed away I was surprised when I saw that they were stretched out for a year after his death. I thought they were a little more “timely.” I guess it’s true, you do learn something everyday.🙂
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When you see Masses “said” for a person stretched out for a year or more, keep in mind they are probably being scheduled that way. After my mother pased away, I scheduled numerous Mass intentions throughout that first year, some from me, some were gifts from others. Now, every January I have several scheduled throughout the following year and then write a check for the offering (they do not call them stipens anymore, nor do they call them paying for indulgences) all at once.
tobinatorstark said:
I would consult the Code of Canon Law first then approach your parish priest.
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It would be a bit unrealistic to ask someone in RCIA to read the Code of Canon Law before approaching your parish priest. That is what the priest is there for and most would prefer their parisheoners bring their questions to them instead of the parisheoner frustrating themselves trying to find out WHERE in Canon Law to find such information.

Please, go to your Priest. You may also find you will get to know him better, he will know you better and it will open an additional line communication to a great source of learning, comfort, and encouragement. Never think you shouldn’t approach your priest about anything. :grouphug: :yup:
 
I often have Masses said for birthdays. This year I narrowed it down to children, Godchildren, children’s Godparents, parents and grandparents. My thinking is that maybe if Masses are said for them while they’re alive, they won’t “need” so many when they are deceased.
 
I would consult the Code of Canon Law first then approach your parish priest.

**Like any other law code, you need to know everything about it, including its interpretation and course of performance for it to do you any good.

Just ask your priest directly.**
 
bpbasilphx said:
I would consult the Code of Canon Law first then approach your parish priest.

**Like any other law code, you need to know everything about it, including its interpretation and course of performance for it to do you any good.

Just ask your priest directly.**
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Why would anyone have to consult Canon Law to go to the parish and have a mass said? It’s not complicated. You go to the parish office and tell the secretary you would like to have a mass said. She will say “announced”, meaning that the name will be mentioned at a particular mass, or “unannounced” meaning that the mass will be said privatly or sent out to retired preists to say when they say mass. You give the secretary your $15, or whatever the stipend is in your diocese, and you get a card to send to the family or person the mass is said for. Easy.
 
Thanks for the feedback everyone - appreciate it! Have a great weekend! 👍
 
Maybe dumb question, but can you have a Mass offered for a non-Catholic for their conversion?
 
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